"God telling you..."

[viking3]

There's an old saying that an orgasm is God's signal to stop and go to sleep. However, I'm past the age of good orgasms, but not past the age of erections and sex. So I need to know when to stop. Somehow, asking "Can I stop now?" isn't really romantic; "Has it happened?" isn't any better. And I hate to just keep pushing until I get tired or she goes to sleep!!

So I need some suggestions from you smart-and-tactful folks out there.

Just for the record, we both enjoy cuddling before and after and can still work up a pretty good sweat. Neither of us is frustrated by not having one.

thanks

viking3

 

[SweetErika]

I've never heard such a saying. Where is it from?

Have you talked to your partner about this and asked her to tell you when she's ready to call it quits and cuddle?

 

[swampydonkey]

good logic man. I like this. orgasm is satisfaction when you have it you would not take further action for sex. but many people can take orgasm 2 or 3 times. they are extraordinary to me.

 

[viking3]

no idea where it came from Erika; one of those things I heard once and it stuck. Thanks for the advice.

viking3

 

[NippleMuncher]

Thanks to the many fine female contributors here I've learned that good or great sex from the woman's perspective doesn't necessarily require an orgasm. That is not to say that a damned good attempt at making it happen isn't in order, only that it doesn't always have to be about the "O".

Men tend to judge good sex by how quickly they can get off OR by how many orgasms they can give their partner before they pop one off themselves. If you change your perspective of having the great and mighty "O" as the goal, you can have fantastic sex and intimacy without orgasm be every bit as fulfilling.

As I have gotten older, I've come to realize that I do not need to ejaculate to have a fulfilling intimate encounter. It's great! It's always the goal, but if it doesn't happen, and this has occurred on occasion, it's not that big a deal for either me or my partner. The times that lack of orgasm occurs tends to be under high stress, excess alcohol, or extreme exhaustion. If any of these things are a "normal" part of your daily routine, then you should rethink your priorities and try to reduce at least some if not all three. You'll quickly find an increase in libido, stamina, orgasm, and generally a better temperament.

 

[monteJ]

my rule of thumb is 3 to 1, the 3 in her favor of course.

 

[viking3]

Unfortunately, NippleMuncher, the applicable "normal"part of my routine is age, though momentary stress occurs as well. Thanks for responding.

viking3