Giving Head For the First Time

[PureSexiness15]

Hey. I have never given my boyfriend head. He goes down on me for about 10-15mins each time to make sure I get multiple orgasms and I love every minute of it. He says he loves to eat me because I'm like a super soaker down there. But when he's done he just put on his condom and we start to have sex. I want to try to give him head. He never asked me to do it before and I think he knows I don't know how maybe that is the reason. He probably just don't want to come out and ask me to give him head. We've been together over a year and he never even attempted to put it in my mouth! Why? I want to try to give him the best head ever because he makes me feel so good. How do I go about doing it? I am sort of a perfectionist so if everything isn't done perfectly, I will be disappointed in myself. Could y'all help me out? What do you men like? Women what do you do to please your man?

 

[silverwhisper]

welcome to lit!

i think it's great you wanna do that for your bf and i applaud you doing the research. try looking at the linked threads in this post, esp this one.

for my part, i love oral, either giving or receiving, although truth be told, i think i prefer giving it. the mrs doesn't appear to have too many issues with that preference.

some guys dig on the gentle use of teeth; some really dislike it. i'm in the latter, for my part.

just bear in mind that whatever others who respond to this thread say they prefer, the only opinion that really matters here is your guy. you're probably going to need to experiment the first time a little to see what does or doesn't rock his world.

have good sex!

ed

 

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[fire_breeze]

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My advice would be to offer. Tell him what you told us, that you really want to give him head, that you're nervous because you haven't done it before and fear you won't be good. Even better, ask permission to suck his cock! (Oh, wait...that might just be what I would like...sorry). Just tell him.

Or just do it (although I like J's idea of asking permission, but I digress.) When you and your boyfriend are playing, slowly make your way down and play with him. You could ask if it feels good and try different technique. Like not every woman is the same way, the same goes with the male species: not every man likes receiving head the same way.

As for the perfectionist thing, I completely and totally understand, being one myself. The way I see it, if I want my partner's pleasure, I better make sure that my partner gives feedback. I try to clue in, listen to him, gauge his body language, and go from there. And besides, it's quite possible that your boyfriend isn't quite sure what gets his rocks off, so this might be a wonderful time to experiment and to figure it out together.

And welcome to LIT

 

[Mac98]

I agree with all three previous posts. It's all relative to each individual. Heck, some even prefer head to actual sex! I strongly suggest you talk about it with your boyfriend.

But, to answer your question, the basic rules are really simple: Remember that you're *sucking* rather than just putting it in your mouth and bobbing your head (again, though, this is relative to everyone) and use plenty of saliva. Spit is the world's best lube... at least according to Jenna Jameson, and she seems to know a thing or two about sex.

 

[silverwhisper]

something i forgot to mention earlier: some men have an actual active dislike for receiving oral. i have one friend who does: it relates to some very unfortunate and traumatic experiences he had as a child. like fire_breeze, i also second the idea of asking permission.

ed

 

[horsie_gurl]

Okay my first thoughts were also on the topic of talking to him. If you two have been together for a year and are sexually active, I would hope that you are also open to talking about sex. However I would go about it by asking him if I can give him oral sex. If he knows that you want to try it and he was just being considerate then he should agree, otherwise his reasons will come up anyway.

Second thing I thought of, and I'm not sure anyone touched on it here, is to ask him what he likes. We didn't become good at oral sex right away. I was sloppy the first time and needed help the second time. Basically, if he knows it's your first time. He can direct you to what is good. Being a perfectionist myself, I understand your need to be good, but you have to accept that everyone is different and in order to be great you are going to need to ask for help. Basic rules: put him in your mouth, don't try deep throat right away (choking on the first suck is a mood killer), and don't bite (unless its nibbling or soft and he likes it, but don't assume a man likes to be bit). Then try different things with your tongue, try different pressure with his lips. Ask him to tell you when something doesn't feel right so you can explore other techniques. when you hear him moan it's a good thing. Haha, just have fun. And try something new every time. it makes it more interesting and you might think you know what he likes, but you could find something even better.

 

[WTB_1]

I really like how much advice you've been given in the previous replies.

The one thing you may want to do, as I didn't see where anyone said this, is to practice on a dildo or other similar object.

I prefer a lot of licking up and down the shaft, and kissing the head while sucking it slowly in your mouth. There's also the rolling his balls in your hand. Try not to combine the giving head with a handjob, try to do it handless.

You'll also have to think about whay you'll so when he cums; swallow, spit or let it go somewhere, like a part of your body.

Try to read some stories here in Literotica as to how others learned.

