Gf invited on vacation with another man (seeking advice)

[betamale30]

I was recently just on a large family trip @ the Atlantis in Bahamas, my girlfriend came along with us. I’ve had a secret cuckold fetish for a very long time and have recently finally started opening up to gf about It. I mention that because while on this trip my gf had gone to the club 1 night with my sister & her best friend and they got invited into these guys VIP section to hangout for night. I didn’t think much about this at all but then once we got home my gf was telling me how 1’of the guys was trying to talk her into flying back down there and hanging out. She told me she told him she had a bf and said to ask my sister or her friend that they would prob be happy to and the guy responded that he wasn’t interested in them. This guy is an older man from Toronto Canada & rents a condo all summer in Bahamas he offered to send gf his private plane to ny and fly her back to vacation for a few more days.. they have been talking on text message since we have gotten back. Now my dilemma is that with my cuckold fantasizes this is all turning me on a lot but then I try and think with a clear mind and feel like this might not be safe for her. I don’t know anything about this guy she claims he’s nice etc but who Offers a complete stranger a private jet to go on vacation. Something just feels off I can’t talk to anyone I know about this so thought I’d see if I could get some advice from here. Has anyone dealt with anything like this before? I’ve just recently brought up her being with other men and don’t want to stomp out the first chance she might be willing to do It. Very confused to say the least

 

[ChefMario77]

Generally, I'd say if you are into it, go for it.


But...


Being someone that you don't know, in a foreign country and far away...I'd say nope.

 

[cuckoldbill]

I fully understand your dilemma. This one appeals to your cuck desires but at the same time raises a trunk full of red flags. Can you get his details from her and look him up on the internet. If he's really that wealthy there should be loads of references to find. If you can't find anything or what you find is troubling I suggest you try and talk her out of it. Promise you will help her find another stud.

May not be so easy to dissuade her as the chance of travelling in a private and spending a month or so with a very wealthy man is very appealing to some ladies.
Let us know how it goes.

 

[Scareltt]

This is more than one issue

Hi,

First, her safety, she just met this guy. I love the idea of being whisked off my feet. However she (well; both of you) do not know this person. They both need to invest more time. Would you/she be comfortable jetting off with some guy she met ok Ok Cupied, or tinder?

Have you really talked to her about this? Does she want it for herself or to make you happy? How does she envision herself doing this. It’s easy to say i’m going to fly off to some island and fuck some guy. That’s the easy part. The hard part is what happens when she gets home.

Next you really need to figure out if you want this. You need to really look at your marriage. I don’t know you or your wife, so only you can answer this question. If your marriage is rock solid if your communication if really good. Then maybe this will work.

Dating outside the marriage is harder than you think. Now I am just talking about for her. Your feelings are going to be all over the place. No matter what you think at this moment.

Sorry running out of time. Pilates and a brunch of other Soccer/hockey moms.

I suggest, baby steps. Maybe start with the sites like Ok Cupied. Start with some flirty messages, and go from there.

Don’t forget none of this happens in a vacuum. After she tells you all about fucking some other guy and you have your hot orgasm, how are you going to feel? How is she going to feel?

Gotta go

 

[Tell_ME_67]

Just a thought

Any chance you could go with her? It's obvious that the man has the means, I'm sure you could work something out where she was chaperoned, but not be so invasive as to spoil his needs.

 

[Justfantasies]

I was recently just on a large family trip @ the Atlantis in Bahamas, my girlfriend came along with us. I’ve had a secret cuckold fetish for a very long time and have recently finally started opening up to gf about It. I mention that because while on this trip my gf had gone to the club 1 night with my sister & her best friend and they got invited into these guys VIP section to hangout for night. I didn’t think much about this at all but then once we got home my gf was telling me how 1’of the guys was trying to talk her into flying back down there and hanging out. She told me she told him she had a bf and said to ask my sister or her friend that they would prob be happy to and the guy responded that he wasn’t interested in them. This guy is an older man from Toronto Canada & rents a condo all summer in Bahamas he offered to send gf his private plane to ny and fly her back to vacation for a few more days.. they have been talking on text message since we have gotten back. Now my dilemma is that with my cuckold fantasizes this is all turning me on a lot but then I try and think with a clear mind and feel like this might not be safe for her. I don’t know anything about this guy she claims he’s nice etc but who Offers a complete stranger a private jet to go on vacation. Something just feels off I can’t talk to anyone I know about this so thought I’d see if I could get some advice from here. Has anyone dealt with anything like this before? I’ve just recently brought up her being with other men and don’t want to stomp out the first chance she might be willing to do It. Very confused to say the least

Your GF is a single woman an clearly entitled to go where she likes and sleep with who she likes. Clearly he wants to fuck her and -- unless she is stupid or cruel -- she wants to fuck him.

