guys and their "Buddies"

[peeeepers]

Why is it that a guy has to spend time with his friends rather than with his girlfriend or wife? The relationship is going well and he loves her but why does he have to spend time with his friends so much? This man is 26 years old. Is it a sign of immaturity? Is he hiding something from her? Or do guys just feel a need to bond?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I wish I could tell you for sure. It all depends on the guy. My hubby hardly ever hangs out with his friends, however, he is a workaholic. Anyway, I think that some guys feel the need to have other guys around them from time to time. Be it to boost their egos or just to bond, I don't know. I don't think its immaturity tho, just a lack of thought on how this will affect their wife/girlfriend. Usually nothing malicious intended on their part, in my opinion.

Hope this helps a little.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Why shouldn't he spend time with his buddies? I've never understood the idea that a spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend should replace the need for other friends.

 

[claude_moveml]

I wouldn't be much of a friend to my friends if I deserted them once I got a whiff of pussy.

 

[cutie pie]

Does she spend time with her friends??

I learned a long time ago that in order to maintain a strong and healthy relationship each person needs to maintain their own individual interests. There's nothing wrong with hanging out with guys/girls once in a while.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Does she spend time with her friends??

I learned a long time ago that in order to maintain a strong and healthy relationship each person needs to maintain their own individual interests. There's nothing wrong with hanging out with guys/girls once in a while.

I agree with cutie pie. Just because you are a couple doesn't mean you should be spending 24/7 with each other. In fact, I think that will just break the relationship in the long run. I believe in having your individual life, together with a life together. Do your own thing now and then. It'll make you grow in all aspects.

I personally can't take it when I see friends giving up their whole life, and everyone in it asap they get a knew partner. For a few months, that's understandable, but not the whole time they're going out. You're gonna need them later....

 

[MNGuy]

Of course I sometimes hang out with buddies. The wife will hang out with her buddies too. Why? The main reason is that the wife and I are individuals. We are together because we love each other and have many interests in common. But our individuality also means we have interests that are different. So, while I go to a baseball or hockey game with my buddies, my wife will go out dancing with her buddies. If I made her stop activities she liked doing, and she did the same to me, we would eventually be at each other's throats. You need an outlet for such activities to keep a relationship healthy.

 

[peeeepers]

Thanks for all your replies. Yes, people should spend time with their friends once in a while when they are also a couple. I was just wondering why every day. This particular young lady would come home from college and then work at 8 pm and want to spend time with her boyfriend and he would call and say he would be there at 11 pm. She would tell him no because she was tired and going to bed but he wouldn't come earlier.

They have talked things out and things are better now. Thanks again for all the advice.