Girlfriends Best Friend

[Wyatt]

Hi all,
Just running this past you to see what you think.Basically several months ago me and my girlfriends(We cohabit)best friend got drunk.She gave me a wonderful blowjob in a park(Not exactly romeo and Juliet).Unfortunately I was that wasted I failed to take advantage and didn't have full sex.I have regretted it ever since but don't know how to approach the subject with her.She was full of remorse(Allegedly).She also told me that if I was with anyone but her best friend she'd fuck my brains out.I might appear a total bastard but consider the following;

1.My girlfriend will only try the missionary position
2.She doesn't give oral
3.She doesn't want me to give HER oral
4.We have been together 8 years
5.Her friend loves giving and receiving oral
6.Her friend is totally HOT!!
7.I only get sex about every couple of months

Any ideas on how to progress

wyatt@literotica.org for more info or feedback


God I needed to get that off my chest!!

 

[NoRegrets]

You poor thing, this could be ugly!

You have to accept the fact that you are a bastard
regardless of how many good reasons there are.
Her best friend is strictly prohibited.

It sounds like you’ve decided what you are going to
do as of posting this thread. If you and the best
friend seem headed that way, being up front will
result in the least pain for everyone. Certainly avoid
using honesty as a weapon but if you are unhappy
with the current gf you should first end that relationship
as cleanly as possible.

You have my condolences and best of luck!

 

[Quint]

I know that what I say next will undoubtedly set off the moderators and I'll be expelled from the forum, never to be seen again, but here goes....

There is more to a relationship than sex.

Yeah, your lady's best friend sounds like a good fuck...or several good fucks. But you say that you've been with your girlfriend for 8 years. There has GOT to be something else between you, otherwise why the hell have you stuck around this long? Maybe you are just now realizing that there isn't as much between you as you thought before, but DON'T let your testicles decide your fate for you! 8 years is a helluva long committment to throw away because Chick B gives head. I suggest instead you talk things through with your woman and slowly but steadily break down those silly Puritan inhibitions she has, if you can.

Seriously, man, weigh the pros and cons. Actually, masturbate first, and THEN weigh them. You need clear thinking on this one.

 

[CuriouslilQT]

Honestly, If I were you I would speak to my girlfriend about how you feel about your sex life. yea it shouldnt be the key factor in a relationship but it does effect it a lot. Since you guys been together for eight years you should consider and you probably do her feelings if she found out. THIS SHIT COULD HURT HER LIKE A BITCH!!! And you should be mature enough to tell her about how frustrated you are sexually. And sex may not be important to her but it becoming an issue for you.
Take care and REAL GOOD LUCK!
AND DONTTTTTTT GO FOR THE BESTFRIEND!

 

[Sunny One]

You might try focusing your sexual energy on your girl, not the best friend. Make your girl feel pretty, sexy, and desired. Tell her what you like. TALK about why she is opposed to trying new things in the bedroom. Find ways to open up the sexual relationship with your girl. I mean really, really put your effort and enthusiasm into it. You know, sometimes a woman needs a little help to bring out her sexual side.

After all of that, if you still feel like the best friend is a better option, I’d consider ending it with the current girl first. All the cheating will do is cause a big mess!

 

[dreamer]

Talk to your girlfriend!!! Damn, if you're willing to consider throwing away 8 years and someone you presumably care about over this then why even ask?

It sounds like your girlfriend is holding back sexually. Maybe it has A LOT to do with the comfort level she feels with you. From what we know it sure doesn't seem like she can trust you. Would you put a dick in your mouth that you didn't trust???

If you really do feel something for this woman then talk to her. Even then it may take further consoling, but you both have to decide if the eight years you've had together is worth that effort.

Good luck.

 

[Wiggles]

What's that saying? Don't shit in your own backyard??

If you're unsatisfied, leave your girlfriend. But don't screw her best friend just because you can. Find a women *elsewhere* who shares your interests.

Man, what a mess that'll be, you'd be a dead man. Girlfriends always stick together in the end. You'd just be the asshole they kicked out of the apartment. And worse, they'd make fun of you, believe me they would. They'd talk about all your bad points, in and out of the sack.