Get used to the idea and even lay back and enjoy it

 

[betamale30]

May not be so easy to dissuade her as the chance of travelling in a private and spending a month or so with a very wealthy man is very appealing to some ladies.
Let us know how it goes.[/QUOTE]

The visit wouldn’t be long term visit he has been suggesting a Thursday-Sunday or Monday.. I have to get more personal details about him from her like full name and specifically what he does for work. All I know about him so far is his first name is Robert & he’s in his late 40s early 50s and lives in toronoto. He did offer she could being a girlfriend if she felt more comfortable that way

 

[betamale30]

Any chance you could go with her? It's obvious that the man has the means, I'm sure you could work something out where she was chaperoned, but not be so invasive as to spoil his needs.

He mentioned that she could bring a girlfriend if she get more comfortable, but never mentioned anything about me. I’m sure he would think I’d just complicate things for him and make It awkward. She said her friend Ivana would love to go but me being selfish not wanting anyone we know to find out about this if It happened Would rather not have more ppl that know us personally involved

 

[betamale30]

Your GF is a single woman an clearly entitled to go where she likes and sleep with who she likes. Clearly he wants to fuck her and -- unless she is stupid or cruel -- she wants to fuck him.

Get used to the idea and even lay back and enjoy it

Well shes isn't single I've been dating her for better part of 4 years. But ill agree she is probably impressed and flattered he is willing to do that much to hang out with her alittle more. Im just nervous obviously this guy is expecting something out of this and I dont want her to be in any danger.

 

[betamale30]

Hi,

First, her safety, she just met this guy. I love the idea of being whisked off my feet. However she (well; both of you) do not know this person. They both need to invest more time. Would you/she be comfortable jetting off with some guy she met ok Ok Cupied, or tinder?

Have you really talked to her about this? Does she want it for herself or to make you happy? How does she envision herself doing this. It’s easy to say i’m going to fly off to some island and fuck some guy. That’s the easy part. The hard part is what happens when she gets home.

Next you really need to figure out if you want this. You need to really look at your marriage. I don’t know you or your wife, so only you can answer this question. If your marriage is rock solid if your communication if really good. Then maybe this will work.

Dating outside the marriage is harder than you think. Now I am just talking about for her. Your feelings are going to be all over the place. No matter what you think at this moment.

Sorry running out of time. Pilates and a brunch of other Soccer/hockey moms.

I suggest, baby steps. Maybe start with the sites like Ok Cupied. Start with some flirty messages, and go from there.

Don’t forget none of this happens in a vacuum. After she tells you all about fucking some other guy and you have your hot orgasm, how are you going to feel? How is she going to feel?

Gotta go

Im definitely concerned about her safety because i dont know this guy at all.. And she claims he's nice and that my sister hangout with him also that my sister wouldnt have wanted to be around him if he was some crazy person. I agree i feel like she should at least take more time getting to know him, shes only known him for 2 weeks.. In my mind if he's going to be there all summer I'm not sure what rush is to have her come back right away.

I feel like she has the most interest in It since she was the 1 that brought It up to me.. I didnt even know she exchanged #s or anything with this guy while on the trip.. Im happy she brought It up to me and was honest about It but feel like she is either very gullible about the situation or feels weird talking to me about It all. She's acting like he's an old man that just wants some arm candy to hang out with while he's on his summer vacation. Me being a guy though obviously know he isn't going to go through all that trouble of flying her down there all expense paid and not expect sex. She must know that deep down also even if she hasn't said It .

Ive had this as a secret fantasy for so long and feel like ok It took me so much time to get the courage to admit It to her and now this opportunity presents It self and I'm going to tell her forget It I'm not interested anymore. Its all confusing.

Also i dont think ok cupid or tinder is a good idea for us, i think those profiles are public and we couldnt risk people recognized her.

 

[Ghostee]

Im definitely concerned about her safety because i dont know this guy at all.. And she claims he's nice and that my sister hangout with him also that my sister wouldnt have wanted to be around him if he was some crazy person. I agree i feel like she should at least take more time getting to know him, shes only known him for 2 weeks.. In my mind if he's going to be there all summer I'm not sure what rush is to have her come back right away.