Everyone seems to agree you should talk openly about it. I agree to the point you ask him once you start what he likes. There's a very sensitive area on the penis, in front just below the head and upwards. Its sort of like the g-spot or clit on a cock.

Good blow jobs to you.

 

[infinity706]

Okay my first thoughts were also on the topic of talking to him. If you two have been together for a year and are sexually active, I would hope that you are also open to talking about sex. However I would go about it by asking him if I can give him oral sex. If he knows that you want to try it and he was just being considerate then he should agree, otherwise his reasons will come up anyway.

Second thing I thought of, and I'm not sure anyone touched on it here, is to ask him what he likes. We didn't become good at oral sex right away. I was sloppy the first time and needed help the second time. Basically, if he knows it's your first time. He can direct you to what is good. Being a perfectionist myself, I understand your need to be good, but you have to accept that everyone is different and in order to be great you are going to need to ask for help. Basic rules: put him in your mouth, don't try deep throat right away (choking on the first suck is a mood killer), and don't bite (unless its nibbling or soft and he likes it, but don't assume a man likes to be bit). Then try different things with your tongue, try different pressure with his lips. Ask him to tell you when something doesn't feel right so you can explore other techniques. when you hear him moan it's a good thing. Haha, just have fun. And try something new every time. it makes it more interesting and you might think you know what he likes, but you could find something even better.

I'd have to say gagging is just fine as long as it doesn't get you too upset. I've done it tons of times, especially with the whole face fucking part getting a bit overly enthusiastic. I've even puked on a few guys before and it didn't kill the mood. I just wiped it off and kept going. That tends to lead to deliberate attempts to gag me, though, and the poor guy shoved against the wall while I practically shove my tongue down his throat...

 

[Tigera]

Don't forget the tongue!

I like to flick it around inside my mouth when I'm down there. Also, if he's a bit on the large side, you can use your tongue a lot on his head if you're scared of gagging.

For me, though, the key is to really enjoy it yourself (or look like you are!). Give him a naughty glance or two, make some noise, enjoy his whole cock (and balls if he likes that), and HAVE FUN!

Good luck!

 

[albertaboy]

More than anything enthusiasm sells.

 

[pinkflames]

Even though most people here are recommending taking his cock into your mouth, I don't think that is absolutely necessary. Two of my most memorable times were when I didn't take the guy in much at all.

One of these times, I was a little shy with the guy concerned and just licked and nuzzled his cock. After his orgasm, he told me he was the luckiest guy on Earth.

The other occasion worth mentioning was when I broke the teeth rule. I nibbled him for the entire time. He still claims, five years later, that was his most memorable blowjob.

I would suggest, rather than asking straight out, that you plant kisses or run your tongue across his chest, down over his tummy and linger in the vicinity of his penis, maybe paying attention to his inner thighs while you're at it. Deliberately miss his penis and observe his responses. If he pulls you back up to his level, or pushes you away, it's possibly a lost cause. If he gasps in anticipation, lifts his crotch up to meet you, smiles in a devillish way or tries to guide you down onto him, you've got him. What you do then is really up to you, don't worry about lack of skill, follow your gut instinct and do what comes naturally. Even if you're not "very good" the first couple of times, he's most likely going be over the moon that your mouth is on his cock!

 

[intruder52]

Well I have found out that some men do not enjoy BJ's. I am 57 years old and found out a friend of mine is totally against it, yes I told him he is bizarr...lol.

would ask first, my guess he will accept your invitation to explore further your sexuality.

 

[PureSexiness15]

Thanks

Thanks for the advice guys!

 

[CWatson]

One of these times, I was a little shy with the guy concerned and just licked and nuzzled his cock. After his orgasm, he told me he was the luckiest guy on Earth.

That would definitely get me going.

Obviously, my personal tastes might be nothing like your boyfriend's, but being interacted with directly is a turn-on for me. What I mean is that you're not just there doing things to his penis; that's cool and all, but the same thing happens in masturbation (except with his hand replacing your mouth), so it's nothing special. If you're in contact with him--showing him love and affection; same as a hug or a kiss, only involving different body parts--it's a very different experience. Smiling and making eye contact can go a long way in this regard.

And, if he has any brains in the world, he'll understand if you fumble a little bit. But don't be worried. We guys aren't especially complicated, pleasure-wise. If all else fails, remember the in-out / up-down motion that most sex revolves around. If you can achieve that on his cock, he'll probably have an orgasm.

Hope this helps!

 

[miaction69]

don't be scared
if it's turning u on - ur mouth will just go into auto pilot

 

[Berwyn]

let us know how it goes

 

[ms_intrigue]

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