happily married...sexually frustrated

[Guest]

ive been married for 4 years now...and sex has dwindled awayto nile.. ive thought about an affair but i feel to guilty about it..so ive turned to cyber world and do the live cam chat thing now ...i have become a voyuer and an exibitionist..i love to show...i jerk off 2 to 3 times daily but i dont seem to ever get satisfied :-(...we used to have great sex but now it is once a week to a month and then it only lasts 15 to 20 minutes......im frustrated would love to show some personal pics im not that big just average size, and love being nakid ......i was just thinkin about if i could find some one or couple in the central iowa region or anywhere else that might want to do some personal email or even meet for a discrete encounter i am 27 200# white male.....im looking forward for your help

jammer

 

[Guest]

Happily married,

I know where you are coming from. My wife and I married 10 years ago, and for the first couple of years sex was great. Since then, our lovemaking has dwindled to nil (once every month). I too have gone down the road to find fulfillment, reading sex stories, cyber slutting, etc. I have tried just about everything. What I’m going to tell you may turn you off. I just hope that you will read all of this before you make that decision. I’m a Christian, not a bible thumper or a priest. I was a Christian before I started looking for sexual fulfillment. I have almost had an affair, but also felt guilty. From what I have read about you, you still love your wife; you just want a lot more physical contact with her! Question, have you talked to her about your desires in a calmly manor? You need to open the lines of communications. TALK with her! Find out what she is missing or wants. It may take some time, but if you are willing, she can become the lover of your life.

 

[HotnMature]

where would one send email?

 

[KnightWing]

Wow, there are that many of us in this boat!

I am experiencing the same difficulties with my wife, however we have talked about it, she has seen someone else, and tells me its no big deal. Sex is not that important, it just happens. She still loves me (so she says) and wants to be here. We are mid 40's and the kids are all grown and in college or on their own. We have been living together for 11 years, married for the past 5 years. She still wants to see this other man and I am now looking for ways to satisfy my cravings. Sex once a week is not enough for me. Just looking for that something extra....
You can e-mail me HotNMature...

 

[HotnMature]

Beware this is going to be long winded

I'm going to give you a woman's point of view on this subject. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and have been together for 18, we have 4 kids. Now that you have that, you'll I know what I am talking about.

I think Eddie Murphy put it best in one of his stand up shows. If you were stuck on a desserted island, and found a package of crackers, the first time you ate one it would be the most delicious cracker in the world a ritz , but if you keep eating them every day, they would be just plain ol saltines. I think marriage is the same way, I think we get comfortable with each other, and "there's always tomorrow".

I can't speak for all women, but from what I can say personally and from what others who I know say, the same ole thing gets b-o-r-i-n-g. We tend not to "prep" ourselves like we used to, priorities change, children and driving them all over and cleaning up after them kick our butts.

Now even tho it is a great feeling to be able to just be yourself and not have to worry that your partner is going to love you no matter what you look like is a great feeling, however.... the same ole same ole gets boring real fast.

And yes, women get bored too. For those of you who don't think this, you're wrong.....all women masterbate!!! so don't think your wives aren't, we all have fantasies, and we all have hormones.

With this said, the secret is to think back remember what your woman liked when it was new. Women in general like romance, they like to be made to feel they are special. Little things go a long way, even if you are in a grocery store, hold hands from the car into the store. No matter what your circumstances are, how much stress you are under, make a conscious effort to say something nice, call your wife just for the hell of it and say, i love you, ask her about her day, show her you care.

From my own experience, I can tell you, I began to feel like nothing more then a maid and mother and a taxi driver, my husband like many men get into a routine. I can remember getting to the point, my husband would say to me wanna do it, needless to say he didn't get it much, asking me if i wanna do it was not my idea of foreplay. You want it, show me, romance me, touch me, cuddle me, make me feel special. Do something different, even if you can't get out by yourselves, you can always do subtle things, leaving notes, writing emails, showering. Yell out from the shower, Hey hon.....can you come here a minute, do I have something on my back, make sure you have a throbbing hard on when you call her, she will be turned on just by seeing you hard and wet. She'll prolly ask you why the hard on, tell her the thought of her seeing you, just got the blood boiling. There is so much you can do. Sex is like marriage it is a two way street, it is something that has to be worked at..

Now my husband and I have a wonderful sex life again, it may not be 2 or 3 times a week like it used to be, but keep this in mind gentlemen, it isn't the quantity, it's the quality!!

feel free to email me for more ideas, I think I rattled on long enough.

 

[Guest]

What's a man to do?

I'm married to a wonderful woman that I love very, very much. I treat her and her daughter very well. We have been married for five years now and our sex life has dropped like a bomb. I would be lucky if I made love to my wife 10 times this year. I love her and I tell her everyday how beautiful she looks. I complement her hair, clothes, perfume, nail polish, you name it I've complemented her on it. I open car doors for her. I hold her hand, I whisper sweet nothings in her ear, I do everything I can to let her know that she is number one in my life. Still, no sex. Drives me plum crazy. I've talked to her many times about it and it always turns out in an arguement. I work two jobs, I buy her anything she wants, I food shop, wash dishes, cook, do laundry and yet all I get is "maybe tomorrow hunny, I'm tired." I tell her sometimes that I just want to go down on her. Damn right I masterbate.
So, now I've been looking for a married woman in my area that is in the same boat that I'm in. Look, I need sex, I would love to have my wife but she isn't into it like she was before we married. What's a man to do?

 

[Guest]

happily married sexually frustrated

just to clear up some stuff my wife and i are best freinds ...except in the feild of sex.......we do it but not that well and for some reasons that she has explained that i am to big for her to go very long so she gets pleased, when she wants to and is done for the night, thats it. weve talked about it but at no resolution we are just not sexually fit...we have a good relationship and are honest with each other...i would much rather find a girl i can cyber with on yahoo or cuseeme ...maybee meet if its right .... i love my wife and she loves me .....my email is
jameer_69@hotmail.com hope to here from you girls

jameer