Good Bye

[jixerguy]

For the past two years I’ve lived a double live, one defined by the computer. When I was away from it I was a loving husband and father. On the pc I am quite different. I am the person that a few of you have gotten to know and an even fewer love. I have been blessed to make a few friends and lovers. My time here has been wonderful, but it must end

I saw my wife the other night. She was so beautiful, just sitting here being ‘her.’ I can’t describe how amazing she is and how her beauty just pierced me. I am being so very unfair to her and to myself. She truly is the light of my world. I should be totally devoted to her. She deserves my fidelity and faithfulness. This was a difficult decision in so many ways. I will miss Lit and all my friends here.

I want to say a special goodbye to two very important people.

Rosy, my first true friend and lover. You brought me into the community. Made me part of it. Introduced me to so many people and expanded my world. You taught me so very much. About Lit. About love.

You are a dazzling woman and one that any man would beg to be with. My time with you was a blessing and an honor. You have an inner strength to match your outer beauty and I envy the next man that falls for your charms. I do love you and I will miss you.

I also want to say goodbye to Alonelygal. My pet. I was wrong to keep you hidden. I was wrong about a lot of things. You made me very proud. I should have been strong and announced you to the world. I’m sorry I didn’t.

I love you. You brought out desires that I never knew I had. You were and are amazing. You mean more to me than there are words to describe. I’ll miss you. Part of me will always regret that we never touched.

To anyone I’ve lied to or hurt, I am so very sorry. It’s not much, but it is all I can give. I hope you all find what you are looking for, I know I have. Goodbye.

 

[alonelygal]

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[rosylady]

YOU BITCH. How dare you. How dare you say you loved him. He was mine and mine alone. I can't believe I was lied to. God I'm so sick right now.

 

[rosylady]

I can't believe Jix lied to me and just ripped my heart and stomped on it like this.

 

[Joey3308]

Wow....can't wait till the movie version comes out

 

[rosylady]

Wow....can't wait till the movie version comes out

Make fucking jokes when somebody is hurting. Real nice.

 

[Joey3308]

Make fucking jokes when somebody is hurting. Real nice.

Oh, sorry...didn't think you were airing laundry for pity


Aw, you poor thing....hurt by a guy....gosh, gee, that sure never happened to anyone before


Lighten up...shake it off....get over it....there's lots of fishies out there for ya

 

[Arden]

I don't normally respond to "Goodbye" threads nowadays, but I'd like to applaud you for your honesty... and the fact that you're brave enough to share your choice with others here.

We all come here for wide variety of reasons, be it reading, writing, or sharing friendships that we might not have otherwise. Sometimes, we connect with others in ways that we'd not expect to while never having met in person. Right or wrong, you may become a better person for having made those relationships if you can look at them realistically.

I stumbled upon Lit accidentally, and I found myself - almost two years later - in a wonderful relationship with someone very special. I didn't believe in online romance or dating, but time proved me wrong. But I wasn't married, and didn't have to deal with the emotions of those that maintain more than one relationship at a time. I feel for those that don't have something at home that causes them to frequent places like Lit. God knows there are some wonderful married folk here who are committed, yet are still dying for interaction... even if only on an intellectual level. Stuff happens, though.

When you get involved with more than one person online, though, you're going to have problems somewhere down the line. I think we've all seen it or experienced it. Especially the alt Lit names that suddenly pop up out of nowhere. People that deliberately create new names to hide relationships, IMHO, suck. Just like having 5 different screen names at AOL, Yahoo or Hotmail. If you've created them to maintain behind the scenes relationships, shame on you. Why not just be honest in the first place?

I've seen a lot of destruction caused by the fallout from hidden online relationships. It hurts no less than the pain caused by a breakup of a real life attachment. Hurt is hurt, period!