 

[CuriouslilQT]

plenty for fishes in the sea!

I agree with you wiggles...I was in a certain situation. But nothing happened between my bestfriend and my first boyfriend except an exchange of a few emails. When I found out it killed me. But I knew she didnt want to hurt me, but wanted what I once had. AT THE END...we did stick together and shit..kicked him out of both of our lives. My relationship with my bestfriend has gotten better cause she finally found out what statues she had in my life...and shit plenty more fishes in the sea for that!

 

[ToreHund]

If I can judge your relationship with your girlfriend by your sex life(only); you should end it. Sure you can negotiate and discuss how to have sex, but she seems to have such a long way to go that you will be impotent by the time she wants to give a blowjob.

Sure there's more to life than sex, but when you're with someone, that's pretty much the only one you can have sex with, so that sex better be good.

BTW 8 years' relationship has nothing to do with it. If you are bored today, do you think ANOTHER 8 years will do you any good? Quit while you're fit!

However, do not leave her just to fuck her friend. As mentioned earlier, it can make you look silly when they both stick together in the end. Maybe yopu're lucky enoguh to have another sexual encounter with her, but that's about it. Do not count on anything more, as that woman will feel like traitor to your present girlfriend.
Most important, that friend of hers is not the only woman in the world who is good in bed!

Anyway, best of luck!

TH

 

[Wyatt]

Okay.I've weighed the pro's and cons and decided not to go for the best friend(Against my better judgement and as advised by Quint,after a five fingered shuffle).But as I'm a Brit I think you are all being a bit harsh calling me a bastard!Can't I at least be a cad or a bounder! :0)))

Yours in Celibacy....Wyatt

P.S. Do you all think I haven't tried that talking it through stuff!!

 

[NoRegrets]

But as I'm a Brit I think you are all being a bit harsh
calling me a bastard!Can't I at least be a cad or a bounder!

The only reason I used "bastard" was because it was
in the last sentence of the original post. I pass no
judgement, I just know doing her best freind is one
of the worst things either of you could do.

I'm familiar with cad but what is a "bounder"?

 

[Melb]

I agree with everybody here. If you have tried to work things out with your girlfriend and you still do not feel satisfied, you must fess up.

You are not doing her a favour or yourself by sticking around and being unfullfilled.

It is not good for the other girl either. You may think that she just wants sex, but she may actually have feelings for you, or she may develop them if you do start having sex with her, which could make your other relationship very messy.

I am in a long-term relationship and have been down that road. Though not with any of my boyfriends friends. However I was the one that fell in love, while the other guy moved on. I was left to deal with my broken relationship (he found out about it) and my broken heart from the affair.

Through all this I have learnt that you have to be truthfull and upfront about what you want, and be willing to walk away if a person cannot do that.

There will be plenty of girls, willing to experiement with you.

I wish you good luck.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I know there is more to a relationship but sex....

I know that sex isn't the only part of a relationship but.....I think it says a lot about the relationship...If the sexual part is lacking enough to consider seeking outside relief, then it is definitely time to sit and talk about it.

What you like to do...what she likes to do...what you want...and what you need...compared to her wants and needs....you need to open the lines of communication enough to express what initmacey means to you and to your relationship. Sex is a way of sharing yourself with your partner...it can bring you closer than you ever imagined...but without the proper communication, it can tear you apart.

If bringing things out in the open doesn't help..then maybe it is time to look into each of you finding a relationship more satisfying...because chances are sex isn't the only problem...but that is just my opinion.

*smile* Reina

 

[Spenser41]

Well here are my thoughts.
You sound like you are staying with your girlfriend because everyone said her to work it out and you are doing it as OH WELL... guess I better do that. Which is not good. If you LOVE her and want to work it out, then stay. If all you really want to do is have the best friend, I would get out of that relationship and move on to OTHER WOMAN. Not the best friend. Do not stay because you feel you HAVE to - stay because you WANT to.