Happy Whatever-you-want-to-call-it Day.....
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Cheyenne
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Excellent suggestion. Listen to your hubby.
And here's an unasked for suggestion for you:
If you keep running into the same response to your posts over and over- i.e. people telling you that you come across as a bitch on the board, do you think just maybe they might be telling you the truth? They're telling you that the common perception of you is that you come across as bitchy- you can't argue with their perception. You can say you don't intend to sound bitchy, but you can't deny that is their perception. Does the same thing happen to you in RL? I'm guessing it does, but I don't know that.
I haven't read every post you've ever made, but I don't remember anyone telling you that you ARE a bitch, just that your posts come across as bitchy. There is a difference. Take it for what it is worth- you can choose to listen to the crowd, or not. I don't think that everyone on the board misunderstands your posts though, Siren. I do think your posts aren't coming across as you intend them to. You intend to be helpful, but come across as bitchy.
Also, you can't hand out unasked for advice like it is the gospel according to Siren and expect everyone to jump up and down, overjoyed that you blessed us with your wisdom. Some people will disagree with you. With your actual message, and not just your tone. It just happens to be worse when someone disagrees with both your message AND your tone. You seem to just go psycho at that point. You invite people to flame you, say you don't care what people think about you. But you DO care or you wouldn't get so upset when they tell you what they think.
Here's another unasked for suggestion. It came up on another thread a few days ago. Learning to recognize the difference between when someone wants to just be listened to and when they actually want your advice is difficult for some of us. You often seem to be stuck in the "they must want my advice" category. That's a safe assumption on the "help" board, but not necessarily on the "general" board. When you confuse the two, and offer unasked for advice, you piss people off. Like I am probably doing to you with this thread of unasked for advice right now. See what I mean?
Enjoy your time away from the board. Come back refreshed and hopefully willing to consider the possibility that everyone else isn't wrong, you're just missing what they are trying to tell you.
And here's an unasked for suggestion for you:
If you keep running into the same response to your posts over and over- i.e. people telling you that you come across as a bitch on the board, do you think just maybe they might be telling you the truth? They're telling you that the common perception of you is that you come across as bitchy- you can't argue with their perception. You can say you don't intend to sound bitchy, but you can't deny that is their perception. Does the same thing happen to you in RL? I'm guessing it does, but I don't know that.
I haven't read every post you've ever made, but I don't remember anyone telling you that you ARE a bitch, just that your posts come across as bitchy. There is a difference. Take it for what it is worth- you can choose to listen to the crowd, or not. I don't think that everyone on the board misunderstands your posts though, Siren. I do think your posts aren't coming across as you intend them to. You intend to be helpful, but come across as bitchy.
Also, you can't hand out unasked for advice like it is the gospel according to Siren and expect everyone to jump up and down, overjoyed that you blessed us with your wisdom. Some people will disagree with you. With your actual message, and not just your tone. It just happens to be worse when someone disagrees with both your message AND your tone. You seem to just go psycho at that point. You invite people to flame you, say you don't care what people think about you. But you DO care or you wouldn't get so upset when they tell you what they think.
Here's another unasked for suggestion. It came up on another thread a few days ago. Learning to recognize the difference between when someone wants to just be listened to and when they actually want your advice is difficult for some of us. You often seem to be stuck in the "they must want my advice" category. That's a safe assumption on the "help" board, but not necessarily on the "general" board. When you confuse the two, and offer unasked for advice, you piss people off. Like I am probably doing to you with this thread of unasked for advice right now. See what I mean?
Enjoy your time away from the board. Come back refreshed and hopefully willing to consider the possibility that everyone else isn't wrong, you're just missing what they are trying to tell you.
Whispersecret
Clandestine Sex-pressionist
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Sorry to hear you're taking a break, but I completely understand needing one. I've been trying to reduce my hours here too, just because I spend too much time here.
For the record, I like you, Siren. I hope you know that. I appreciate the presence of someone who sees eye to eye with me on many issues.
Come back soon.
(Were you looking for sympathy with this thread, drama queen? <winks, laughing> Gotcha. LOL)
For the record, I like you, Siren. I hope you know that. I appreciate the presence of someone who sees eye to eye with me on many issues.
Come back soon.
(Were you looking for sympathy with this thread, drama queen? <winks, laughing> Gotcha. LOL)
