greetings

[sharkbunny]

hello,
my husband and I are interested in adding variety to our sex life. does anyone have any suggestions? we are open to anything, really. Maybe this is the wrong board, but we thought about adding a person or two. does this really have bad effects on your marriage? we are in our very early 20s and have been married about 2 months. any advice would be great thanks

sharkbunny

 

[Shimp]

hello,
my husband and I are interested in spicing up our sex life. does anyone have any suggestions? we are open to anything, really. Maybe this is the wrong board, but we thought about adding a person or two. does this really have bad effects on your marriage? we are in our very early 20s and have been married about 2 months. any advice would be great thanks

sharkbunny

ouch,,,you really need to spice up your sex life after only 2 months?????

 

[sharkbunny]

well, we've been together 7 years. we are just looking to try something new...maybe spice up was a bad term.

 

[Shimp]

well, we've been together 7 years. we are just looking to try something new...maybe spice up was a bad term.

ok that makes alot of sense that yall have been together for so long..so are yall both on here or are you looking for suggestions to take back to the bedroom?

 

[sharkbunny]

my husband has a lot of ideas that I am game for...but I need the guts to actually do it! to be perfectly honest I dont know why I am here except to get advice from impartial third parties who are more experienced in the bedroom than I am!

 

[Shimp]

what kind of ideas does he suggest and what holds you back? Ive been married for 14 years so I have some experience but we are not very adventerous as we did that the years before marrage and kid.

 

[sharkbunny]

well he has suggested swinging (which we did once with a couple we knew very well when I was super drunk but could possibly be up for again...with a different couple!), and mild exhibitionism and voyerism...I am just shy in this department but would be up for trying.

 

[Shimp]

yea the exhibition and vouyerism is hott, we did some earlier as we would play with each other at clubs or even in public spots that were mostly safe...you just have to be hot or wet enough to do it,,,otherwise its just too nerve racking. The swinging thing is not for us, we did a massage girl once to let here play but too many feeling get hurt.

 

[sseg]

hello,
my husband and I are interested in adding variety to our sex life. does anyone have any suggestions? we are open to anything, really. Maybe this is the wrong board, but we thought about adding a person or two. does this really have bad effects on your marriage? we are in our very early 20s and have been married about 2 months. any advice would be great thanks

sharkbunny

Adding other people to your sex life may be good, it may be bad, depends on the dynamics between you all. If you do, take it slowly and be sure to talk a lot about what you all want and expect first.

Adding variety is more about your attitudes and approach than about the things you do. Sex is a great bonding experience, but people who have been together a long time fall into routines that detract from it. It's easy to spice things up a lot! Just do things different from what you are doing now. As some suggestions: whisper into their ear what you would like to do with them as you are making love, tell them how much you like the feel of their body, etc. Do this frequently! Verbal feedback goes a *long* way. Lots of time people stop doing much foreplay once they are familiar with each other, step back and do nothing but foreplay for say, an hour. Take pictures of yourselves doing it and use those for your own pleasure. Give a long, slow, sensuous massage before you make love. Watch porn together and tell each other what you like/don't like about it. Have sex in unusual locations. Go sex toy shopping together and then use them.

From my own experience with adding other people: I've had some bad three ways, and I've had some really, really good ones. The best ones were with people carefully chosen because the dynamics between all of us were really good and we took things slowly and talked a lot beforehand. The worst ones were with people who were competitive, or to whom sex was a scripted event (first we do this, then we do this, and so on).

Good luck, and have fun!

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

Do all that you can do with eachother before you start adding more people. Try toys, ass (both hers and his), public sex, sharing cum...etc..

 

[OldestMotive]

You might try a photo thread here on Lit. There are a lot of couples who have found some excitement in that. Plus, there is the added advantage of it being a very safe way to play.