missxmusic
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i was just curious about new techniques i could use with my boyfriend. I want to be able to please him as much as he pleases me. 
handjob/ blowjob techniques
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Wow, there doesn't seem to be a Blank Manual thread for this!
It's late, so this will be necessarily brief, but a couple things to keep in mind:
1) The penis is designed to be stimulated by an in-and-out motion in a vagina, so going up and down the length will rarely do you wrong.
2) There is a ridge on the underside that is very sensitive. The flange at the back of the head is also very sensitive, followed by the head itself. The shaft doesn't have a great deal of nerve endings.
3) There's only one person who can tell you for certain what will please your boyfriend. His name starts with "B" and ends in "oyfriend". Experiment as you will, but the best thing you can do is ask him. He may be offended... But with any luck, he'll instead be flattered that you care about his pleasure so much; after all, it takes more effort to do something right than to just throw spaghetti at the wall until some of it sticks. (And if he is offended... Well, that's probably a danger sign. But that's a completely different thread.)
Hope some of this helps.
It's late, so this will be necessarily brief, but a couple things to keep in mind:
1) The penis is designed to be stimulated by an in-and-out motion in a vagina, so going up and down the length will rarely do you wrong.
2) There is a ridge on the underside that is very sensitive. The flange at the back of the head is also very sensitive, followed by the head itself. The shaft doesn't have a great deal of nerve endings.
3) There's only one person who can tell you for certain what will please your boyfriend. His name starts with "B" and ends in "oyfriend". Experiment as you will, but the best thing you can do is ask him. He may be offended... But with any luck, he'll instead be flattered that you care about his pleasure so much; after all, it takes more effort to do something right than to just throw spaghetti at the wall until some of it sticks. (And if he is offended... Well, that's probably a danger sign. But that's a completely different thread.)
Hope some of this helps.
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If you love and adore him and his penis, the rest will come naturally.
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I have to completely agree with pink......my recommendation is use lube for handjobs. My lube of choice...astroglide.
Talking while giving him a handjob (or during quick breaks for a blow job) can really enhance the experience. Be sure to tell him how nice and big his penis is and how much you love stroking it or sucking on it. When he cums from a blow job, tell him how much you love the taste of his semen and how you love to swallow it. If he cums from a hand job, be sure to lick up and swallow every bit of his semen, all the while telling him how good it is. That will send him through the roof.
Wow, there doesn't seem to be a Blank Manual thread for this!
3) There's only one person who can tell you for certain what will please your boyfriend. His name starts with "B" and ends in "oyfriend".
Hope some of this helps.
OMG that is funny.....
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Perhaps there's no BM thread with this exact title, but there are several threads with blowjob and handjob tips and techniques, like:
Men:Oral Sex Tricks
Deep Throating
Cocksucking 101
Blow Jobs
Help Me Please Guys...
Milking a Man's Cock...
Missx, I agree with CWatson: your very best bet is to ask your boyfriend what he enjoys and for plenty of feedback.
For hand jobs, my guy loves plenty of lube, a twisting/corkscrew motion mixed in with other moves, testicle and anal play, in addition to plenty of other things, but your guy may prefer the complete opposite for all we know.
If you haven't already done so, you might ask him to show you how he likes to masturbate, then add your own variations to the basic technique he likes (again, asking him for lots of feedback).
Toys like vibrators can be amazing additions to hand and blow jobs for many men, too, so you may want to give them a shot.
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Or not.
I've had partners who don't care for or about most or all of those things, which goes to show the one-size approach really only works in porn.
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Missx, I agree with CWatson: your very best bet is to ask your boyfriend what he enjoys and for plenty of feedback.
For hand jobs, my guy loves plenty of lube, a twisting/corkscrew motion mixed in with other moves, testicle and anal play, in addition to plenty of other things, but your guy may prefer the complete opposite for all we know.
If you haven't already done so, you might ask him to show you how he likes to masturbate, then add your own variations to the basic technique he likes (again, asking him for lots of feedback).
Toys like vibrators can be amazing additions to hand and blow jobs for many men, too, so you may want to give them a shot.
I agree totally, and by talking to my husband, we have tried several things and figured out how much he enjoys having his ass stimulated while I am giving him a blowjob.
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Thanks
Thank you guys for your help. i would still welcome more feed back.
We do talk about what we both like and when i do something that he doesn't like he tells me and when i do some thing he loves he tells me. we have very nice communication and i pay attention to how he reacts when i do different things. i know what he likes for the most part. i just want new tricks to blow his mind!
Thank you guys for your help. i would still welcome more feed back.
We do talk about what we both like and when i do something that he doesn't like he tells me and when i do some thing he loves he tells me. we have very nice communication and i pay attention to how he reacts when i do different things. i know what he likes for the most part. i just want new tricks to blow his mind!
