happy (submissive) holidays!

[laurasunshinegal]

as i was scrubbing something off the floor this morning, i had a thought: the holidays are the most submissive time of year! extra attention on keeping the house perfect, the kids prim and proper, getting the meals just right, decorations set up perfectly... it can be a maddening, frustrating, difficult time of year! but... just like accepting your submissive side, it is tremendously worth it.

happy holidays!!

 

[Oubliette123]

yes! I never thought of it like that tbh but when I think of Christmas I think of all the wonderful things I can do (bake among other things) for my PYL (and of course our family).

Tonight I decided to cook a special meal for my PYL, for no reason just because I can, and I am positively buzzing with excitement that I can devote the whole evening to pleasing him, and him alone (kids to be banished with dvd's and ben and jerry's lol).

 

[MeekMe]

I gave this a little bit of thought. Every year it gets busier so I find myself doing a lot of extra work. This year I think even more is happening. Mister forewarned me of an office Christmas party that I'll have to attend. （−＿−; )

I'm happy to go with him, but I'm very happy being at home all alone. Oh comfy home that I work so hard to keep comfy... *lovingly cuddles home*

Hm, I guess I should be putting together all the decorations soon instead of playing on this board so much. (^_−)−☆

 

[Loverskitten]

Or... Or you can dominate the fuck out of this (turned commercial and ugly) season and not buy shit for people who don't need it with money you don't have to spend. Instead, spend time with your family and friends relaxing and enjoying each other.




This season is getting worse and worse, now I say, "don't get me anything, I'm not getting you anything, let's______ together instead" (get pedicures and bring champagne, do lunch, do happy hour, see a movie, etc) I'm done with the mall.

 

[Oubliette123]

Yup We celebrate a pagan Christmas (Yule) and not the traditional commercialised overindulgence day. I think that's why the lead up with the baking and organising is so important to me, doing things together with the family

 

[knot_sweet]

I'm sort of lucky...my parents have never been much for the commercial stuff at christmas. We have an all day, open door, buffet breakfast and my mum loves to decorate the house.

But my Brother's in-laws...sheeeeit...no matter how many times I've told my S.I.L 'no presents' she just blatantly ignores me. Ugh.

The whole lot of them turn it in to some kind of competition to see who can put on the best spread, buy the most presents etc etc etc...

Makes my back teeth grind.

I'm not looking forward to it this year. Made worse by the fact that this is the first christmas without Grandma. Mum is going to be a bit emotional and on a short temper leash (her tolerance level is never very high). This will not be helped by the fact that the Brother's in-laws will forget all about this and be their usual selfish, demanding selves.

Waiting for the massive arguments, door slamming and general holy hell that will be raised.

Yuck.

 

[KoPilot]

I'm "pagan" also (not really, but it's useful shorthand for outsiders), and I fucking love the dark half of the year. Lots and lots of paying attention to what the land is doing because the Celtic/Norse wheel means fuck-all in So Cal, lots of cooking, lots of weird feast-days and customs I ain't even gonna list here. I feel bad for those of you who only have Xmas to look forward to in the winter. Things are so much more exciting when you know the wild hunt is comin' through.

That said, I freaking love Xmas. Decorations, eggnog, gift wrapping and gift-giving (because that pair of pants you wanted feels so much better to get from someone else than going to the mall alone and buying it for yourself for no reason other than "meh, it's payday").

 

[knot_sweet]

I'm "pagan" also (not really, but it's useful shorthand for outsiders), and I fucking love the dark half of the year. Lots and lots of paying attention to what the land is doing because the Celtic/Norse wheel means fuck-all in So Cal, lots of cooking, lots of weird feast-days and customs I ain't even gonna list here. I feel bad for those of you who only have Xmas to look forward to in the winter. Things are so much more exciting when you know the wild hunt is comin' through.

That said, I freaking love Xmas. Decorations, eggnog, gift wrapping and gift-giving (because that pair of pants you wanted feels so much better to get from someone else than going to the mall alone and buying it for yourself for no reason other than "meh, it's payday").

Just a little jealous right now... your holiday sounds like so much more fun than mine.

Can I run away to your place? Pretty Please?

 

[KoPilot]

Just a little jealous right now... your holiday sounds like so much more fun than mine.

Can I run away to your place? Pretty Please?

I've got an acquaintance who's organizing a Perchtenlauf in Eugene-- you dress up in your scariest, weirdest monster costumes and parade down the street after the solstice, making a racket to scare the dark away and usher in the Spring. I guess these and other similar mumming traditions are making a comeback. I freakin' love it.

I wish I could go, or that such a thing would happen down here. Too many woo-types in So Cal, though. And not to mention that winter is actually when everything comes back to life 'round here. It would make more sense to scare the -summer- away so we could get some damn rain, lol.

