girlfriend help

[Chrono079]

Everytime me and my gf do something together, like when she gives me a handjob or blowjob, she always gets tired before i cum, and i usually have to jack off for a while before she does anything so that i can cum while she's doin stuff, any suggestions?

 

[coppertop429]

Maybe you should have her practice on something else, like a dildo or, well, use your imagination ;P. Another option is to start by masturbating and have her start giving you a bj/handjob later on so that she still is while you cum.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Chrono079]

she's not lazy, she does it until her arm is to tired or her jaw is tired lol thats wot she says at least, and it takes me like.. ten minutes to cum if i jack off, but if she does something to me, it takes me longer, everytime i've cum with her doing something to me, i've had to jack off right before she did or jack off while she sucked me or wotever.

 

[College_geek]

You sounds exactly like my boyfriend. I have/had pretty much the same problem that you're girlfriend seems to have. Sometimes, my hand and arm gets way too tired, and he's left to jack off. In my opinion, this is a good and bad thing. I always feel bad whenever I'm not able to finish him, but it's so nice to watching him masturbate sometimes. Mmm. Anyway, handjob-wise, normally keep switching hands back and forth until the job is done. Sometimes I add more lube and that makes it easier. I don't get as tired as I did when I first started, so, depending on how long she's been doing them, practice may be key (that and she could always use a stress ball to squeeze and strengthen her hand muscles.

On the subject of blowjobs, I myself am recently new to them, having only done it 3 times (to orgasm). My mouth gets tired as well near the end, but I usually try to go for as long as I can until I just can't bear the pain any more. I also try to use my fingers and hand to stimulate other parts of him, hoping that it will make him come quicker.

Also, sometimes I'll double them up and do some oral on him for a while and then finish with a hand job when my mouth tires.

I guess my only other suggestion would be to not worry so much about the orgasm and just enjoy to feeling and the intimacy. Good luck!

 

[Bobmi357]

You sounds exactly like my boyfriend. I have/had pretty much the same problem that you're girlfriend seems to have. Sometimes, my hand and arm gets way too tired, and he's left to jack off. In my opinion, this is a good and bad thing. I always feel bad whenever I'm not able to finish him, but it's so nice to watching him masturbate sometimes. Mmm. Anyway, handjob-wise, normally keep switching hands back and forth until the job is done. Sometimes I add more lube and that makes it easier. I don't get as tired as I did when I first started, so, depending on how long she's been doing them, practice may be key (that and she could always use a stress ball to squeeze and strengthen her hand muscles.

If you're not planning on giving him a blowjob, then change your lube to vaseline. It won't evaporate on you at all. Also try changing from a stroke to a more twisting motion. Grab the head of his penis (well lubed mind you) like you would a door knob and twist like you would a door knob. Stop and play his balls for a while.

Did you know that arousal for men is at least 50% mental? Are you calmly and quietly stroking away, or talking about how things went in class today or work? Why not spend some time actually talking about what you're doing? Or how you feel about him? Try talking dirty to him. Have you tried suckling on HIS nipples? The more you turn him on, the shorter he will last.

Laying there, or sitting there, mechanically stroking is boring, unsexy, and dull.

 

[Lithius]

well, I'd say get her to practice more often! That's a good thing! since she can practice on you!

 

[English Lady]

My husband takes ages to cum,he always does and even when he's masturbating himself it takes him a good 30 mins if not longer. Therefore I have the same problem as your girlfriend chrono and hubby often ends up er hmm giving a hand. It usually works ok because i get him to tell me when he's close an d i will take over with my hand or i'll let him cum in my mouth.

I can't last the 30 mins or more needed ot get him off..especially since i broke my wrist early last year( not whist wanking my husband i should add..i fell down stairs*L*) my wrist really aches after about 15/20 minutes.

I can thoroughly recommend dirty talk though, even if she can't masturbate you,or her jaw is too sore to suck you anymore she can talk dirty....whisper things in your ear..caress your body as you jerk off.....well it works for hubby anyway!

 

[Lithius]

well it works for hubby anyway!

heehee I'm sure it does!

 

[Chrono079]

Thanks for all the advice everyone, i just wish she could practice more, but she lives in a diff state then me =/ we've only gotten to do stuff when we've visited each other, but we're planning on moving in together whenever we get enough money saved up.

 

[College_geek]

If you're not planning on giving him a blowjob, then change your lube to vaseline. It won't evaporate on you at all. Also try changing from a stroke to a more twisting motion. Grab the head of his penis (well lubed mind you) like you would a door knob and twist like you would a door knob. Stop and play his balls for a while.

Did you know that arousal for men is at least 50% mental? Are you calmly and quietly stroking away, or talking about how things went in class today or work? Why not spend some time actually talking about what you're doing? Or how you feel about him? Try talking dirty to him. Have you tried suckling on HIS nipples? The more you turn him on, the shorter he will last.

Vaseline is a good idea...that way I don't have to stop once in a while to add more lube. I've never tried a door knob approach, but I usually focus on the head anyway.

I normally don't talk to him during handjobs though because he likes when I kiss him aggressively during them. And yes, I always suck on his nipples. It was one of the first things that he told me turned him on.