Hard to get?

[Guest]

This is a question for the guys out there?

Do you like a girl, to play hard to get?

Does it drive you crazy, or do you hate it?

Need some help or what to do?

 

[Romanticstone]

Always different

A guy just looking to 'get some' may loose interest if there's too much talk and not enough action...(I'm waxing Toby Keith here).
But for the true romantics or those with more than purely carnal interest the chase can be exhilerating and a fantastic form of extended foreplay.

 

[sabbathstorm]

I played hard to get with my partner when I first met him. I was coming out of a long term relationship and wasn't ready to jump into anything else. He asked me out several times and I told him no. This went on for about a month until I finally said yes. We've been together since then. I think he liked the challenge

 

[schatz]

I've got no interest in the hard-to-get aspect. I believe in directness and to me it seems that if someone plays at it too much they may wind up losing what they were after in the first place. That's just me though, I'm sure that there are lots of people that enjoy the chase or the challenge.

 

[marksgirl]

I too like storm played hard to get, my now husband asked me out for over a year. He never gave up, so here we are 16 years later. Some things are worth the time.

 

[StevenWill]

No Games

Since becoming an adult, games have lost all appeal. Playing hard to get is a power game designed to produce exagerated interest in another person. Someone who begins their interaction with me by trying to be manipulative is not likely to become my best friend.

Actually being hard to get in another story all together. A smiple "not interested" will suffice.

 

[Spenser41]

I will have to agree about growning up on the game playing. I mean if a woman told me NO on going out, I sure would not continue for a year of rejections. The main reason is how do you know she will ever say yes? Does she really mean NO or does she just want me to chase her? See I have a problem with this I may say no but I may mean yes thing. That is what causes problems for men and women. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Leave the game playing for kids.

 

[marksgirl]

I meant no. I was seeing someone else. We worked together (different buldings same company) and saw each other every day. He would ask me here and there if I wanted to go out for a drink or something and I alway was nice and told him no. I meant it. He did not know I was seeing someone else, he knew I was not married. So he kept asking. After I broke up with the other guy, one day when he asked I took another look at him and said yes. Later after we were married I asked him about just the subject we are threading about and he told me "I knew what I wanted and went for it".

I was not playing a game.

 

[marksgirl]

So I have to say I sorry to my first reply, I was hard to get, not really playing hard to get. Sorry to misinform. I just want to make myself clear.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Well.. I don't believe in mind games. I've had too many cruel games played on me, and I don't appreciate it, so if a guy asks me out, I'll say yes or no, depending on the situation, or I'll say no, but suggest hanging out in a non-date setting. If I do the third option, I will tell the guy it's because I want to know more about him before I date him... seems pretty normal to me.

HOWEVER, I just LOVE a guy who is hard to get. I don't want him to be a dick about it, but I want him to make me wait, and work to get him... by the time I do get him, I'm totally stoked. This doesn't happen often, though..

 

[NoRegrets]

Well.. I don't believe in mind games.
... seems pretty normal to me.

HOWEVER, I just LOVE a guy who is hard to get. I don't want him to be a dick about it, but I want him to make me wait, and work to get him... by the time I do get him, I'm totally stoked. This doesn't happen often, though..

Vix: I'm afraid we might be twins.

This starts out as a very natural and wonderful thing. The games make things increasingly artificial until everyone is fucked up and doesn't know what to do.

I met a woman and we saw each other a few times per week. After talking a while we got something to eat with friends. Then we went off by ourselves but not really a date, just as friends. This went on for months. One night I gave her a ride home and before she got out of the car I said, "I would really like to kiss you". She smiled, nodded, and jumped on top of me. We kissed for about 3 hours and not much more. She was so moist that her wetness leaked through her clothes and into my pants. We agreed to meet the next day and I went home. We went for a walk and talked before going to my apartment for the first time. It was obvious by what was happening but neither of us was in a hurry. The last month was exquisite torture but by the time we tore our clothes off we were really hot for each other and knew each other pretty well. It was fantastic!!!

There's some hot fiction in there somewhere.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

for me, it's the tension building up not only until I can kiss him, but until I can suck on him.. honestly, I mean, kissing a guy is wonderful.. but you know that you've conquered him when he'll let you (after so long saying no, and just 'being friends') go down..

 

[NoRegrets]

I never said no. Things just developed slowly and
we liked each other more and more. As things
went on it became sort of inevitable but neither
of us acted until the right moment came along.
I sure am glad we felt the same.

 

[weathered2]

I never had much luck playing hard to get in my youth. My approach was something like a hound dog pup chasing a butterfly. When I got to college and finally found the strength and willpower to be a little more standoffish, my s/o found it attractive and, 34 years later, here we are. So, I didn't like having it done to me, but I can't argue that the dance didn't play a part in giving us time to test and develop a relationship with someone who turned out to be my soulmate.

 

[Wiggles]

I believe in playing hard to get, or meerly uninterested.

This is how I've used it.

Say I work with a very sexy guy. All the women are falling over each other to get to him (hypothetically of course) and they are all very eager. The usual case is he'll date a few of them, if he's single.

Now, I'm not a flirter and I'm not a tease. I'll try to talk to the guy as a non-sexual being, meaning, I won't flirt with him and I'm not coy towards him. I've found that guys that are used to getting what they want love a challenge. I am that challenge.

I show my displeasure with how he freely gives himself to the other women, but that's about as far as I go.

If he's not interested, I've lost nothing. If he is, then it usually progresses to the point where he'll ask me for a date or a phone number. At that point I'll discuss my dating policy which is pretty informal.

I won't say no to a date if I want one with him. My intentions are usually pretty clear at that point.

Hope that makes sense to *someone*, LoL.