I'm glad that you've taken another look at your wife, and saw in her the person that you once loved. You're very lucky to be able to do that, for many that isn't an option. I could never go back 10 years and love my ex again, but things were complicated by his long term addiction to drugs and alcohol. (I'm going to stop here, it's past history now)

While I don't think that I know your "Pet," (although I might by another Lit name if revealed) I do somewhat know Rosy. While we aren't best friends, I will say this...

Keep your head up, Rosy. You'll get through this!{{{Hugs}}}

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HOWEVER, jixerguy, I sincerely hope that you aren't using this thread as a means to say goodbye to Rosy, and reincarnate yourself and your Pet into new Lit alts under the guise of reconnecting with your wife. That would really suck!

 

[alonelygal]

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[69forever]

I looked at this thread four times now before deciding to throw my cent and a half in.

There's another thread here on the boards, called "Is Cybering Cheating?" or something like that. I've purposely foregone it, except for a first few looks. It pisses me off. Of course it is!

In the year that I've been part of this community....I've seen a lot. Been witness to and drawn into some pretty dirty shit. Done by people who take persona's and histories here like people brush their teeth. I never research people here. My trusting nature. 'Cause with me it's always the same person, just evolving and growing. I guess it's foolish to expect the same from other adults, no matter what has led them here.

I was single when coming here. Met some wonderful, truly enrapturing women....started to engage in more, and found out they were married. I stopped it. Met a woman who is the joy of my life...here on Lit. *still shake my head about that* It can work. Most of these other women are now some of my closest friends....because we were honest and did the right thing. They honestly wish me and my love the best. THAT is the community I speak of. Not porn, not cybering....honest human relations.

If you are sincere, you won't even see this.

{{{{ Rosey }}}} add your name to the list of people who have experienced the dark side of Lit. I am sorry for you.

Preditors are just that....to carry on multiple relationships here is not only cheating on your R/L spouse....it is dispicable to everyone.

*edited to say* Good thing this is only my opinion.

 

[cookiejar]

I would be impressed with Jixerguy returning to his wife if he hadn't started this thread. Exactly what was the purpose of this thread? All this could have been said in PMs. This brought it out in the open, why post it?

If he cared so much for either lady, keep it private. I truly liked Jix and thought he was above this.

Joey, I have said it before and I'll say it again...you are dealing with real people here, not a keyboard. I'm glad you can seperate your feelings here, unfortunately a lot of us can't. What you wrote was inexcusable, I hope you enjoyed hurting Rosy.

Sorry, but this pisses me off.

 

[~Dream~]

where do I begin??
I totally agree with Cookie ,1st of all..and.. you also sweet Arden ,well said ( applauds)

as for you Joey ,you are an insensitive moron...

I met my Current Bf Dracoa Online here at lit almost 2 yrs ago and we have had our Ups and downs ,however It can and does work as long as people are Honest with each other ...

YA lie online ,you will lie off as well and if there is no trust,there really is No relationship at all...Rosy ,Is my friend as well , and she certainly didnt deserve all this drama....it should have been kept private...thats My opinion if anyone dont like it ,too damn bad..LOL

 

[Joey3308]

I would be impressed with Jixerguy returning to his wife if he hadn't started this thread. Exactly what was the purpose of this thread? All this could have been said in PMs. This brought it out in the open, why post it?

If he cared so much for either lady, keep it private. I truly liked Jix and thought he was above this.

Joey, I have said it before and I'll say it again...you are dealing with real people here, not a keyboard. I'm glad you can seperate your feelings here, unfortunately a lot of us can't. What you wrote was inexcusable, I hope you enjoyed hurting Rosy.

Sorry, but this pisses me off.

Like you said...all of this could've been done in the PM's. I enjoy making fun about the ridiculous spectacle that someone has chosen to make public...I think its pathetic and hilarious and I find it hard to believe that anyone of average intelligence can allow themselves get upset over such crap....this is the internet...its supposed to be fun

 

[cookiejar]

Like you said...all of this could've been done in the PM's. I enjoy making fun about the ridiculous spectacle that someone has chosen to make public...I think its pathetic and hilarious and I find it hard to believe that anyone of average intelligence can allow themselves get upset over such crap....this is the internet...its supposed to be fun

My god you are an asshole. Talk about pathetic.

