Getting your mojo back?

[NTinNY]

I'm a good guy who unfortunately was recently divorced (unexpectedly), and am curious to know what you did (or would do) to get back onto the playing field after being faithfully married or in a long term relationship. How long did it take you, after you were divorced, separated, or broken up, to get back in the saddle?

 

[switchbitch]

I'm a good guy who unfortunately was recently divorced (unexpectedly), and am curious to know what you did (or would do) to get back onto the playing field after being faithfully married or in a long term relationship. How long did it take you, after you were divorced, separated, or broken up, to get back in the saddle?

we all have different ways of dealing with those situationsand one person's method is unlikely to be exactly the same as anothers.Mine suits my natureand is somewhat unusual. I go on a fuck fest, losing myself in sensuality helps me get over the pain of separation.

 

[NTinNY]

I know a few people that have done that. I am a bit on the shy side but working on it.

 

[duglasius]

Currently separated and am still working on getting the mojo back. Luckily the separation is amicable so far, but still working through the down days and the days where you long to have someone sleeping in your bed next to you again. All I know so far is that patience is key. Let me know if you come up with anything good.

 

[switchbitch]

I know a few people that have done that. I am a bit on the shy side but working on it.

Babe, if that avatar is you,you'll have many willing to help you over your shyness. Yummy

 

[NTinNY]

Why thank you and yes it is me

Babe, if that avatar is you,you'll have many willing to help you over your shyness. Yummy

 

[NTinNY]

Thanks for the reply....yeah I hear you. I have less down days than I did and I am unfortunately not quite used to sleeping alone yet, even though I have been doing it for more than 6months. I will keep you posted about the how to...I hope to get some nice posts here.

Currently separated and am still working on getting the mojo back. Luckily the separation is amicable so far, but still working through the down days and the days where you long to have someone sleeping in your bed next to you again. All I know so far is that patience is key. Let me know if you come up with anything good.

 

[darkbeast]

My biggest advice in regards to your concern come from Shakespeare:

This day is call'd the feast of Crispian.
He that outlives this day, and comes safe home,
Will stand a tip-toe when this day is nam'd,
And rouse him at the name of Crispian.
He that shall live this day, and see old age,
Will yearly on the vigil feast his neighbours,
And say 'To-morrow is Saint Crispian.'
Then will he strip his sleeve and show his scars,
And say 'These wounds I had on Crispian's day.'

I've been in your situation... well not divorce, but coming out of a longterm relationship and feeling the pressures, the desires, and the loss of self-esteem.

Once more into the breach, because that is where the battle is. Yes, I appreciate that comparing dating, romance, and love to war is crass and a bit too masculine, but it is about courage, self-confidence, and the power of the self. Know who you are, don't doubt it, and the rest actually falls into place.