I feel like she has the most interest in It since she was the 1 that brought It up to me.. I didnt even know she exchanged #s or anything with this guy while on the trip.. Im happy she brought It up to me and was honest about It but feel like she is either very gullible about the situation or feels weird talking to me about It all. She's acting like he's an old man that just wants some arm candy to hang out with while he's on his summer vacation. Me being a guy though obviously know he isn't going to go through all that trouble of flying her down there all expense paid and not expect sex. She must know that deep down also even if she hasn't said It .

Ive had this as a secret fantasy for so long and feel like ok It took me so much time to get the courage to admit It to her and now this opportunity presents It self and I'm going to tell her forget It I'm not interested anymore. Its all confusing.

Also i dont think ok cupid or tinder is a good idea for us, i think those profiles are public and we couldnt risk people recognized her.

Your gfs gonna wake up as an Arab sex slave with no money or passport and you with no gf!

 

[Justfantasies]

I've have known several women who went on trips with guys who weren't their bf. They all got fucked and they all enjoyed it.

 

[naughtoldperv]

I wouldn't even consider letting her go unless he flies you along too and would insist on joining or watching..............but that's me and my relationship.
good luck

 

[Justfantasies]

I wouldn't even consider letting her go unless he flies you along too and would insist on joining or watching..............but that's me and my relationship.
good luck

Hmmm! I don't think he is really getting an option. She wants to go, she wants to get fucked by this guy. That's cool.

 

[Nezhul]

I'd DEFINITELY not let her go like that. Not even because I don't trust her or think it's going too far, but for safety reasons.

Accepting an invitation from another man to go far away from home - is asking to be raped.
Just think about it. He invites her, maybe he plays nice for a day or two, but then what? He clearly wants something. What if he asks for sex and she doesn't want it? Best case scenario - she's stuck long way from home in an uncomfortable silence with a guy. Worst case - he either pressures her or simply forces the issue.

In other words, NO, the risk is too big. I wouldn't accept such arrangement myself, even if my hypothetical BF was OK with that.

 

[TJX]

Remember natalee holloway?

 

[trucky75]

Fuck no....that is how human trafficking starts. Could explain why he has so much money

 

[liqueur]

Well, first off, It's her choice. There's no "letting her" or "not letting her."

But if she's asking your opinion, and you're asking my opinion, that opinion is "No way, without a lot more information." The fact that he's wealthy has nothing to do with it. She would (I hope) not go home with some guy she met in bar without first knowing something about the guy she's going with. All the more so in this situation. She'd be making herself excessively vulnerable by being so far from home and anyone she knows; and vastly more so by being dependent on him for transportation to and from.

 

[betamale30]

I appreciate everyones input, deep down i know its not a good idea at all and that I'm questioning It so much proves that. Ive had the fantasy so long and never had an opportunity like this before i guess i didnt want to miss It , but the cons far out reach the pros. I hope saying I'm not comfortable with It doesnt completely ruin this for me in the future

 

[liqueur]

I appreciate everyones input, deep down i know its not a good idea at all and that I'm questioning It so much proves that. Ive had the fantasy so long and never had an opportunity like this before i guess i didnt want to miss It , but the cons far out reach the pros. I hope saying I'm not comfortable with It doesnt completely ruin this for me in the future

You now know both your and her response when a real situation presents itself. This isn't just fantasy any more. Having learned that, I suggest that now you go out (or she does) and makes it happen. At home, under safer circumstances.

 

[FGB]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfIpEFD6GWo

 

[JulieAnn42]

From a woman's point of view, no way should she do this. If she had known him for a while, maybe. But not like this.

 

[screwher]

I have to agree with the idea(s) that this is not a good idea. Once this guy has her whisked away to another country who knows what could happen.

But I do understand your thrill with this. This thread has me thinking how exciting it would be if another man seduced my wife away to an exotic location for a couple days. Especially knowing full well the whole point of the trip is for them to have as much sex as possible. If it were my sexy hotwifey being propositioned here I'd want to go the route of her playing with him at home first. Have him visit my wife here for awhile. When he comes to town my wife can spend the time with him in his hotelroom. Or better yet, he can be our houseguest. Then after we build some trust, he can take US to the Bahamas. He can rent two cottages/hotel rooms. One for them, one for me. That way my wife feels safe and comfy.