 

[Joey3308]

My god you are an asshole. Talk about pathetic.

Oooo name calling.....real cool

 

[~Dream~]

Like you said...all of this could've been done in the PM's. I enjoy making fun about the ridiculous spectacle that someone has chosen to make public...I think its pathetic and hilarious and I find it hard to believe that anyone of average intelligence can allow themselves get upset over such crap....this is the internet...its supposed to be fun

Yo asswipe ..or should i say attention - seeker
it may just be the net for you but the last time I looked , we were all REAL ppl on here with REAL feelings , so stick that in your piehole ...

its really SAD when people online cant be more compassionate with others ,makes ya wonder what REAL ASSHOLES they are offline

 

[shyly curious]

Like you said...all of this could've been done in the PM's. I enjoy making fun about the ridiculous spectacle that someone has chosen to make public...I think its pathetic and hilarious and I find it hard to believe that anyone of average intelligence can allow themselves get upset over such crap....this is the internet...its supposed to be fun

well joey, you are wrong... if you wanted to make fun of jixer, that is fine as he made the public airing, you could have done so in a pm or three, but to openly and publiclly tease and pick on and make fun of Rosy is just horrid, mean, thoughtless. Real emotions are not crap and you might want to learn some manners. you make me embarrassed to be a male.

if you think what you said and how you said it was "fun" for any of the parties involved you are truly warped, and for that i pity you.

 

[Missingmeds]

Oh, sorry...didn't think you were airing laundry for pity


Aw, you poor thing....hurt by a guy....gosh, gee, that sure never happened to anyone before


Lighten up...shake it off....get over it....there's lots of fishies out there for ya

And now maybe we all know why some men are single and looking.

Arden I agree one hundred percent with you, as usual. The thing is that even if you do the research, even if you meet in r/l sometimes it is all just not enough. I have heard many stories of bad marriages and how someone is not getting what they need at home. It does happen.

But some, well some are just players and liars. It is what they are and always will be. Married or not, male or female. They hide behind a screen persona and live out their fantasies while still sliding into bed with a SO every night. They don't care or mind who they hurt as long as they get what THEY need.

Then once it is to the point that the scam gets out of their control, we see one of these goodbye threads. Their way out without taking responsibility for what they have caused.

*Shakes head* So very sad....

 

[~Dream~]

<< stands up and appaluds at shyly and missing ... well said indeed

 

[rosylady]

Please I'm begging you all to just let this thread die.

 

[Joey3308]

Please I'm begging you all to just let this thread die.

Yeah, good idea Rosy...let it die. I don't feel like discussing hypocrisy with a bunch of people that like to pass judgement on others they don't even know

 

[jrs259]

Feelings

Maybe this could have been done with PM's but I think people find something here on Lit that they don't in Real Life. And maybe they do let their feelings get to involved, but as the girls before me said, they are real people. I have had many women on here who said they wanted a relationship and after a bit they just disappeared. I did not and will never try to degrade them and I think it is pretty bad when someone gets a kick out of doing that.
I just go out and find someone else.
I hope both the ladies here can do the same.

 

[Tx girl]

Joey, you deserve every word thats been said to you. YOU are a dick. You don't know Rosy, she's a very sweet and dear friend of mine. I do hope one day you feel pain like she's feeling.

Sis big huggggggggs i love ya, and you know where to find me.

alonelygal- if you knew he was talking to someone here already online why in the hell would you still chase after him, or even let him come close to you? Im sorry but in my opinion its just plain wrong. I would never ever do that to anyone if i knew there was someone else he was with here. You don't do that to people. As cookie said yeah this is the internet but there is a person on the other side of that screen, a person that feels hurt and pain just like anyone else. Seriously it was pure crap.