Guys who don't like anal??

Some fantasies are best left fantasies.People try out something they think they'd love and find out it isn't fun at all. Some guys like it and some don't. I'm more of a pussy guy myself.
 
This sounds insane. Are you married to a bigfoot? Or the Loch Ness Monster? Or a unicorn? Because these are all right up there with the believability of a guy who doesn't like anal.
 
Confused about men again. I've been wanting to try anal, so my BF and I talked about and experimented with him putting his finger in my ass while he fucked me. So this weekend I asked him if he wanted to fuck my ass with his cock. And we tried it... He was quiet... Wanted to go faster but I needed time to adjust and wanted him slower.
When it was all said and done, he didn't cum in my ass but elsewhere, I asked him if he liked it. He said it was just ok, and he preferred my pussy.

I'm a little disappointed, I wanted to do something for him to make him crazy and it didn't work at all....

I thought all men fantasize about this?!

No, not all men fantasize about anal. I'm going to quote my favorite person to quote, myself:
I am a straight male who wants nothing to do with ass-play or anal, whether giving or receiving. On the receiving end I don't want a woman's tongue or fingers, a strap-on, a buttplug, or anything else inserted in my ass. My reasons for that are what I assume are the same reasons a woman who doesn't want anything up her butt would give you. And on the giving end, I can't get my mind past two strong reactions: 1) "Hey look, there's a vagina right over there! I wanna ride the vagina!" and 2) "FECES! E. COLI! STENCH!".

That's from a different anal-themed thread. Here's the thing: I like a nice big round booty on a woman as much as any man, but that doesn't mean I want to enter her anus. I just want to enjoy her butt cheeks and maybe do her doggy-style.

I don't even really enjoy anal in my porn.
 
Not all men are into such things, just like not all men like blow jobs or eating pussy . . . This doesn't make it any easier for you when you want to try these things and have a vanilla partner to work with. I feel your pain, really I do.:(
 
Try it again. It will go better.

Before hand, while the clothes are still one, explain lots of lube, lots of stretching, and you'll adjust, then he can enjoy himself.

Tell him you want a good orgasm first -- it loosens you up. (Porn clips can show a woman's anus pulsing open while she has an orgasm.)

Don't skimp on stretching. If you're gritting you teeth while he's adding another finger, sell yourself on how good it eventually feel. Have him repeat that same move until you're ready to believe it will be good.

Always give him feedback which he will take as favorable progress. Not, "Ouch that hurts!" Instead, focus on the good feeling to come. "Slowly, stretch me slowly so I'll be ready for your cock."

Tell him you want him to enter slow, wait for permission to go deeper. Work it all the way in by stages, an inch or two at a time. Pull out and re-lube for each stage. Promise you'll tell him to speed up when you've been totally filled.

Finally, have a vibrator handy -- clit stimulation is excellent enhancement.

Anal on a regular basis will keep your body adapted and reduce the amount of prep you need. I've had lovers who were always ready from 15 seconds of lubing them up.
 
Try it again. It will go better.

Before hand, while the clothes are still one, explain lots of lube, lots of stretching, and you'll adjust, then he can enjoy himself.

Tell him you want a good orgasm first -- it loosens you up. (Porn clips can show a woman's anus pulsing open while she has an orgasm.)

Don't skimp on stretching. If you're gritting you teeth while he's adding another finger, sell yourself on how good it eventually feel. Have him repeat that same move until you're ready to believe it will be good.

Always give him feedback which he will take as favorable progress. Not, "Ouch that hurts!" Instead, focus on the good feeling to come. "Slowly, stretch me slowly so I'll be ready for your cock."

Tell him you want him to enter slow, wait for permission to go deeper. Work it all the way in by stages, an inch or two at a time. Pull out and re-lube for each stage. Promise you'll tell him to speed up when you've been totally filled.

Finally, have a vibrator handy -- clit stimulation is excellent enhancement.

Anal on a regular basis will keep your body adapted and reduce the amount of prep you need. I've had lovers who were always ready from 15 seconds of lubing them up.
Is it possible that he's worried about hurting you?
 
I thought all men fantasize about this?!

There is nothing that "all men" fantasize about, any more than there is anything all women fantasize about. People are individuals, especially when it comes to sex, and everyone has certain things that simply don't appeal to us.