But yeah, sure! Come on by, we'll have midnight margaritas and dance naked under the full moon. ;P

 

[knot_sweet]

I've got an acquaintance who's organizing a Perchtenlauf in Eugene-- you dress up in your scariest, weirdest monster costumes and parade down the street after the solstice, making a racket to scare the dark away and usher in the Spring. I guess these and other similar mumming traditions are making a comeback. I freakin' love it.

I wish I could go, or that such a thing would happen down here. Too many woo-types in So Cal, though. And not to mention that winter is actually when everything comes back to life 'round here. It would make more sense to scare the -summer- away so we could get some damn rain, lol.

But yeah, sure! Come on by, we'll have midnight margaritas and dance naked under the full moon. ;P

It's summer and a sort of tropical climate here...it usually rains at Christmas. But where my folks live it's dry as the Sahara, so totally sympathise with the 'fuck off summer' idea.

The Perchtenlauf sounds freak'n awesome.

Normally I'd veto the 'dancing naked' bit, but if you're getting me tequila drunk, I'm not going to care.

 

[KoPilot]

It's summer and a sort of tropical climate here...it usually rains at Christmas. But where my folks live it's dry as the Sahara, so totally sympathise with the 'fuck off summer' idea.

The Perchtenlauf sounds freak'n awesome.

Normally I'd veto the 'dancing naked' bit, but if you're getting me tequila drunk, I'm not going to care.

Deal. ;B

If anyone's looking for a new holiday tradition, make some of this this year and stay up all night on the solstice with a candle/bonfire going and do shots when the sun finally comes up.

 

[laurasunshinegal]

I am positively buzzing with excitement that I can devote the whole evening to pleasing him, and him alone (kids to be banished with dvd's and ben and jerry's lol).

lol!!!! we all have those moments, but the phrase "kids to be banished with dvds and ben and jerrys" is awesome!!!!

Mister forewarned me of an office Christmas party that I'll have to attend. （−＿−; )

UGH... i hate those! i always feel so out of place... imperfectly dressed, a stranger, not sure what to say... yikes!

 

[desertslave]

Deal. ;B

If anyone's looking for a new holiday tradition, make some of this this year and stay up all night on the solstice with a candle/bonfire going and do shots when the sun finally comes up.

That sounds delicious!

This year the term "Holidaze" is ringing all too true around here. My Mom is dying from cancer so I'm back & forth across country as caregiver every 4th week (right after Thanksgiving this time), we have no clue what we're doing for Christmas, I'm still gimpy after shoulder surgery and the only thing I really give a crap about is getting the most out of my physical therapy sessions and whether Mom is eating enough. I don't want to be a humbug, but I'm not feeling much about the season, either. I do plan to hug my Mom a bunch, celebrate the Solstice in my own quiet way, and maybe squeeze in a Messiah sing-along if I can find one. All other bets are off.

 

[MeekMe]

I know fucking commercial and this is the first year in over eight years I haven't worked in some kind of retail. I hate the thought of buying gifts for people without much money. Last year I crocheted gifts for family and friends. I'm much too busy for that. When Xmas takes up three months a year you really start to hate it.

This year, I want the childlike amusement I used to feel for the holiday. Nothing about presents, I just want to enjoy time with family and friends.

 

[knot_sweet]

I know fucking commercial and this is the first year in over eight years I haven't worked in some kind of retail. I hate the thought of buying gifts for people without much money. Last year I crocheted gifts for family and friends. I'm much too busy for that. When Xmas takes up three months a year you really start to hate it.

This year, I want the childlike amusement I used to feel for the holiday. Nothing about presents, I just want to enjoy time with family and friends.

Carols by candle light, and laying under a tree that you helped decorate, with just the tree lights on should help with that.

 

[Oubliette123]

I'm "pagan" also (not really, but it's useful shorthand for outsiders), and I fucking love the dark half of the year. Lots and lots of paying attention to what the land is doing because the Celtic/Norse wheel means fuck-all in So Cal, lots of cooking, lots of weird feast-days and customs I ain't even gonna list here. I feel bad for those of you who only have Xmas to look forward to in the winter. Things are so much more exciting when you know the wild hunt is comin' through.

That said, I freaking love Xmas. Decorations, eggnog, gift wrapping and gift-giving (because that pair of pants you wanted feels so much better to get from someone else than going to the mall alone and buying it for yourself for no reason other than "meh, it's payday").

Yeah I use the term loosely too, we are Romany's (not to be confused with Romanians, Irish Tinkers or new age travellers!) and our culture is basically a mix of panthesism, paganisn and wicca. I don't adhere to the beleif's strictly, but some customs I like to keep alive. The major pagan ones mean more to us than the overwritten christian ones.

For the winter solstice we will have a feast day, basically various meats cooked, layed out with other foods, mostly things I have grown, made and preserved throughout the year. Homemade wine, or if I havent made any-like this year then its local mead.

We do have a 'commercial christmas' but very low key and for the childrens sake