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Something I found to be helpful- match the curve of the shaft (if there is a curve) to the curve of your throat for ease with deepthroating.
Basically- if he curves upward toward his belly button when aroused, the easiest way to get him deep orally is have him lay down and you lay across his chest, basically a 69 possition. That way the curve of his penis follows the natural curve of your throat.
There's a reason that laryngoscope are curved.
http://medicalimages.allrefer.com/large/laryngoscope.jpg
Replace the laryngascope with a penis and there you go.
Follow the curve and use a lot of tongue and you'll get where you want him.
Basically- if he curves upward toward his belly button when aroused, the easiest way to get him deep orally is have him lay down and you lay across his chest, basically a 69 possition. That way the curve of his penis follows the natural curve of your throat.
There's a reason that laryngoscope are curved.
http://medicalimages.allrefer.com/large/laryngoscope.jpg
Replace the laryngascope with a penis and there you go.
Follow the curve and use a lot of tongue and you'll get where you want him.
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That's 'cause all men like the same thing. Just ask this guy.
Oh, is that the guy who wanted to know if all women's pussies were identical?
(*click* Upp, no, it's not that guy. Ohhhh, I remember him! ...God, we How To boardies get really snarky sometimes, don't we?)
OP, I can't believe I forgot to mention lube. I guess I thought it was par for the course. But, yes, proper lubrication is critical. There's a reason a vagina makes its own moisture: because an up-and-down motion on dry skin will create chafing and maybe even a carpet burn. Penes are identical to any other body part in that regard.
As to driving him wild, try making eye contact with him throughout the act. I can only speak for myself here, of course, but: it's cool when a girl is really focused on my you-know-what, but it's even better when she's really focused on me. Having eye contact throughout makes it much more personal and thus intimate--believe or not, guys do have emotions, and it can make a difference in sex if you invoke them. Plus, you'll get to see his face when he cums, which is probably quite a sight.
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Eye contact.
I have heard not to make eye contact while giving a blow job. i heard that we look insanely creepy when we look up from giving a blow job.
is that true? or should we look up occasionally?
I have heard not to make eye contact while giving a blow job. i heard that we look insanely creepy when we look up from giving a blow job.
is that true? or should we look up occasionally?
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Are you kidding me? Eye contact is the frosting on the cake, it's what makes watching you give us a blowjob so hot! It means you're into us, not just performing mechanics.
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...Well, yeah, I guess I could see that as being creepy, if you're giving like a zombie look. But if you smile and look happy and seem like you're really enjoying yourself and really want to do it... Well, I mean, wouldn't you like to see that on his face when he's buried in your down-there?
Ken Randall wrote a story for SOL called "Charlotte's Movie", where the basic plot is that the daughter of a porn star and porn director makes an amateur movie with her boyfriend. It goes off the rails, of course, and in a big way, but that's the basics of it. Charlotte, in the early chapters, claims that porn is all about the male ego... And I think she's got a point. And that's what we're trying to invoke here. In other words, it's not just about making your man feel good--it's also about making him feel good about himself. And willing eye contact can go a long way in that regard.
(I'm assuming the premise works in reverse too--making love to a woman's ego having a significant effect--but I'm a guy, so I could hardly find out first-hand. Besides, female ego isn't quite as central to our patriarchal society; it might be hard to stimulate something that women are encouraged to delete and ignore. Then again, the clitoris still responds...)
Ken Randall wrote a story for SOL called "Charlotte's Movie", where the basic plot is that the daughter of a porn star and porn director makes an amateur movie with her boyfriend. It goes off the rails, of course, and in a big way, but that's the basics of it. Charlotte, in the early chapters, claims that porn is all about the male ego... And I think she's got a point. And that's what we're trying to invoke here. In other words, it's not just about making your man feel good--it's also about making him feel good about himself. And willing eye contact can go a long way in that regard.
(I'm assuming the premise works in reverse too--making love to a woman's ego having a significant effect--but I'm a guy, so I could hardly find out first-hand. Besides, female ego isn't quite as central to our patriarchal society; it might be hard to stimulate something that women are encouraged to delete and ignore. Then again, the clitoris still responds...
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A UK TV show and spin-off book entitled Sex Tips for Girls recommends the "basketweave" technique - interlock all your fingers and clasp around the shaft, and stroke up and down with a twist at the top and bottom.
A variation is to squeeze your hands together in a pulsing motion as to stroke.
Lots of lube is recommended as mentioned.
You could also try a toy like Monkey Spanker or Fleshlight
A variation is to squeeze your hands together in a pulsing motion as to stroke.
Lots of lube is recommended as mentioned.
