Getting Rougher in Bed

[AdamB84]

I decided to post this here instead of the BDSM forum because I wanted advice less specific to that lifestyle.

Anyway, my wife and I first met several years ago as casual fuck buddies before developing a romantic relationship. She was into being submissive, and being dominant was something new to me. It took a while to get into the feel of being rough and aggressive during sex, but I started to get into it.

Over time our sex life got tamer but we've made an effort recently to better our sex life by going back to what worked so well in the past. For reasons I can't explain I just stopped all the rough play, but feel alive again now that we are back in the practice. She's having better orgasms than she has in a long time as well.

I was hoping for discussion on what you like to do when getting rough in bed, and advice on what you would recommend for me to continue spicing things up. Here are some things we have done:

*Dirty talk--she loves for me to call her "my whore/slut" (emphasis on the word "my"). Also telling her to describe how my cock feels, making her beg me to continue, and so on. All talk relates to me being in charge of what she is allowed to do.

*Smacking--hard and everywhere but her face. She could be into that, but I would hate to leave a bruise or go too far. It's something I need to ask about. But her tits and ass love it. Pulling her hair always goes over well too.

*Holding her down--usually just with my hands forcing her wrists down to the bed. Have used ropes in the past, but sometimes too much hassle to mess with when you're in the moment. Handcuffs are easier and quicker.

*Oral--gagging her with my cock obviously. I like to go down on her a lot but don't know a way to make it more of a domination thing. So far I just have her suck my fingers after they've been in her.

*Slowing things down--going fast and furious seems synonymous with rough sex, and it has its place, but I like to go slow at times. Really prolonged thrusts that force her to beg for another. It lets me be in control and is good in stalling my orgasms before I'm ready.

What else would you recommend trying? We're not into full-blown bondage (leather costumes, whips, etc.). No disrespect to that lifestyle but we both prefer something simpler without a lot of toys/devices.

 

[clarissaj1982]

Anal!
It can hurt so good!

 

[twister947]

Anal!
It can hurt so good!

Make her lube her own ass, and then hold herself open to receive your cock.

 

[Joeknoxville]

Make her pay a price for her enjoyment. Pleasure is always more satisfying after a little pain.

 

[SissySalina]

sissy may make a suggestion towards bondage without a lot, just get some simple ribbon, black 3/8 inch wide. You can get it at a lot of location cheep. Tie it around with a bow in several places, just the feeling of it can change things.

Try different positions while taking Her from behind.

 

[live4thebj]

I won't be saying try this or that, what I suggest is talk about it more, watch more movies about it, make mental notes what tickles her fancy.

I dated this girl that wanted to be completely controlled and asked her 3x's before I started. I had her suck my cock non-stop till I got to the adult store. I had her buy bondage tape, leg type harness, spanking device, and she wanted to also buy this porno.

When I took her to my place she again sucked my cock the entire way there plus a few minutes while sitting in the parking lot of my condo.

Then when I took her upstairs and right after she walked in, I took my belt off and as soon as she turned around wrapped it around her neck, pulled her to my daughters bed (she wasn't with me that day), and had her lay no her back with her head hanging off the bed and fucked her throat for a bit.

Then eventually I had her get naked except I had her leave on the stockings and high heals.

From there we used this harness that is basically a soft like material (not rope but the next best thing). Had one end on her ankle, around the back of her neck, and on the other ankle. This held her in the missionary position with her butt elevated, and her legs permanently held back and then had her hands/arms through her legs and bonded them with bondage tape. I can't express enough use bondage tape not actual tape.

From there she was my play toy. I worked her to 6 orgasms. First two was giving her oral plus some fingering. The last 4 were from the Hitachi Magic wand. Before the 6th she begged me to stop making her cum for she couldn't take anymore. I punished her by making her cum a 6th time; she cried and came at the same time: that was fucking hot.

Then I fucked her mouth some more but the position/setup was awkward for that so only did it enough to get me to really hard. Fucked her pussy for a bit, then did the slip out, slide up and down on her cunt, back in and repeat several times.

THEN came the grand finale! I broke her ass in. Lots of lube on/in her hole, and lot on the cock. Believe it or not anal is a lot easier in the missionary position for the person receiving (her). I started slow, she begged me to stop but I took command and told her to shut up and take it. She stared at me the whole time till I was completely in. I told her she had the whole thing in her (which took about 5 plus minutes) and she didn't believe it. Then pounded her ass till I popped in her poop-shoot.

After we had a cigarette and she said several times: I love fucking anal. That was her first time and she was hooked!

None of that was really planned, I just went with it and used what was bought and what I already own plus my own skills and experiences. Don't over think it, just have fun with it.