Hard to cum

[cphill]

Any other guys or girls ever have a hard time getting off.imlove to give oral and get extremely turned on going down women. After we start thought I’ll get hot and will do all I can but when it’s my turn, 40% I give up from just can’t get there. Guess it’s not kinky enough? Thoughts?

 

[snide22]

i have a hard time getting off with a partner, always have...maybe its nerves? maybe its getting off on my own too much and has affected feeling? i don't know

 

[hulmule]

I love blow jobs, but if i dont get deep throated and taken to the base , then i stop and try to fuck. Spoiled by a early GF and she took my 8" like to was 2" all the time to the base and untill i came in her throat.
But went thru a phase of fucking long periods, hard as a rock and couldnt cum. Went to doctor- he laughed, well you want that or the guys who come to me and say that cant get it up or hard... Guess i took the hard and couldnt cum...

 

[MichelleD55]

I love the feel of a blow job, but only once ever got off that way and that took too long and kind of ruined the ex-wife's willingness to do any more.
I can get off fucking, but never quickly. On a rare occasion it might be only 5 minutes, but no problem going much longer.
When alone sometimes I can get there in a couple minutes, but the best is after an extended build up.

 

[xxyyxx]

Possibly desensitized by to much masturbation?

 

[cubbyfire04]

Any other guys or girls ever have a hard time getting off.imlove to give oral and get extremely turned on going down women. After we start thought I’ll get hot and will do all I can but when it’s my turn, 40% I give up from just can’t get there. Guess it’s not kinky enough? Thoughts?

Is it sudden or always been this way for you? Any new medications or stresses in your life? That's been my recent setback in the "finishing" department.

 

[MichelleD55]

Always been that way. Doesn't matter if I've haven't gotten off for weeks, days, or hours.

 

[Mtnmike]

Same with me, one reason the wife quit having sex, hated marathon sessions !!!!

 

[bill4672a]

I've always had difficulty reaching climax, and now, with various health issues, it is nearly impossible. I'm lucky if I manage once a month

 

[bill4672a]

Hmm. I usually have a problem cumming the first few times with a new partner. Just plain nervousness, performance anxiety, etc. Once I get to know him a little it gets easier. Right or wrong, this is just one reason that casual sex/one night stands have never appealed to me - it/they just don't seem remotely fun to me.

I have an easier time if I have an emotional connection with the person, but these days, not even that helps much

 

[Erosfan]

My late wife was a master at making me cum. She could take me to the edge over and over or she could get me off in a minute or two. It was her choice. One time, she kept me on edge a bit too long and there was no way I could cum. She never pushed me that far again. Good memories.

 

[cphill]

Possibly desensitized by to much masturbation?

No I’m thinking my partner is just not getting me excited enough. No fun when all the work is done by me.

 

[cphill]

Hmm. I usually have a problem cumming the first few times with a new partner. Just plain nervousness, performance anxiety, etc. Once I get to know him a little it gets easier. Right or wrong, this is just one reason that casual sex/one night stands have never appealed to me - it/they just don't seem remotely fun to me.

I’m not a one night stand guy either. And unfortunately my first oral experience was a sexual predator so I’ve came from oral 2 times in my life the first with the guy and one time 25 years later with a friend that really really knew what she was doing. So there’s that

 

[cphill]

Is it sudden or always been this way for you? Any new medications or stresses in your life? That's been my recent setback in the "finishing" department.

It’s recent, same woman just have to really work to exhaustion. Could be we split up and I’m a single dad now. So stress galore along with 1 income and 3 times the rent.

