Getting things a little kinkier...

[lovemycubbies]

Hey all, this is my first message but I've read a bunch here for the last few months and I figured I'd finally ask about something that has been bothering me.

I've been seeing this girl for about six months and we have a lot of sex and what not, but I feel like its becoming a little stale. Now we are young (21) and I'm not all that sure how comfortable she would be with me bringing up spicing things up.

I'd really love to have her sit on my face and I'd like to lick her ass and maybe push towards anal, but I'm nervous about bringing it up. I'd really like to tie her up or blindfold her or something too.

I guess my question is what are small steps I should take to move forward and what you suggest for two relatively inexperienced people. Our best sex usually comes when we are drunk because we talk a lot more and get rougher. I'd like for it to be like that more (without being hungover in class every morning )

Thanks and I appreciate any advice.
Rich

 

[Zoots_owner]

Talk about it!

Have a couple of drinks first, or have her tell you what she'd like while you're giving her oral, etc; do whatever it takes to find out more about each others needs & interests. You'll be glad you did.

This is a conversation every LD couple needs to have, unless neither of them are very interested in sex.

 

[NakedMale]

Its a little worrying that it feels stale after 6 months. It sounds like you need someone very adventurous and the girl that your with isn't. You have to be open and talk, she may love to do the things that you crave but is maybe to shy or inhibited. You won't know until you ask. It will go one of two ways, sex will take an upturn or you may feel that you aren't matched sexually.

 

[BlueEyesEternal]

Why are you worried about trying new things with her? You had to take a chance to ask her out before anything else happened, right? If you hadn't asked, you'd be alone right now. Same thing applies to the bedroom. Try things and she will let you know if she doesn't like/want them. I've never met a girl that has turned down anal licks if you do them as you finger the clit. Just move slowly and tease her about it.

Ask her if she likes getting her ass licked. Tease her and call her a dirty girl if she likes it. Keep moving forward (not in the same night) until you get her tied and begging for anal play.

 

[phelon]

Hey all, this is my first message but I've read a bunch here for the last few months and I figured I'd finally ask about something that has been bothering me.

I've been seeing this girl for about six months and we have a lot of sex and what not, but I feel like its becoming a little stale. Now we are young (21) and I'm not all that sure how comfortable she would be with me bringing up spicing things up.

I'd really love to have her sit on my face and I'd like to lick her ass and maybe push towards anal, but I'm nervous about bringing it up. I'd really like to tie her up or blindfold her or something too.

I guess my question is what are small steps I should take to move forward and what you suggest for two relatively inexperienced people. Our best sex usually comes when we are drunk because we talk a lot more and get rougher. I'd like for it to be like that more (without being hungover in class every morning )

Thanks and I appreciate any advice.
Rich

write her stories about what you would like... leave little notes like...
'love to eat you instead of lunch' and put it in her pocket when you leave that morning.....
or if you don't want to write.. ask her to find 10 things on lit she would like to try.. with the stories here.. you will find something in the 10 you can try

 

[SweetErika]

I completely agree that you need to communicate.

I've never met a girl that has turned down anal licks if you do them as you finger the clit. Just move slowly and tease her about it.

Ask her if she likes getting her ass licked. Tease her and call her a dirty girl if she likes it. Keep moving forward (not in the same night) until you get her tied and begging for anal play.

I think a lot of women would turn down analingus if they weren't freshly bathed or otherwise didn't feel confident in their cleanliness.

I'd advise against teasing her and calling her a "dirty girl" unless you know that will go over well with her. With some women, you're better off just doing it if she responds positively and not bringing in things that have the potential to be misinterpreted, make her uncomfortable, or think twice about it, into the equation. When in doubt, go with lots of positive reinforcement!

If you're planning on delving into anal, bondage or anything else that could potentially hurt her, make sure you really know what you're doing. Look in the Anal section of this thread for advice on anal. Google 'bondage safety and techniques' for ideas on that.

 

[infinity706]

Well, if we were talking about me, I'd say pin me up against a wall, slap some handcuffs on me, and call me a slutty little motherfucker. That would go over quite well.

I your case, though, you might want to find a kinky adult game. That way, you don't even have to worry about bringing things up. Afterall, it's part of the game.