Girls!

[CharleyH]

Do you find yourself having sex with dudes? Even as an identifying lesbian?

 

[Night_Jasmine]

No, thankfully. I'm not a man hater but simply because of my background, I can't do that anymore. I won't.

rather deal with my trusty vibe

 

[PredatorSmile]

Do you find yourself having sex with dudes? Even as an identifying lesbian?

I once thought I was a lesbian. I met a girl, fell for her, came out. I even briefly lived with a woman in college. Then, I met a tall, good-looking, macho B-ball player on campus. That was Aaron. He pissed me off. He challenged me. He got on my nerves. I thought he was just another jock. Turns out, he was smart, nice and cool. A good man.
I fell for him. People saw me as "the traitorous bisexual woman with her straight boyfriend". They didn't know Aaron was bisexual, just like me.
Now, we live together.


Oh, and whenever I ran into my lesbian ex-friends, and see their nasty glares, I lick a lollypop, just to piss them off....and let them know about the activity I love performing on my boyfriend !!!!

 

[privyjo]

Answer - no.

 

[CelestialNight]

Nonononono. No guys.

The word lesbian indicates only females, If a so called lesbian sleeps with guys, I highly doubt she's actually a lesbian. She's probably just trying to impress someone by saying she is, or she's highly confused, or highly illiterate and does not know what the word means.

 

[neonflux]

Nonononono. No guys.

The word lesbian indicates only females, If a so called lesbian sleeps with guys, I highly doubt she's actually a lesbian. She's probably just trying to impress someone by saying she is, or she's highly confused, or highly illiterate and does not know what the word means.

Many years ago now, I knew a group of Leatherwomen, many of whose members sometimes played with men, sometimes including genital sex, because they liked to "walk the edge." I think that, despite their behavior, most of them were lesbians in the sense that their cultural identity, sexual and affectional orientations were, except for these occasional forays, very much women-directed...

I know, a little odd... and perhaps more of a BDSM thing.

 

[SophiaY]

I think of identity as if they were the Elements. Some can mix together well, like Fire and Air, and some simply can't, like Water and Fire.

So, elemently and elementary, no.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Ok, I am going to pull out my lesbian with a twist card. I know a person who is a lesbian, but she has found a soulmate, at times. Who is male. And there are NO bdsm in that relationship. So lesbian or not, it is not the issue, identity if the issue here. So those who babbles about a lesbian is only a woman, who loves women. is correct, but there are people who is the exception to the rule. And yes, there are even gay guys who sleeps with women, and all that "bla bla". Labels schmabels. It is up the individiual , not the rule.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

If a woman can have sex with both and enjoy it, in my mind that makes her bisexual. *shrugs* I'm one of the kinds that fake it around men (namely ex). I've never been able to enjoy being around guys in an intimate situation.

Now women...my first time I was like, holy crap what was that? Her response - that, dear girl, is what an orgasm is supposed to feel like.

lol...it's based on person, reaction, and comforts I think.

 

[Anniejustagirl]

Do you find yourself having sex with dudes? Even as an identifying lesbian?

i don't, but i have a few friends that do....

Took me a long while to wrap my head around a lesbian that sleeps with guys... but i Think i get it now... Sexuality is so fluid. For me...the tag is more about emotional connection, than body parts. What about some of the fabulous trans women that i have met and dated that were more woman than i could ever dream of being... and many had that energy well before hormones or surgeries!

Finding a 'soul mate' that is male?! I think you lose your membership card for that one... and i don't see anything wrong with testing the waters. Being Bi takes a bum rap, but i feel that life is all a bell curve. Most fall in the middle... not either extreme

To address what Predator has shared... i just do NOT understand people in the community getting angry over someone finding love. Total waste of time... My vote is for happiness. What an amazing gift love is.... wallow in it and damn the nay sayers.

i haven't done a male in well over 20 years, but my motto... never say never. You just end up cursing yoiurself that way. and limiting yourself as well!

 

[ravenmx]

I don't. I haven't had sex with a man in 20 years.

Could it happen, yeah maybe.

However I didn't enjoy it much then and I doubt I would enjoy it much now. I don't hate guys, in fact most of my best friends are male. I just don't enjoy sex with guys.