 

[nfsunbum]

Difficulty cumming coincided for me about the time I began using pills to help with my erection. The condition came on in phases and over a few years; from increasing stamina in a good way to eventually, no matter what the approach was, ejaculating and orgasm were extremely hard to come by. Fantastic hard on that could go and go and go, but no more closing the deal. Not ideal, but still fun. Hoping to correct things, enter more masturbating, more porn and toys. Then raunchier porn, more jacking off and more powerful toys, all complicating the matter even more I'm sure. I will say I've enjoyed jacking off, a lot, since I was little. I liked porn too but porn from a magazine and porn from the internet are two different beasts entirely. Nowadays it's with a combination of pills, porn and powerful toys that get me over the top. It's never a sure thing though. Whatever the initial problem, I'm sure the desensitizing nature of increasingly graphic porn and the use of more powerful toys have been counterproductive in correcting the issue.

 

[Bbl87]

I have lately for a combination of reasons...

-As far as oral, it's usually half-hearted and feels like she's doing it as a job. Most recently she actually seemed more into it on one night, actually told me to put my cock in her mouth (her words!) while I fucked her with a dildo but things got a little... toothy? Probably because of my girth, that tends to happen if she doesn't have the ideal angle. Can only open your mouth so wide, I guess. I didn't end up finishing that night. I'll never tell her this, but she's not that great at oral generally, mostly because of the lack of enthusiasm. But, not-great oral is still better than none. An ex did kind of ruin me on oral, she was a BJ QUEEN so that bar was set kind of high.

-Had a vasectomy a few weeks ago, and until I'm confirmed sterile we have to continue with condoms. I've gone WAY too long without condoms, and struggle to stay hard (or enjoy it if I can stay hard) when I'm using one, so we've just about given up on penetrarive sex for the moment, she's too paranoid about getting pregnant again. She hates the feeling of a condom too, but paranoia trumps sensation.

-She's often not that into it even if I do coax her into it. When I can tell she's not really enjoying it, I can't really build myself up to an orgasm. I'm 100% a giver when it comes to sex, and if my partner isn't enjoying themselves I can't really either.

 

[Ingenue844]

How quick and hard I cum seems to be related to

How much I like my partner
Position (easiest to cum while riding)
Having a tiny bit of alcohol to make me less nervous but not drunk enough to be sick or lazy.

 

[Bbl87]

How quick and hard I cum seems to be related to

How much I like my partner
Position (easiest to cum while riding)
Having a tiny bit of alcohol to make me less nervous but not drunk enough to be sick or lazy.

2 and 3 seem to be big ones for my wife. Her on top is about the only way she'll cum during actual sex. It HAS happened in other positions, just not often. For better or worse, she has someone in me who won't give up unless she tells me to. I think it's probably been a year or two since she didn't finish, which I take some pride in.

 

[Wonderer67]

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Any other guys or girls ever have a hard time getting off.imlove to give oral and get extremely turned on going down women. After we start thought I’ll get hot and will do all I can but when it’s my turn, 40% I give up from just can’t get there. Guess it’s not kinky enough? Thoughts?

I also have a hard time cumming. Before I even knew what edging was, I would take myself to the edge, back off, edge some more (rinse and repeat). I’m talking like in the late 70s when I first started jerking off so guess my body is just used to taking a while. (Just a guess)!

As a result, it usually takes me a while to cum. Always takes a while with a new lover, and also hard to get me to cum with a blowjob.

The good news is that my wife and I practice orgasm control and when she wants to get fucked, even if it’s been weeks between my orgasms, I can still hold out for a long time. This is good, because it gives her plenty of pleasure, while I am denied mine.

 

[newhere2learn]

Any other guys or girls ever have a hard time getting off.imlove to give oral and get extremely turned on going down women. After we start thought I’ll get hot and will do all I can but when it’s my turn, 40% I give up from just can’t get there. Guess it’s not kinky enough? Thoughts?

My cock is uncut. I've found over the years it can vary wildly with different pussy types as to how quick I cum.

Some I can be there all night, and I'll just get sore. Others? Few strokes and I'm in heaven.

GF is very tight, and for the first year or so I barely ever came with her, as she is so tight. It's taken some playing around with extended foreplay, positions and so on before I now cum 99% of the time.