Getting People to reply to your post; here's how

[areacode613]

Folks the number one way to get people to reply to your post is to be specific, that means where your from is most important. People get tired of reading "female wants.......Only to find they live 3000 miles away.....if you put Denver female......you will grab those denver folks like lightning, many of who are to shy to post, but have been searching Lit. everyday just looking for someone in Denver. Also fill out your profile, tell people where your from, doesn't have to be exact , but perhaps somewhere in a radius you could/wouild be driving in. If your not up to that, perhaps there is a better place on Lit, for you to be posting/reading. This is the Personals, so people should get Personal. Thgere are many other wonderful places on Lit. to post for those looking for cyber, entertainment, and converstaion, THIS ID THE PERSONALS! now go have fun!

 

[exvitermini]

Thanks for posting those tips. I was getting tired of reading vague posts. If you're not serious about actually meeting someone, then just post in the playground.

 

[areacode613]

Thanks for your support

I am so glad you agree. Isn't it frustrating. It boggles my mind. Literotica has set aside plenty of forums for posting, yet everyone hits the personals with QUESTION POSTS.....WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME U .....????? ENOUGH FOLKS.....THIS.....IS......THE.....PERSONALS........if your not posting or answering a personal advert; your in the wrong forum.

 

[MissTaken]

As far as specific....

don't be afraid to say what you are looking for.

Discreet fun?

Friends? Yes, if you want friends with or without sex, feel free to post that!

Long term relationship?

Location, location, location

Age and interests.

For me, I generally respond to posts that are specific but also that show me a bit about the person. Sometimes it is just a feeling I get by the posters phrasing etc. Or sometimes, it is after watching him post in the playground or other forums...

Have fun!

 

[MissTaken]

AFter thought

Men?

Don't be afraid to post or pm women.

Please, understand that women posting at lit are inundated with a variety of pm's, emails and other overtures. It is the nature of the beast, so dont' be offended if your thread doesn't get many responses.

Just my opinion....

Oh....and when contacting a lady, treat her like a lady.

We lit ladies are, at times, hypersexual beings, but for the most part are ladies who are intelligent and fun to be with on any level. Treat us like ladies with respect and courtesy.

Bottom line? E mails or pm's that say

"Wanna fuck"

"Call me baby we can do some great phone sex"

are ignored.

Messages that say, "I find you interesting, care to get to know one another?" Are more likely to get a response from me.

Have fun !

 

[kkceohcs]

Thanks MissT

MissTaken,

Thank you for your posting thoughts.
I am new and very cautious/afraid of saying too much, being in the wrong place.

How do you ask for something you aren't sure what it is?

Is there such a thing as discreet sex?

Is there some signal that lets women know you are wanting to play when in public? (i.e. left is right, right is wrong, both is confused on a man).

I have never been good at "the game". How do you get better at it?

Is there someplace to learn about instant messsenger? or more quickly responding to postings?

Please forgive my ramblings and fopah's.

 

[Zidane]

strangely, none of these tips and pointers have helped me in the past.

 

[areacode613]

Mistaken from outside

You say , location, location,location; but you don't fill out your profile as to where your from.

 

[ShiningEyes]

Re: AFter thought

Men?

Don't be afraid to post or pm women.

Please, understand that women posting at lit are inundated with a variety of pm's, emails and other overtures. It is the nature of the beast, so dont' be offended if your thread doesn't get many responses.

Just my opinion....

Oh....and when contacting a lady, treat her like a lady.

We lit ladies are, at times, hypersexual beings, but for the most part are ladies who are intelligent and fun to be with on any level. Treat us like ladies with respect and courtesy.

Bottom line? E mails or pm's that say

"Wanna fuck"

"Call me baby we can do some great phone sex"

are ignored.

Messages that say, "I find you interesting, care to get to know one another?" Are more likely to get a response from me.

Have fun !

I would have to say that I totally agree with MissTaken!!!!!!!

The first few pms or emails should be about who you are and things like that. Chat to get to know one another. I post a lot of things...but I'm still a woman and a lady with a HUGE sexual drive. I still like to be shown the respect I deserve!!!!!
I'm open to chat anytime, and I'll post to a lot of different threads and such. I try to post to most of the newbies and all that, but I do make mistakes and look over a good bit. Just pm me if you think you'd like to chat!
You guys have a great day!!!!!!

And speaking of Peronsal Ads.......................................
Here's me!

21, Female living in TX(it's already known where) looking for a fuck buddy or something a lot more! Start out as friends and such. Check my profile for my interests or fetishes! I have a very big interest in the BDSM...being a sub and all!
Take care all!

~hugs and kisses~

 

[areacode613]

Message Received Girls

Ok, message received girls, we men must slow down our verbal cyber thrusting , and leaqrn how to cyber flirt, Lets see ......hmmmm I will have to practice that a bit....) Shinning Eyes, If I was in your Neck of the woods, I would most def. be wanting to know more about you.....so few BDSM subs out there, I am dom male, but not a scene dom, not a leather dom, just a sensation dom, Mostly into a more Mutal BDSM thing, IE Anger Free, more of a NewAge kind of BDSM, I really dislike The Web / media idea of BDSM. I AM MY OWN KIND OF DOM!!!! And Yes I am DOM, yes I do / can Dish, It Out, but PUNISHMENT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. I know , enough already.