You could also try a toy like Monkey Spanker or Fleshlight
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For oral:
Deep throating is definitely a skill to look into learning (especially if you have a narrow throat, and can't easily swallow even small pills, like me... it makes it that much better for him). The 69 position is good, however, if he's fairly straight and is thicker-than-average horizontally (or, you have a smaller mouth), I feel from the side is better- that way avoids the teeth a lot easier in case of a sudden withdraw.
If you're into piercings, seriously consider getting a tongue ring. While some guys don't respond to it, some do... and there's lots of little tricks you can do with it that can increase or change what he feels, such as urethra play (the elongated bar you wear when your tongue is initially swollen is really good for this!), biting against the bottom of the barbell to press it deep into his skin, 'double flicking' against the cleft in the crown of his head, and so on.
Learn to manipulate your tongue into different shapes. While some scientists say "it's a genetic thing", I honestly don't believe that, as I was taught how to make my tongue twist in either direction, and turn into a U shape. If you can't already, stand in front of a mirror, and, using your finger as something to press up against, push your tongue upward against it... you will likely, in time, start to feel the muscles in the edges of your tongue as you watch them attempt to grip your finger. Likewise, to twist it, manually grip your tongue, relax it, and then twist it... your tongue will naturally want to pull-back in a normal position. By watching it, you can learn how to manipulate those edge muscles to twist on their own. While I don't think my husband knows what exactly I do down there, I do know he gets a little extra enjoyment out of it when I do it.
Swallowing. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn't think it's the Hottest. Thing. Evar. Learn to enjoy it to make it that much better for him. Or, learn to fake enjoying it even after he's eaten some spicy carne asade and it winds up tasting like a 9-volt battery. And if swallowing doesn't come natural to you, have a 'chaser' ready on the nightstand to help it go down (I find soda, smoothies, and other thick drinks work really well).
The soft palette on the roof of your mouth has a lot of little ridges on it. While sucking, try to have the edge of his head run along it (if you can manage it without scraping off a couple layers of skin, of course). It tickles insanely, but it offers a different texture for him to feel.
Regarding eye contact... I suppose that's a matter of opinion... I've found that some do find it creepy, while some really go for it, but some only like it when you're doing "this" or "that", and some really don't care one way or the other. You would have to find out what works best on your bf.
For Manual:
My husband loves the feeling of simultaneous climaxes... so when he gets close, I gently, but rapidly, squeeze just my thumb and middle finger together, so it emulates the feeling that I'm getting close too.
Long nails. Once he's hard (but you have yet to do anything worthwhile), use your nails to *gently* stroke the underside of his shaft, starting at the base and working your way up in slalom-like paths. Likewise, *gently* drag them around the crown of his head. It's a massive teaser, and really gets the blood going.
For Both:
Don't forget the balls. Kisses, licking, sucking, nuzzling, gently squeezing, caressing, running your nails along the ridges... they need their attention too.
Combo hand/blow job... After he is well lubed, use your middle finger and thumb to encircle him right in front of your mouth, and use more pressure than what your mouth is offering. Makes it feel less like either a hand or blow job, and more like actual penetration.
Deep throating is definitely a skill to look into learning (especially if you have a narrow throat, and can't easily swallow even small pills, like me... it makes it that much better for him). The 69 position is good, however, if he's fairly straight and is thicker-than-average horizontally (or, you have a smaller mouth), I feel from the side is better- that way avoids the teeth a lot easier in case of a sudden withdraw.
If you're into piercings, seriously consider getting a tongue ring. While some guys don't respond to it, some do... and there's lots of little tricks you can do with it that can increase or change what he feels, such as urethra play (the elongated bar you wear when your tongue is initially swollen is really good for this!), biting against the bottom of the barbell to press it deep into his skin, 'double flicking' against the cleft in the crown of his head, and so on.
Learn to manipulate your tongue into different shapes. While some scientists say "it's a genetic thing", I honestly don't believe that, as I was taught how to make my tongue twist in either direction, and turn into a U shape. If you can't already, stand in front of a mirror, and, using your finger as something to press up against, push your tongue upward against it... you will likely, in time, start to feel the muscles in the edges of your tongue as you watch them attempt to grip your finger. Likewise, to twist it, manually grip your tongue, relax it, and then twist it... your tongue will naturally want to pull-back in a normal position. By watching it, you can learn how to manipulate those edge muscles to twist on their own. While I don't think my husband knows what exactly I do down there, I do know he gets a little extra enjoyment out of it when I do it.
Swallowing. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn't think it's the Hottest. Thing. Evar. Learn to enjoy it to make it that much better for him. Or, learn to fake enjoying it even after he's eaten some spicy carne asade and it winds up tasting like a 9-volt battery. And if swallowing doesn't come natural to you, have a 'chaser' ready on the nightstand to help it go down (I find soda, smoothies, and other thick drinks work really well).
