grr to my "in laws"

[InnocentAngel81]

grr, today i am completely frustrated with my boyfriend's mother. I usually love her to death, but lately she has said things or done things that get under my skin, and makes me believe that i will never be good enough for devilboy. eventually he and i would like to get married, but she has said quite a few things that i know in the future may get me in trouble. I know at times devilboy may get very sick, even though he is 23 she has let me know, no matter how old,where he is, she will be the only one to care for him. she refuses to leave him alone for the weekend because that may be the weekend he just might get sick, um hello i could take care of him if you just give me a chance. when he takes his medicine i am not allowed to go around him, i will be living with him eventually, does that mean i am supposed to hide when he needs to do what he needs to do, he was very sick two or three weeks ago, all i wanted to do was to peek and see how he was doing, but i was told to stay downstairs grr. what the hell am i supposed to do when we finally do get to be alone and something may happen. i know for the longest i was afraid to do anything because i feared i would break him, she tells me all sorts of things could possibly put him in the hospital, i'm afraid she will never let him grow up, i know thats her baby and always will be but thats my man too.... there are other things but this is one of the biggest things, i feel like she is starting to push me out of the picture and i am going to just end up being friends.

 

[MissTaken]

Sounds like pretty normal stuff for a mom who feels threatened that her boy may find his "other" woman.

Bare with it.

Communicate with devilboy.

If it is meant to be, it will happen.

For me, it helped when my, then, fiance told his mother "We are going to get married whether you like it or not. If you want to be part of my family, you will accept her."

Take care and hugs

 

[Guest]

Take it from me, it doesn't end when you are married. He, ultimately, has the say so. But, no matter what, do not force him into the middle. Be there for him and if she tries to shove you out of the way, don't cower. Never be rude or try to win a powerplay with his mother. Just be there. And, let her know that you aren't going anywhere. Hang in there!

 

[DevilBoy79]

yes she worries but so does everyone else she needs to realize this, you tell her about it,and things go smoothly for a while then BAM its back to normal. i'm moving on with my life, as i see fit, in whatever little way thats possible at this time, oh well such is life i guess, i have some upcomming issues that are going to happen that everyone might not agree with, but i dont care they have to accept it and just deal