 

[ShiningEyes]

Re: Message Received Girls

Ok, message received girls, we men must slow down our verbal cyber thrusting , and leaqrn how to cyber flirt, Lets see ......hmmmm I will have to practice that a bit....) Shinning Eyes, If I was in your Neck of the woods, I would most def. be wanting to know more about you.....so few BDSM subs out there, I am dom male, but not a scene dom, not a leather dom, just a sensation dom, Mostly into a more Mutal BDSM thing, IE Anger Free, more of a NewAge kind of BDSM, I really dislike The Web / media idea of BDSM. I AM MY OWN KIND OF DOM!!!! And Yes I am DOM, yes I do / can Dish, It Out, but PUNISHMENT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. I know , enough already.

That's extremely interesting! Check your pms.....

 

[kkceohcs]

ShiningEyes

Hello, I am new (should I say that or is it obvious?). I don't understand how to treat a woman any other way than as a LADY. I have scanned several threads and the stories. I don't understand this submissive, abuse thing? What kind of environment would foster that?

Through experience, the more a man treats a woman like a Lady, she treats him like crap. I suffer from the disease know as Overwhelming unreciprocated passion. I can't go far enough out of my way to get a small response. Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter, just struggling with that " 'til death do us part" part. Sometimes death seems so far away.

Please keep us newbies straight. Looking forward to corresponding again.

Knowledge is the only true power, and the politician's don't get it.

 

[ShiningEyes]

Re: ShiningEyes

Hello, I am new (should I say that or is it obvious?). I don't understand how to treat a woman any other way than as a LADY. I have scanned several threads and the stories. I don't understand this submissive, abuse thing? What kind of environment would foster that?

Through experience, the more a man treats a woman like a Lady, she treats him like crap. I suffer from the disease know as Overwhelming unreciprocated passion. I can't go far enough out of my way to get a small response. Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter, just struggling with that " 'til death do us part" part. Sometimes death seems so far away.

Please keep us newbies straight. Looking forward to corresponding again.

Knowledge is the only true power, and the politician's don't get it.

Abuse? Being a sub is not being abused. I've never been physically abused before. There are different levels to be submissive. I love having my control taken away, but I've never been paddled, spanked, or whipped out of anger.
I grew up in a wonderful home and it has nothing to do with what I'm sexually into.

Sweetie...I'm a pleaser and doer and have been since I was born.
I put everyone before myself. I'm the first to give anyone a chance. I treat others with respect because I want that in return. My sex life has nothing to do with how I treat others and how others treat me when not in the bed room. *VBS*

I truely feel that if you are not happy in one aspect of your life, sooner or later you will not be happy in all others. It might take a long time to boil over but it does and will. A person can't be expected to live unhappily for the rest of their life. Like I'm trying to do now. It will never work. You have to be completely balanced out. And if not 100% you at least have to balance it to where it doesn't effect your ability to do every day things. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. And everyone deserves a chance at being truely happy!!!!!

 

[kkceohcs]

Re: Re: ShiningEyes

Abuse? Being a sub is not being abused. I've never been physically abused before. There are different levels to be submissive. I love having my control taken away, but I've never been paddled, spanked, or whipped out of anger.
I grew up in a wonderful home and it has nothing to do with what I'm sexually into.

Sweetie...I'm a pleaser and doer and have been since I was born.
I put everyone before myself. I'm the first to give anyone a chance. I treat others with respect because I want that in return. My sex life has nothing to do with how I treat others and how others treat me when not in the bed room. *VBS*

I truely feel that if you are not happy in one aspect of your life, sooner or later you will not be happy in all others. It might take a long time to boil over but it does and will. A person can't be expected to live unhappily for the rest of their life. Like I'm trying to do now. It will never work. You have to be completely balanced out. And if not 100% you at least have to balance it to where it doesn't effect your ability to do every day things. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. And everyone deserves a chance at being truely happy!!!!!

Shining, Thanks for your insights, I guess I want to think I am already submissive. I don't know what I would do with a woman like you. Well maybe not everything is unknown or undreamed. I am so used toaccepting what is given and thankful for that that I'm not sure I am capable of an imagination anymore. Although, bouncing through these threads, I have to admit, several ideas have arisen.

Acqiesing to my wife's decisions, My stepdaughter thinks I am a P**** for taking the ****. It's not I don't stand up for my self, it's just the decisions she makes except for sex, I don't care about. (ie. paint/ decorating). I felt that as long as I made her happy and satisfied with everything else, she would give to me willingly. WRONG so very WRONG. I created my own monster. Takes everything I give and expects more.

Sorry, I don't want to be a downer.

I would appreciate very much if you would be willing to share your thoughts and desires of participating in this style?

What led you to look for this? Was it through experience that you decided this is what you wanted? Does submissive always deal with cuffs, bondage? or is it simply following orders when, where, how? without asking why?

and x12 to you....

 

[vylette]

you know you are very right...someone posted a 985 area code and i immediately clicked cos i recognized it...good advice...

 

[kkceohcs]

Sorry

I didn't mean to get off the subject.

I trudged through the lists of threads and found specifics that interested me.

illinois

eating.

 

[areacode613]

Stop HighJacking Threads

Folks STICK TO THE TOPICS, If you want to chat go to the bar on lit or pm each other, STOP HIGHJACKING THREADS, it just makes them miserable for people to read and follow. Those who want to play mail tag, use email, or other forms like ROLE PLAY. IT IS ONLY GOOD MANNERS! oK i'LL STOP YELLING now, peace all.