One reason why I don't like anal, by the way, is that it triggers flashbacks to being assaulted by my sister when we were teenagers. I hope your lover's reasons for not liking it are less traumatic than that, but there you go.
 
This sounds insane. Are you married to a bigfoot? Or the Loch Ness Monster? Or a unicorn? Because these are all right up there with the believability of a guy who doesn't like anal.

Yet another Loch Ness Monster. I absolutely love pussy, for fantasies, to play with, to eat and obviously to fuck.

:)
 
Not all men are into such things, just like not all men like blow jobs or eating pussy . . . This doesn't make it any easier for you when you want to try these things and have a vanilla partner to work with. I feel your pain, really I do.:(


So true ~ I understand totally
 
I like anal just fine. But I always feel like it's The Big Thing in a relationship. Guys stereotypically have to beg for it, women stereotypically don't like it, they feel self-conscious about it, there's the "ew-poo" factor, the "ouch that hurts" factor, the "we need tons of lube and we have to go really slow and I'm scared it's going to hurt too much" factors. I will preface this by saying that I've never really had someone want anal in the heat of the moment, where we wouldn't have to stop, clean up, lube up, (and try to stay hard until). Anal has always felt to me like going skydiving. There's a ton of preparation, study, nerves, and a hell of a lot of buildup. But once you're going, it's a lot of fun. If she was into it, and it didn't need to be This Big Thing, I'm sure I'd enjoy it even more. But honestly, I like vagina. I feel comfortable there, I like to think I know what I'm doing there, and she knows what she's doing with it. So I guess I don't feel like anal is worth the effort most of the time.
 
Count me in as another who is not into anal. Now I like a nice round butt to look at and squeeze and such. I'm a xenophobe and I can't get past the thought of, shit comes from there! My SO likes it as part of the dominance and submission thing but since it and blowjobs are turn offs she has to get creative with things. I don't understand the hurt feelings with it. She almost resents it. I need different stimulation to get off. Just ask and I have no problem letting you know what I like.
 
Confused about men again. I've been wanting to try anal, so my BF and I talked about and experimented with him putting his finger in my ass while he fucked me. So this weekend I asked him if he wanted to fuck my ass with his cock. And we tried it... He was quiet... Wanted to go faster but I needed time to adjust and wanted him slower.
When it was all said and done, he didn't cum in my ass but elsewhere, I asked him if he liked it. He said it was just ok, and he preferred my pussy.

I'm a little disappointed, I wanted to do something for him to make him crazy and it didn't work at all....

I thought all men fantasize about this?!

I've never been interested in anal. But I do love pussy, and a blowjob is heavenly...
 
STOP! Waaaait let's back up...

You don't like blow jobs?!?!?

And you thought I was kidding, didn't you. I don't understand it myself, but we are all wired differently, so not all people like all things. What is sad is that the adventurous seem to get paired all too often with vanilla, what the hell is up with that?:(
 
OK I can understand not everyone likes anal, both men and women. However, I can't understand why anyone would dislike oral sex though?

Please, enlighten... what don't you like about it?

No worries mate, just more for me. :D
 
I'm not a huge fan of oral or anal, either. On the oral front, I just don't have a lot of sensitivity, so it really doesn't do anything for me--at all. On anal, I think doing that requires familiarity to do and do comfortably, knowing each other and what have you. I've been in a casual sex phase for most of my adult life, so I'm not too familiar with the issues one would have with that act if one had a reliable, steady sex partner.
 
Who ever you believe made the vagine, got it right.
Anal for me has always been about pleasing the woman in my life.
If she wants it, she gets it. I won't lie, it's a nice change up, but the pussy feels better to me.
 
This thread has opened my eyes. I've never heard of a guy not liking oral.

I feel like I just learned Santa wasn't real. Or my Teddy Ruxpin bear wasn't a real bear.
 
WAIT WAIT WAIT.

You don't like blow jobs either, OR going down on a woman?!

Did I read that correctly, up there?

No, you did not. I said that "some" men didn't like those things, I personally love eating pussy as much as I love the nipple, and as you know, I'm quite a fan of the nipple! :D

I also love blow jobs, and while I don't have much experience with anal, it's an exciting idea, and with the right partner it would probably be great. Unfortunately, my partners have all been pretty vanilla and anal hasn't been on the menu.

I personally am pretty open to anything my partner would like to try, short of pain, scars, and blood letting. That opens up a whole lot of territory for exploration and fun.:devil:
 
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