Happy Asexuality Awareness Week 2016 (October 23-29)

[InvincibleNoir]

Eye opening

Have a friend who once told me she was Asexual, and honestly I'd never heard of it before.

Such a crush on her too. I know she's hetero-romantic but I'm not quite her type I think (might be because I'm a huge pervert who publishes his fantasies online for strangers to enjoy)

Thanks for the information, think I'll have to get her talking on the subject.

Noir (AKA Ben)

P.S. On the subject of identity, I'm not a member of the "Bi for fun, straight for romance" union, but I am one. I for one have always admired the way LGBTQ (etc, etc, etc) movement for it's core message of inclusiveness. Apparently that makes me an ally as well as a member. There's plenty saying bisexuals shouldn't be included, but I am and I'm glad to have been accepted.

 

[nerfhearder]

because todd.

he's asexual.

also, i just kinda like that show.

It's a fun show. Not great but fun.

 

[kcRollins]

lmao...this is such a great thread. it's surprising how little is known about asexuality. I told someone here I was asexual and they thought it meant I had both female and male genitalia. I set them straight, of course.

I didn't even know we had our own week. What are we supposed to do? Is there a parade or sumfin?

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I still fail to see why anyone would care.

It is telling to see that in the comics posted, the artist is arguing with herself. Pretty solid evidence that even the artist knows that no one cares about what s/he does or does not do. Drawing a comic in which you debate yourself about your own insecurities and project them on the world around you means you need therapy. It doesn't mean the rest of us need to understand you. You don't even understand yourself.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

lmao...this is such a great thread. it's surprising how little is known about asexuality. I told someone here I was asexual and they thought it meant I had both female and male genitalia. I set them straight, of course.

I didn't even know we had our own week. What are we supposed to do? Is there a parade or sumfin?

Heh. I don't think it's going that deep, but I just see a subset of people in this facet of sexuality that want to be recognized and acknowledged. The flag is cool, tho. Up until now I had no idea what the colors signify.

You could prolly expect to see the inclusion of asexuality representation in general LGBT celebrations, though.

I still fail to see why anyone would care.

Well, if you were asexual, you probably would care. The world is pretty much set up for sexuals like you and me. It's easy for us. Society caters to and enables being sexual. We don't actually have to care about asexuality and it shows in our society. More to the point, we didn't even see this side of sexuality until people who are actually about that life started talking. Which is a good thing because there is no one size fits all to people's lives and we are not binary creatures.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Well, if you were asexual, you probably would care. The world is pretty much set up for sexuals like you and me. It's easy for us. Society caters to and enables being sexual. We don't actually have to care about asexuality and it shows in our society. More to the point, we didn't even see this side of sexuality until people who are actually about that life started talking. Which is a good thing because there is no one size fits all to people's lives and we are not binary creatures.

No I doubt I would care. You make an assumption that everything is peachy keen and rosy for me, that all of who I am is accepted by society, downright celebrated at times. Wholly accepted.

That is absolutely false.

There are a decent number of things FAR more challenging than not wanting to fuck that I live with on a daily basis. I live with them on my own. Because I understand that no one cares. And I don't have to draw a comic of me debating myself (good thing tho, I can't draw for shit) to promote myself in order to get through it.

Everyone already knows that some people don't have sex. This isn't a revelation.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

No I doubt I would care. You make an assumption that everything is peachy keen and rosy for me, that all of who I am is accepted by society, downright celebrated at times. Wholly accepted.

That is absolutely false.

There are a decent number of things FAR more challenging than not wanting to fuck that I live with on a daily basis. I live with them on my own. Because I understand that no one cares. And I don't have to draw a comic of me debating myself (good thing tho, I can't draw for shit) to promote myself in order to get through it.

Everyone already knows that some people don't have sex. This isn't a revelation.

These are people who are asexual. They are speaking up. Some who are creative do it through comics or graphics or film or whatever visual medium available. Others write. Telling stories that haven't been told. That's a good thing.

It doesn't have to matter to you and you don't have to care. You don't have to "get it." For those who are asexual, they do care, they do get it and that matters to them. They have the right to give voice to their identity and represent themselves. That's a good thing.

 

[Conager]

If someone is both asexual and aromantic I have to agree I can't really see what the problem is it isn't like for the most part anyone really cares that you're not getting any if you don't want any.

the place I see problems arising is when someone who is asexual finds himself in some sort of romantic relationship with someone who is sexual. I guess that might work for some couples somewhere but I can't imagine how.

my only point of reference is being sexual so course I can't see the asexuals side except for this perspective of an outsider. But as a sexual being I can't imagine being in a relationship where sexuality was not on the table at all. I don't think I'd even have much interest in and more or less asexual person who was interested in me and willing but not interested in sex with me.

I've often said that mismatched libidos are God's cruelest joke.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

These are people who are asexual. They are speaking up. Some who are creative do it through comics or graphics or film or whatever visual medium available. Others write. Telling stories that haven't been told. That's a good thing.

It doesn't have to matter to you and you don't have to care. You don't have to "get it." For those who are asexual, they do care, they do get it and that matters to them. They have the right to give voice to their identity and represent themselves. That's a good thing.

I never said they don't "have the right" to voice themselves. I just said no one cares.

I note you skipped over my opening up about myself and my own trial and tribulations... but that doesn't surprise me. Of course you cut that out of quoting me. Why? You don't care. I do not matter to you. You don't care about my identity.

And that's ok with me.

 

[kcRollins]

Heh. I don't think it's going that deep, but I just see a subset of people in this facet of sexuality that want to be recognized and acknowledged. The flag is cool, tho. Up until now I had no idea what the colors signify.

