Getting PM'ed by people with no forum posts

[GiaCat]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

 

[Hard_Rom]

Because you're a girl! And the vast majority of lurkers here are male (like most erotica or dating sites). Pounce on the new member and try to get in before everyone else.

Change your profile pic to a 400lb obese 75 year old woman will not drastically change the number of PMs, lol.

The narrow waisted hottie in your profile is chum to the shark pervs. Like waving a flag at a bull.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

Human traffickers.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I actually like it! Some of my best lit friends have been lurkers with posts that stopped years ago.
They aren't into all the drama of the playground, they have better introductory messages, more humor, because this is the only way they get a chance for you to know who they are.

 

[AllyRose]

Because you're a girl! And the vast majority of lurkers here are male (like most erotica or dating sites). Pounce on the new member and try to get in before everyone else.

Change your profile pic to a 400lb obese 75 year old woman will not drastically change the number of PMs, lol.

The narrow waisted hottie in your profile is chum to the shark pervs. Like waving a flag at a bull.

Hey babe.

Asl?

 

[Aquagal]

Most of the time it's from some weirdo that just read some thread I made two years ago and thinks he should now PM me relevant information.

 

[Jennifer]

In my experience they don't post because they are freaks and creeps.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Hey babe.

Asl?

American Sign Language?

 

[bronzeage]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

I get one or two a month. They usually have a vaguely feminine user name. If they have any posts, it's going to be one or two in the personals forum.

Some say, "Hi, I like your av." Some say, "I'd like to see more of you," or something along those lines. Some actually ask a question, which can lead to interesting conversations.

I answer all of them, but most never respond again.

 

[AllyRose]

American Sign Language?

You know what it takes to turn me on.

 

[Noor]

"u wanna cyber?"

 

[thør]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

Hey babe.

Asl?

"u wanna cyber?"

This happens to me all the time.

 

[Oh_That_Guy]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

What difference does it make if they have posts or not?

 

[removed9556]

 

[Noor]

This happens to me all the time.

Used to happen to me all the time until I put my warning up

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Some of us had posts once.

Hopefully you are not wasting your virgin status, and you are sending such messages.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Hey babe.

Asl?

Had to look that up. It's been a couple of years since I saw that.

53/m/Can.

 

[removed9556]

 

[Spins]

Nope. This never happens.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Does this happen to you? Who are they?

It is very rare that I get an unsolicited PM. I'm sure for most fellows here it is not what you would call a regular event. Again I am sure girls are different.

Any girls with empty boxes out there?

 

[Lyricalli]

Most of the time, they've been from men who aren't that good at holding up their end of a conversation.

However, I'm at least polite to most who find their way into my inbox, and I'll converse as long as they don't start acting like asshats. They're often brief conversations.

I did get a message several months ago from someone with zero forum posts because he was lurking around, saw I was from his state, and sent me a message on a lark because he was bored. We're pretty good friends now. He was a fun exception to the typical.

 

[Lyricalli]

It is very rare that I get an unsolicited PM. I'm sure for most fellows here it is not what you would call a regular event. Again I am sure girls are different.

Any girls with empty boxes out there?

Not empty, but I don't get a lot of random PMs.

 

[Recidiva]

Happens a lot.

I don't think you can judge a person by their lack of forum posts. Yeah, okay, some of them are creepy, but that's easily handled. Some of the people with lots of forum posts are creepy.

I've had a lot of great conversations, struck up some decent banter and made some friends that way.

 

[removed9556]

 

[AllyRose]

I do find it odd. It's fine to be sociable, and fine not to wish to socialize - of course! But to wish to chat to people you have never met, but ONLY on a one-to-one basis - it's hard to think of non-weird reasons to do that.

If you attended a vast dinner party, and returned to your room at the end of the night to find a queue of men at your door waiting to talk privately - NONE of whom had bothered to engage with you or indeed anyone else during dinner - I would venture to suggest that something slightly creepy was going on.

Or they just wanted to talk about Jeezus.