Hand job

[bethany_s]

It is behaviors like this in the bedroom that made me realize I was a dom.

I may have mentioned elsewhere, I thought doms were always sadists and subs were masochists and I just wanted nothing to do with either thing.

But the things in the bedroom I find the most intimate and erotic and mesmerizing were things that involved one partner submitting to the other.

Usually my partner submitting to me, but I can switch, like in the above example.

I've had women take me with strapons and toys. I've had women ride my face as I lay down. I enjoy the submission of manual stimulation by my lady love, with me nearly naked, exposed, and in her hands, and her possibly even clothed, and just taking full control.

One fantasy I had was for her to invite friends over to our house, and then be still as she dominates me in front of them like a show. Commanding me to strip off my clothes, being still as she manually strokes me to completion, getting down on my hands and knees and submitting to her commands, having a collar around my neck, licking her pussy in front of everyone, and doing exactly what she says, even if she commands me to lick or suck someone else or be fucked by them.

It doesn't have to be abusive, and I wouldn't feel humiliated. I would feel fully bonded with my lady and trusting that I would be hers at the end of the night, and she would kiss me and tell me I was such a good obedient girl for her.

When I realized that was the sort of fantasy in my mind when I switch and become submissive, I started leaning into my being a dom for my lady loves, as that is more common, in my experience anyway.

I enjoy the fantasies she comes up with to prove her loyalty and submission to me, and how intimate and bonding the experiences are.

I enjoy giving manual stimulation to my lady loves now, whether she is tied up or not, her willingly surrendering her naked body to me in a compromising position is incredibly erotic and an act of trust and submission. I feel so much closer to her when she does that, it means I know she loves me and trusts me to bring her nothing but pleasure.

I also feel that way when I am thrusting inside of her, with nothing between us. We are as close as two people can get, and she is giving me her whole body. I can only accept and bring her pleasure and tell her what a good girl she's being for me.

Mmmmmm....

Sorry, needed to share. The eroticism of D/s relationships is really having an effect on me tonight. I miss it so much.

I had a similar view that bdsm was this dark place until I started getting involved with a fwb that was very dom but in a more gentleman way. The way he described what his interests and fantasies were really interested me and I wanted to try it with him. I knew him a few years before that so there was trust I knew he didn't want to do anything to hurt me. Like your experience, I surrendered myself to him and he put me in some compromising positions but he knew how to bring me incredible pleasure haha. Most of the stories I've written are about him and our experiences if you want a glimpse on that. You are welcome to DM me if you want to talk further.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

I had a similar view that bdsm was this dark place until I started getting involved with a fwb that was very dom but in a more gentleman way. The way he described what his interests and fantasies were really interested me and I wanted to try it with him. I knew him a few years before that so there was trust I knew he didn't want to do anything to hurt me. Like your experience, I surrendered myself to him and he put me in some compromising positions but he knew how to bring me incredible pleasure haha. Most of the stories I've written are about him and our experiences if you want a glimpse on that. You are welcome to DM me if you want to talk further.

I would like to discuss with you further.

I find these topics and concepts fascinating in their own right.

Thank you for the invite, bethany, I will communicate with you and I hope we can be friends, friends who talk about erotic d/s and kinky things.

 

[LadyJen7]

Comfort is important for the long haul.