You could prolly expect to see the inclusion of asexuality representation in general LGBT celebrations, though.

hahaha The thread is funny and I thought it was meant in jest. I saw the humor in it, but then I see the humor in the worse scenarios. I never take life seriously, after all I'm not gonna get out of it alive. Anyway, there's a parade for everything so, why not?

~HUGS for LadyFunkenstein

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I never said they don't "have the right" to voice themselves. I just said no one cares.

Obviously people do care, otherwise there wouldn't be a week and people involved with that life wouldn't be speaking out on it.

You don't care about it and as I said, that's okay.

I note you skipped over my opening up about myself and my own trial and tribulations... but that doesn't surprise me. Of course you cut that out of quoting me. Why? You don't care. I do not matter to you. You don't care about my identity.

And that's ok with me.

I bypassed all that because you assigned a position to me that I never introduced. Plus it was irrelevant to the main topic that I'm keeping on track.

Funk, straight up, I don't wanna get into it with you. You got your opinion, fine. I heard you. You got your personal feels on this for some reason and taking it into another tangent which I don't know where it's coming from, fine. But that's all on you. It ain't got shit to do with me supposedly not caring about you, which I do, even if I disagree with you. But all this extra stuff I didn't ask for, I'm not about that. And you know that. My name is Bennett and I ain't in it.

 

[Bookishleigh]

If someone is both asexual and aromantic I have to agree I can't really see what the problem is it isn't like for the most part anyone really cares that you're not getting any if you don't want any.

the place I see problems arising is when someone who is asexual finds himself in some sort of romantic relationship with someone who is sexual. I guess that might work for some couples somewhere but I can't imagine how.

my only point of reference is being sexual so course I can't see the asexuals side except for this perspective of an outsider. But as a sexual being I can't imagine being in a relationship where sexuality was not on the table at all. I don't think I'd even have much interest in and more or less asexual person who was interested in me and willing but not interested in sex with me.

I've often said that mismatched libidos are God's cruelest joke.

Married that nightmare. He feigned a libido until basically the ring was on the finger. He finally admitted a couple years into the marriage (and after many arguments) that he has always been that way. Many people felt I was a bitch for walking, but I'm much happier now.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Obviously people do care, otherwise there wouldn't be a week and people involved with that life wouldn't be speaking out on it.

You don't care about it and as I said, that's okay.



I bypassed all that because you assigned a position to me that I never introduced. Plus it was irrelevant to the main topic that I'm keeping on track.

Funk, straight up, I don't wanna get into it with you. You got your opinion, fine. I heard you. You got your personal feels on this for some reason and taking it into another tangent which I don't know where it's coming from, fine. But that's all on you. It ain't got shit to do with me supposedly not caring about you, which I do, even if I disagree with you. But all this extra stuff I didn't ask for, I'm not about that. And you know that. My name is Bennett and I ain't in it.

Tangent dropped.

 

[stickygirl]

Married that nightmare. He feigned a libido until basically the ring was on the finger. He finally admitted a couple years into the marriage (and after many arguments) that he has always been that way. Many people felt I was a bitch for walking, but I'm much happier now.

That's exactly it - he was hiding his lack of libido because he knew it was 'wrong' - no wonder you walked I'm completely averse to dating sites, but if there were a checkbox that described your sexuality L/G/B/A... then there would be less heartache.
I'm not exactly asexual, but my libido is patchy. If I was with someone that I felt a strong emotional attachment towards then I go totally nuts having sex with them. As it happens, that's described as aromantic *shrug* I'm not claiming the badge because on the GB badge-wearers=victim but I'm know I'm not alone because I've read articles with 'aromantic' in the title.

 

[smoothg103rd]

The fuck is a Asexual? You either male or female. Straight or gay. There is nothing else.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

From ace artist Alice Oseman:

http://68.media.tumblr.com/93d56b71ae2f69044b56fa83277d5cbf/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo7_500.png http://67.media.tumblr.com/1e0d9ce17e20ac83517b73cb1cf06b18/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo4_500.png

http://67.media.tumblr.com/0d8bd43f48cd47a2a6fa572e4a4f0142/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo2_500.png http://67.media.tumblr.com/33934aa5dfe3ca512af75c29b04554db/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo5_500.png

http://68.media.tumblr.com/6c468680cb3997e24d3f1944ec94d4e0/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo1_500.png http://68.media.tumblr.com/9effb403757dda66c812f85d0a346a73/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo3_500.png

http://68.media.tumblr.com/b7fe4445fc7bdba68a13d1e16de553a5/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo6_500.png

http://spacezeros.tumblr.com/post/152343687775/a-short-and-simple-comic-about-the-very-basics-of

 

[smoothg103rd]

From ace artist Alice Oseman:

http://68.media.tumblr.com/93d56b71ae2f69044b56fa83277d5cbf/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo7_500.png http://67.media.tumblr.com/1e0d9ce17e20ac83517b73cb1cf06b18/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo4_500.png

http://67.media.tumblr.com/0d8bd43f48cd47a2a6fa572e4a4f0142/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo2_500.png http://67.media.tumblr.com/33934aa5dfe3ca512af75c29b04554db/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo5_500.png

http://68.media.tumblr.com/6c468680cb3997e24d3f1944ec94d4e0/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo1_500.png http://68.media.tumblr.com/9effb403757dda66c812f85d0a346a73/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo3_500.png

http://68.media.tumblr.com/b7fe4445fc7bdba68a13d1e16de553a5/tumblr_ofo2042oUv1tjvbzjo6_500.png

http://spacezeros.tumblr.com/post/152343687775/a-short-and-simple-comic-about-the-very-basics-of

Sounds like a bunch of bullshit.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Hope all you Aces out there enjoyed your week. Thanx for hipping something to me that I wasn't fully in the know about. Knowledge and understanding is always king. You rock.

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