Got the Time?

[MorgaineLaFay]

Do you enjoy spending time with your SO?

Do you have the time?

Do you try to make the time? Or do you want to spend the time?

To me...there is a huge difference.

 

[JazzManJim]

Do you try to make the time? Or do you want to spend the time?

Sometimes you just don't have time to spend with those for whom you care, no matter how badly you want to spend more time with them.

So you do what you can to carve out a couple minutes here and there until the busy time is over. You just find a way. It may not be a lot, or often, but you do it until things clear up in your schedule.

 

[Private Vasquez]

It's right there on the bottom corner of the post, isn't it?

If there was an SO, I might try to make time.

 

[Sillyman]

I would make time for the most part, at least in the early stages of a relationship. Now as time went on, we might find excuses to get away from each other.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Damn..so that's where the time is


I know we all get busy. Life is so fast paced for most now. There is never enough time in the day for everything, let alone a little time for your self.

And most of the time, you get minutes here & there. But they add up to something.

A lot of people spend there 'free time' doing what they want to do. Regardless of what others close to them might be thinking or feeling. They think, fuck it! I work hard...I am entitled to have some fun....And then they start trying to make time for their SO.

It's no longer about wanting to spend time with that other person. But now you have become almost a thorn in their side.

 

[Calamity Jane]

A lot of people spend there 'free time' doing what they want to do. Regardless of what others close to them might be thinking or feeling. They think, fuck it! I work hard...I am entitled to have some fun....And then they start trying to make time for their SO.

It's no longer about wanting to spend time with that other person. But now you have become almost a thorn in their side.

What I wanna know is... how did we marry the same man?

 

[LukkyKnight]

I'm still working on the whole SO thing, which is why so much of MY time is spent here...

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

What I wanna know is... how did we marry the same man?

*chuckling*


Their a dime a dozen. They should have told us, before

Find your ring darlin?

 

[sunstruck]

There was a point my my realationship where we barely saw one another. He was traveling all the time and when he was home he wanted to do his own thing and I was so used to being on my own it didn't seem to be a big deal.

Until I realised what was happening. I wanted a marriage, not a commited affair.

So we talked about it. A LOT. And found things to do together and ways to make sure we have time. We re-evaluated and our lives are much more mello now. Less travel, more down time.

Not everyone has the luxury of being able to rework their scheduales like that, but I have to think, if both people really want to, there has to be a way.

 

[Calamity Jane]

*chuckling*


Their a dime a dozen. They should have told us, before

Find your ring darlin?

Nope, though I must admit, I haven't put all that much energy into looking for it. My tan line is goin away and I haven't nearly ripped my finger off or gouged the children in almost a week.

 

[AnnaB]

Do you enjoy spending time with your SO?

Do you have the time?

Do you try to make the time? Or do you want to spend the time?

To me...there is a huge difference.

Very much so although the time is not always there. We both want to spend the time together so we make as much time as possible in schedules just for each other.

 

[markb325]

Whatever free time I get I freely give to her. Right now that is quite a bit while I am looking for work. After that I get to look foward to the evenings and weekends. We pretty much enjoy the same things so that makes it a lot easier.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Well...I'm so happy if all you lucky peeps.

Its nice to hear that there are some people who enjoy being with the one they are with.

 

[sunstruck]

Well...I'm so happy if all you lucky peeps.

Its nice to hear that there are some people who enjoy being with the one they are with.

There's got to be a reason you stay. I'm not asking what it is, but think about whether or not that reason(s) is worth it.

I hate to see good people in bad relationships, and I don't claim to be a guru. It's just something to think about.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

There's got to be a reason you stay. I'm not asking what it is, but think about whether or not that reason(s) is worth it.

I hate to see good people in bad relationships, and I don't claim to be a guru. It's just something to think about.

The Easy Version:

I'm thinking I quit my; Bring Home the Bacon job to save my marriage. That didn't work out as planned. Now I am totally hosed. $$$ speaking. I can't get my great job back, which I wasn't all that fond of, but I made good money & I was good at it. I'm working now, but making peanuts. Not even peanuts, more like the shells that line bar floors. I hate my story. It's everywhere. As I've said before...and I am sure I'll be saying it again, I know where I want to be, I just need to find my way there.

I use to be pretty damn tough ... I got soft along the way.

 

[sunstruck]

There's nothing wrong with having a soft side. Just don't let the world walk on you. It'll try.

If you're truely stuck, take happiness where you can find it and focus on what you need to do to get unstuck.

Until that happens you'll always have ears and shoulders around here. Count mine among them.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Thanks Doll.

 

[LukkyKnight]

peanut shells, eh?

Hm.

Time to find a way to market them...

 

[pipercatt]

I'd say we make the time to spend with each other.

We live far from each other, and therefore, when we are together, we make the most of it. Us two, no one else.

We talk on the phone a lot. One of us is usually really tired when we talk on the phone, but we still end up talking for hours.

It's a wonderfully new experience for me, having someone that wants to spend time with me, and not someone who expects it. There's a difference in that that i can appreciate.

 

[Calamity Jane]

The Easy Version:

I'm thinking I quit my; Bring Home the Bacon job to save my marriage. That didn't work out as planned. Now I am totally hosed. $$$ speaking. I can't get my great job back, which I wasn't all that fond of, but I made good money & I was good at it. I'm working now, but making peanuts. Not even peanuts, more like the shells that line bar floors. I hate my story. It's everywhere. As I've said before...and I am sure I'll be saying it again, I know where I want to be, I just need to find my way there.

I use to be pretty damn tough ... I got soft along the way.

We didn't MARRY the same person... we ARE the same person! Except I'm pretty sure your boobies are bigger than mine.

I'm here if you need to talk, darlin.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

We didn't MARRY the same person... we ARE the same person! Except I'm pretty sure your boobies are bigger than mine.

I'm here if you need to talk, darlin.

*chuckling*

No wonder I have been liking you so much from a far

Same to ya darlin.

And thank you.

 

[Wiggles]

I enjoy my boyfriend's company, I love having him all to myself.

We spend down time together, and we go on dates too.

I have to have my free time. I'm thrilled if he's a part of my free time. My free time is for me to unwind, he helps that along.

Of course our situation is in a place that makes this easy. No kids, no careers, and we aren't attending college.