The soft palette on the roof of your mouth has a lot of little ridges on it. While sucking, try to have the edge of his head run along it (if you can manage it without scraping off a couple layers of skin, of course). It tickles insanely, but it offers a different texture for him to feel.
Regarding eye contact... I suppose that's a matter of opinion... I've found that some do find it creepy, while some really go for it, but some only like it when you're doing "this" or "that", and some really don't care one way or the other. You would have to find out what works best on your bf.
For Manual:
My husband loves the feeling of simultaneous climaxes... so when he gets close, I gently, but rapidly, squeeze just my thumb and middle finger together, so it emulates the feeling that I'm getting close too.
Long nails. Once he's hard (but you have yet to do anything worthwhile), use your nails to *gently* stroke the underside of his shaft, starting at the base and working your way up in slalom-like paths. Likewise, *gently* drag them around the crown of his head. It's a massive teaser, and really gets the blood going.
For Both:
Don't forget the balls. Kisses, licking, sucking, nuzzling, gently squeezing, caressing, running your nails along the ridges... they need their attention too.
Combo hand/blow job... After he is well lubed, use your middle finger and thumb to encircle him right in front of your mouth, and use more pressure than what your mouth is offering. Makes it feel less like either a hand or blow job, and more like actual penetration.
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the whole girl looking up at me doesn't do it for me.
As far as handjobs go;
What my wife and i do is this. She will sit on the bed with her legs out in front of her and spread a bit, i will sit in front of her, facing her, with my legs in front of me but over the top of hers. We are close enough that we can easily reach each others genitals. So to recap our legs are straight out in front of us, but are feet are behind each other, hope that describes it well enough. Anyway what we do is just look in each others eyes while playing with each other. I prefer that she just uses saliva as lube on me, you will find that it gets really slimy and last quite a while the more you make. The great thing about this position is we can kiss really nicely and this way it lets us both be very comfortable.
this next part is my little fetish, so you guys can experiment with it if you want. Just remember to have fun!
Normally I make sure she gets hers first then she edges me for however long she wants. Sometimes she lets cum sometimes she doesn't and sometimes she lets go just a second or two before and watches my orgasm kind of fizzle out and die with only a couple of spurts. Whatever happens i try to make sure i am kissing her when it happens because it just makes it hotter that way. I always have to tell her when i am close and never know what she is going to do! I'm hoping that soon we will try it with a butt plug in me!
good luck!
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As far as handjobs go;
What my wife and i do is this. She will sit on the bed with her legs out in front of her and spread a bit, i will sit in front of her, facing her, with my legs in front of me but over the top of hers. We are close enough that we can easily reach each others genitals. So to recap our legs are straight out in front of us, but are feet are behind each other, hope that describes it well enough. Anyway what we do is just look in each others eyes while playing with each other. I prefer that she just uses saliva as lube on me, you will find that it gets really slimy and last quite a while the more you make
. The great thing about this position is we can kiss really nicely and this way it lets us both be very comfortable. this next part is my little fetish, so you guys can experiment with it if you want. Just remember to have fun!
Normally I make sure she gets hers first then she edges me for however long she wants. Sometimes she lets cum sometimes she doesn't and sometimes she lets go just a second or two before and watches my orgasm kind of fizzle out and die with only a couple of spurts. Whatever happens i try to make sure i am kissing her when it happens because it just makes it hotter that way. I always have to tell her when i am close and never know what she is going to do!
I'm hoping that soon we will try it with a butt plug in me! good luck!
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This.
While technique is important, this is the most neglected aspect of it. Especially when you're making a video, damn, look like you're having fun at least
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I could never understand the idea that he might need "something new and mindblowing" to keep things interesting. It makes it sound like after a couple of blowjobs that he's going to suddenly adopt a "ho hum, been there, done that" attitude. Honestly, the comment about enthusiasm pretty much nailed it. She doesn't have to do anything "new and mindblowing" to keep me in the game...it's just as exciting now as it was the first time....39 years ago.
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Something I posted in another thread, but apropos for here. It's called "the parrott".
One thing that works great, but it's only realllllyyy mindblowing the first time you do it to him:
Lay between his legs and pop his dick in your mouth. Now extend your arm up to his face and stick a finger in HIS mouth. However he sucks, nibbles or licks your finger - you do the same to his cock. It won't take him long to figure out that you're mimicking his actions and he can really get you to give him a blow job like he wants, since he's literally showing you how he wants it.
Enjoy!
One thing that works great, but it's only realllllyyy mindblowing the first time you do it to him:
Lay between his legs and pop his dick in your mouth. Now extend your arm up to his face and stick a finger in HIS mouth. However he sucks, nibbles or licks your finger - you do the same to his cock. It won't take him long to figure out that you're mimicking his actions and he can really get you to give him a blow job like he wants, since he's literally showing you how he wants it.
Enjoy!
