God Damn Manipulative Bastard!!!! (Caution...Ranting and Raving Inside)

Isolde

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Sorry people...I know this is a pure rant and rave thread and I know I am going to get trolled but I dont give a damn! I have been having this pent up inside all day and I have to get it out somehow. I dont ask for sympathy...I dont ask for understanding. I simply need a safe place to blow off some steam. I am asking you all for your indulgence.

Okay..here is the story...

I am up here with Imoen because my son of a bitch husband of the last five years had finally dragged me through one too many emotional and mental abuses. I had gotten tired of the 'give me one more chance' followed by the emotional blackmail when I said no. In fact the asshole did not believe I was really going until I packed up the kids and headed out the door.

After I got here (Imoen was a sweetie and paid my way, btw. She is true friend and I love her to death) I found out that he had gotten on my AIM name and begin to IM people I talk to ...even some here at Lit. Sometimes he pretended to be me (hard due to his dyslexia) and was trying to get info about their relationships with me I guess.

I was furious and told him that if he thought I was coming back to that then he could drag up another thought. I felt safe and not under so much pressure. I later found out that he went that day and got his check and left for his hometown in UT where he was born and raised. (We had moved down to AZ with my parents just before me coming here and, even though I told him to stay in UT, he manipulated his way into coming.)

Let me tell you how this guy is...I once told him he would be a great stalker..and ment it. He once told me that even if I left he would be able to find me and come after me. This marriage should have been over three years after it happened (hey, I dont regret my little ones. What can I say).

So now I learn that the son of a bitch, asswipe went back up to his hometown....where he knows everyone and where everyone likes him....and tells everyone that I took his last paycheck and took of for TN with the kids. I also found out that he told my 15 yr old daughter who is staying with her dad in WI (my first husband) that I not only abandoned him but but her and her brother (my 14 yr old also up in WI) too.

Now, I know these are lies and I know that my daughter didnt believe him and said nothing to my son (bless that girl for having a head on her shoulders) but dammit! those were only a few in a long string of lies to manipulate and he cant even let it go when it is over but has to manipulate everyone who knows him too.

This just burns me up!!!! I know..I know..get over it and, believe it or not, this is one of the ways I am trying to do that. Just posting it all out here has helped me and I thank you for putting up with it....

Well, I am back to single motherhood and looking for a job and place to stay but I think I am going to make it. I will be damned if I am going to let that asshole defeat me in any shape or form.

Thanks all you Literoticans for letting me get my thoughts out and straight....I love ya all!!!
 
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*looks at the NO REPLIES and wants too grrr at everyone*

*runs up to Isolde and wraps arms tighr around her holding her* You know im always here babe... im never never not gonna be.. i love ya a lot and im so so proud you got out of there. I know he is an idiot.. words a lot worse than that too but you know I dont cuss..

I really hope you start feeling better real soon. I know you have the support of everyone around here. AND me and everyone else I know your close to. ALWAYS! *hugs you tight*

Your a wonderful wonderful woman and yes your daughter is the greatest! hehe. Your doing a great job considering whats all been going on and I think im more proud of you than anyone.. and even if I gotta hitch hike over there to TN im not gonna let ya fall. :)

Love ya babe...


Your bestest friend...

-Joe aka MysteryJKR
 
*hugs ya back*

And dont sweat the no replies, hon...I simply asked to be allowed to rant a bit and everyone did.

I appreciate the hugs but I appreciate that they simply let the thread stand on it's own without any trolling.
 
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It sounds like you are very brave Isolde. I think you will make it too. :) You have yourself and your kids, that's the most important thing.
 
Thanks beckbabe..

and as long as I have my friends and a safe place to hide from the world for just a little bit I will be fine.
 
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*pushes Mystery into the pool so he will stop the freakin hopping up and down*

Thanks, DA, you are such a sweetie.....
 
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Isn't the hardest step actually leaving- getting your feet out that door? You've done that. And you seem to have the fighting spirit that you will need to get you through whatever is ahead. Good luck in your new life!
 
Yeah it is Cheyenne. Took me three long years.

It just really hurts me that he would go around slandering me like that.

And thanks, hon, I have to make it. I gots little ones counting on me.
 
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no no no!! *grabs you and pulls you in with me. grabbing you again i keep hopping up and down* its my birthday!! and because of how wonderful you are!! you made it better than most years!! im not gonna let up on it and you. your hopping with me!! *hugs you tight*
 
Best of luck to you Isolde. You do what is best for you & your kids. I will be sending good thoughts your way & hoping things go well for you. Your daughter sounds like a bright young lady, you have a right to be proud of her. Take care. Teresa
 
Thanks terresa and everyone with well wishes.

With support like this how can I fail?
 
Best Wishes for a very special lady.

I'm in my third marriage so I know the breaking up routine. It sure is important to have good friends and sounds like you have those in Real Life as well as here.

Need a broad shoulder some time, mine is available.
 
what is it about obsessive people?

People who follow ex's across several states are complete losers. Why can't they just get on with their lives and not harass people who do not want them around. It makes you look foolish and dangerous to do this. Plus, it's against the law. Just find someone else, damn.


By the way, Isolde, stay strong and courageous
 
*Smooches Puddles on the nose*

Thanks to all of you.

The support here has been overwhelming and muchly appreciated. Things WILL work out. I just have to turn on my determination is all.
 
Sorry

Read the thread title and thought you were talking to me!<slips silently away>:eek:
 
We don't know each other all that well though I read your posts and we've interacted a bit...

But I did want to add my wishes that all works out well for you. *hug*
 
GAHHH!! I totally missed this thread yesterday! :( You are so strong to have taken these measures honey, and I think it's wonderful that you're putting yourself and your kids into a better situation. You deserve all the luck and hugs in the world!!
 
You will make it. I have the greatest faith in you.......

:)

Loves ya girlie
 
Thanks everyone....

That means so much to me and LMM...I will get them.

He has been thrown out of the house by DCFS in Utah for his actions towards my 14 yr old son. If I have to I will use that to my advantage.
 
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