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AttentionWhore
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How can you tell how someone will be in bed?
Not sure about cyber, but how do they dance? Are they shy, reserved, and self conscience? Or do they let them selves go with the music, devil may care? Agreeabley, this is not 100% fool proof but it is a good indicator?
Oh yeah, and how does he move his hips?
Not sure about cyber, but how do they dance? Are they shy, reserved, and self conscience? Or do they let them selves go with the music, devil may care? Agreeabley, this is not 100% fool proof but it is a good indicator?
Oh yeah, and how does he move his hips?
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hockeymandan
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I think there are ways to figure out if someone will be good in bed just by talking to them and getting to know them. Do they have any selfish tendencies? Or do they seem like a giver? Do they tend to focus on themselves? Do they seem really tense? Or relaxed and laid back? I think these can all be good indicators, because what makes someone good in bed is being concerned with satisfying the other person, regardless of what they get in return. And when you get two people like that... boy do the sparks fly. And the beds break... 
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Etoile said:
Couldn't agree more.
(Lovely pics too, by the way.)
It has been my experience that the more attentive the man is to what I have to say, and the more interested he is in every part of my life, the better lover he is going to be.
If a man is into me enough to listen patiently while I bitch about the bad week I've had, or to pay attention to the everything I say even if he's bored with the topic? Then he's into me enough to be a patient and attentive lover.
S.
If a man is into me enough to listen patiently while I bitch about the bad week I've had, or to pay attention to the everything I say even if he's bored with the topic? Then he's into me enough to be a patient and attentive lover.
S.
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I agree with Sheath.
I also look to see how creative he is, how in touch he seems with his body, does he make me smile and laugh, is he pateint, can I trust him, does he make me feel safe, can I be completely open with him, does he like sex as much as I do. does he treat me well even when there are problems, is he there for me?
I think given those criteria and Sheath's, chances are he'll be a good lover. To me being a good lover goes beyond taking care of a person during sex.
I also look to see how creative he is, how in touch he seems with his body, does he make me smile and laugh, is he pateint, can I trust him, does he make me feel safe, can I be completely open with him, does he like sex as much as I do. does he treat me well even when there are problems, is he there for me?
I think given those criteria and Sheath's, chances are he'll be a good lover. To me being a good lover goes beyond taking care of a person during sex.
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I think you can tell whether passion is in a person just by being with them. Watch them as they talk, as they laugh, and even how they hold themselves. Passion carries over into all areas of life. Not many people can fake it!
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CuteJenn said:
heehee - gotta love that beauty mag advice! But the pet thing - that's always a good indicator of a man in general, how he treats small innocent animals. I think its hard to tell. Usually it takes a few times anyway to get rid of the 'first-time' nerves and stuff.
How open is he? Is he descriptive in his speaking? Does he have enthusiasm?
I've found that the more eloquent a guy is the better he is in bed... if he uses the same words over and over and over things might get a little dull after a while... of course if you like that caveman quality...
Another thing, is he confident, when he touches you... How much does he touch you? Does he undress you with his eyes?
If he's all about how great he is or how big his cock is or how many women he's been with.... watch out.
Mostly just talk to him and see if you're compatible... it's really not that hard... if you get a kick out of being dominated (for example) and say something that suggests you have this side to you... as in "sorry I couldn't take your call I was tied up... not literally, unfortunately" (or whatever) Well if he reacts in a negative way then you might want to watch out...
I told the guy I'm seeing on our second date that all girls should have a vibrator... he didn't run away... he swerved a little in the car, but I think he appreciated the honsesty... and I knew we'd be compatible as soon as I kissed him.
I've found that the more eloquent a guy is the better he is in bed... if he uses the same words over and over and over things might get a little dull after a while... of course if you like that caveman quality...
Another thing, is he confident, when he touches you... How much does he touch you? Does he undress you with his eyes?
If he's all about how great he is or how big his cock is or how many women he's been with.... watch out.
Mostly just talk to him and see if you're compatible... it's really not that hard... if you get a kick out of being dominated (for example) and say something that suggests you have this side to you... as in "sorry I couldn't take your call I was tied up... not literally, unfortunately" (or whatever) Well if he reacts in a negative way then you might want to watch out...
I told the guy I'm seeing on our second date that all girls should have a vibrator... he didn't run away... he swerved a little in the car, but I think he appreciated the honsesty... and I knew we'd be compatible as soon as I kissed him.
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I have to agree: how a man treats those whom he perceives as "vulnerable" whether they are small children, critters, birds, butterflies, etc., is a great key to his character. And attentiveness, when genuine, is truly flattering and can be a great key to his attitudes in bed....
But, it's in his eyes: honesty, honor, character, passion, devotedness, fire, intelligence (and believe me, the greater a man's intelligence, the closer that "union of souls"!), that primal I-might-be-jealous-of-competition fervor, his respect for the YOU-you, and his love for you. It shows in his eyes. But believe me, if there's no love, that union, physical or - I'm assuming - otherwise, just won't be.... It'll be zugzug, but it won't, it can't, be lovemaking.
And when he is truly devoted to you and to being a (good) permanent part of your life, even if the trust issue is somewhat faulty, good or adequate sex can become a wonderful connection. And revitalizing for your relationship.
I have to agree: how a man treats those whom he perceives as "vulnerable" whether they are small children, critters, birds, butterflies, etc., is a great key to his character. And attentiveness, when genuine, is truly flattering and can be a great key to his attitudes in bed....
But, it's in his eyes: honesty, honor, character, passion, devotedness, fire, intelligence (and believe me, the greater a man's intelligence, the closer that "union of souls"!), that primal I-might-be-jealous-of-competition fervor, his respect for the YOU-you, and his love for you. It shows in his eyes. But believe me, if there's no love, that union, physical or - I'm assuming - otherwise, just won't be.... It'll be zugzug, but it won't, it can't, be lovemaking.
And when he is truly devoted to you and to being a (good) permanent part of your life, even if the trust issue is somewhat faulty, good or adequate sex can become a wonderful connection. And revitalizing for your relationship.
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It just occurred to me that "It's In His Kiss (The Shoop Shoop Song)" might be amusing here...
Does he love me
I wanna know
How can I tell if he loves me so?
(Is it in his eyes?) Oh no,
You'll be deceived
(Is it in his eyes?) Oh no,
He'll make believe
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
(Or is it in his face?) Oh no
It's just his charm
(In his warm embrace?) Oh no
That's just his arms
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
Kiss him and squeeze him tight
And find out what you wanna know
If it's love if it really is
It's there in his kiss
(About the way he acts?) Oh no
That's not the way
And you're not listening
To all that I say
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
(Lyrics taken from http://www.lyricscafe.com/s/shepard_vonda/012.htm - no idea if they're accurate)
Does he love me
I wanna know
How can I tell if he loves me so?
(Is it in his eyes?) Oh no,
You'll be deceived
(Is it in his eyes?) Oh no,
He'll make believe
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
(Or is it in his face?) Oh no
It's just his charm
(In his warm embrace?) Oh no
That's just his arms
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
Kiss him and squeeze him tight
And find out what you wanna know
If it's love if it really is
It's there in his kiss
(About the way he acts?) Oh no
That's not the way
And you're not listening
To all that I say
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
(Lyrics taken from http://www.lyricscafe.com/s/shepard_vonda/012.htm - no idea if they're accurate)
