Guess Who's Gay Panel

[onewingedangel]

These past few weeks have been great for growth in so many ways for me, but bad in others (to an extent). Basically, I am becoming more comfortable with people knowing that I am bisexual. I owe that to my last girlfriend who is still the most nurturing caring person I know.

Here is my dillema. I have been becoming more and more active with the gay community around my campus. I have been getting involved with panel discussions, etc. But, at the same time, I am a full time staff member in student housing.

Next week, there is a panel that I wanted to speak on called "Guess Who's Gay" where students ask stereotypcal questions and then try to guess the orientations of people on the panel. My problem is that I discovered that the panel is going to be held at the residence halls where 20+ of my coworkers who do not know my sexual orientation work and live.

I want to do the panel, but dont know how people are going to react. I am soooo confused.

 

[perks]

come out, come out, wherever you are.

 

[RawHumor]

Man, that's a tough call. One the one hand, is that how you want some people to find out about your sexual orientation?

But on the other hand, is that not what the panel is really about? Revealing that people can be gay who you might not expect?

 

[onewingedangel]

But on the other hand, is that not what the panel is really about? Revealing that people can be gay who you might not expect?

It would totally blow some people away. But I think that your right, the whole point of this is to point out the flaws in stereotypes. I want people to know... but I dont know if in a large number like that all at once.

 

[sunstruck]

Well first let me say that the whole game thing sounds wierd. lol But I'll assume it has to do with awareness and move on.

Do you WANT to come out completely? That's really what you're asking yourself.

Not everyone is going to be ok with it. Some people may be down right rude or even cruel. You have to think about that.

BUT, how do you want to live your life? Out isn't always safe, but it's free. Freedom always has heavy prices.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

We have Black Entertainment Television, The Latin Music Awards, AARP, The Gray Panthers and homosexual panels. I'm a young, white, straight male and I've had it with my only choices being the KKK or the American Nazi Party.

 

[onewingedangel]

BUT, how do you want to live your life? Out isn't always safe, but it's free. Freedom always has heavy prices.

I agree, but have to smile when someone who has wonderwoman as their AV talks about freedom

I dont want to out completely, no, not yet... maybe when my parents are not so financially involved in my life.... at least what they do pay in the way of health insurance, etc.

I definately want to be supportive of my community and friends... so I wanna do the best I CAN do. I just dont know what that is completely yet.

 

[onewingedangel]

We have Black Entertainment Television, The Latin Music Awards, AARP, The Gray Panthers and homosexual panels. I'm a young, white, straight male and I've had it with my only choices being the KKK or the American Nazi Party.

I dont exactly get your point DCL.

 

[sunstruck]

We have Black Entertainment Television, The Latin Music Awards, AARP, The Gray Panthers and homosexual panels. I'm a young, white, straight male and I've had it with my only choices being the KKK or the American Nazi Party.

Don't forget the mafia! You're from Jersey afterall.

 

[Rhys]

I dunno. I think they might be limiting themselves with the stereotype to begin with. In my book, Bi does not equal Gay. It means Bi...and bi tends to be what *you* make of it not what everyone else does. If you really want to go for it in a big way, then more power to you. I am kind of conservative that way, I think a true coming out should be reserved for those you trust and care for...and not necessarily the community at large...when so many people are too eager to stereotype to begin with...but if you feel you have to say something...and are prepared to deal with both the negative reactions and the positive...then do it.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I want a group where I can go and sit and talk about being white, and what it means to be white, and where I can get help with being white, and form lobbying campaigns to get Congress to pay attention to white issues, and I want White Entertainment Television and religious White Leaders who go on TV and shout for the civil rights of white people who get beat by black cops.

We're the minority in California now. We shall overcome.

 

[sunstruck]

I agree, but have to smile when someone who has wonderwoman as their AV talks about freedom

What? I am truth, justice and the American way. You got a problem with that? Huh? (kidding)

What Rhys said made me think. If you do decide to do this, you might want to make sure your close friends and family know already. They might not like finding out along with the entire campus.

I know my mom was hurt when my brother came out at a family Christmas party (which in my family means over 200 people were there) only because he didn't come to her first. She didn't like being grouped in with everyone else like that.

 

[superlittlegirl]

Do it. You'll get lots more play.

 

[sunstruck]

I want White Entertainment Television

Ok, anyone who reads that line and doesn't know he's kidding gets their library card revoked.

 

[RawHumor]

Ok, anyone who reads that line and doesn't know he's kidding gets their library card revoked.

And I think that WET is already a XXX cable channel somewhere anyway, so they couldn't use that name.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Ok, anyone who reads that line and doesn't know he's kidding gets their library card revoked.

I'm not kidding. Why can't I get that?

I also want Reverse Affirmative Action in Detroit and Washington D.C.

 

[RawHumor]

I'm not kidding. Why can't I get that?

I also want Reverse Affirmative Action in Detroit and Washington D.C.

Why that would be unconstitutional and racist.

And un-PC.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I don't give a shit what Problem Child thinks, I want some Honky Broadcasting and preference given to white cameramen.

 

[Guest]

 

[sunstruck]

I never agreed with affirmative action to begine with. My father went through hell with it. It was unfair to equal opportunity employers like my dad. All he wanted to do was hire the most qualified and talented empolyees. He didn't care about race.

 

[lobito]

Anyone who isn't comfortable or stops being your friend after they find out, wasn't really your friend afterall, were they?

While I understand why you would have problems with "coming out", as was already said, Bi does NOT equal GAY.

Even though DCL is "joking", it's the truth. But it'll never be, because that would be "racist".

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Sorry I Hi-jacked your thread, kid.

Next week, there is a panel that I wanted to speak on called "Guess Who's Gay" where students ask stereotypcal questions and then try to guess the orientations of people on the panel.

What if the first question is, "Are you gay?", because that's what people ask in 2002.

My problem is that I discovered that the panel is going to be held at the residence halls where 20+ of my coworkers who do not know my sexual orientation work and live.

I want to do the panel, but dont know how people are going to react. I am soooo confused.

Then don't go. If you don't want to come out yet, you're going to have to not attend some functions, and not show public affection, and not do a whole lot of things. If you're uncomfortable right now, stay in the closet and give yourself time to think.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Even though DCL is "joking", it's the truth. But it'll never be, because that would be "racist".

You get me, you really get me.

 

[onewingedangel]

Re: Sorry I Hi-jacked your thread, kid.

What if the first question is, "Are you gay?", because that's what people ask in 2002.

No problem on the hijacking, I can handle it. The questions cannot be direct questions that can out people, that is the game of it all.... I wanted to do this before I knew about my coworkers being there.

this sucks.

 

[sunstruck]

Re: Re: Sorry I Hi-jacked your thread, kid.

No problem on the hijacking, I can handle it. The questions cannot be direct questions that can out people, that is the game of it all.... I wanted to do this before I knew about my coworkers being there.

this sucks.

You can support the event in other ways.

But I'm thinking if you REALLY wanted to do this before, then you really want to come out.

Do it.