getting over someone
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Daddyslilpet
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I didn't know there was an equation, actually. There are times that even though I'm in a very happy relationship that a past one that was really bad will sneak its ugly head in. We are talking almost 17years now.
Hope things get better for you. The pain doesn't last forever....I hope.
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Hope things get better for you. The pain doesn't last forever....I hope.
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I don't hink there is a defined time that is set for everyone. Much has to do with the relationship and why it fell apart, and how you feel about that person now. You have the choice whether you wish to wallow in self pity, or pick yourself up by the bootstraps and continue to live. Only YOU can answer that question, dear.
Please don't feel as if I'm being a hard as to you, I've told myself these same things. It's a human trait to want to hold onto a love lost. What I mean is; no matter how bad it might have been, it's still familar. I've had the same feelings in the past when I broke off with a S/O who liked to use his fists. My thoughts at the time,were what in the hell was I doing?? I no longer had anyone in my life. But then, logic reared it's head and said that I was deserving of having a mate who would love and respect me, AND not use his fists on me when he drank too much. Thankfully; I listened to logic. I moved past the pain and longing and got on with my life.
Car keys, I understand your pain. Have patience with yourself. YOU will know when your mourning time is over. Until then, do whatever is necessary to keep your spirits up. As long as whatever you choose isn't self destructive, You too will survive!
Best wishes for your future.
Please don't feel as if I'm being a hard as to you, I've told myself these same things. It's a human trait to want to hold onto a love lost. What I mean is; no matter how bad it might have been, it's still familar. I've had the same feelings in the past when I broke off with a S/O who liked to use his fists. My thoughts at the time,were what in the hell was I doing?? I no longer had anyone in my life. But then, logic reared it's head and said that I was deserving of having a mate who would love and respect me, AND not use his fists on me when he drank too much. Thankfully; I listened to logic. I moved past the pain and longing and got on with my life.
Car keys, I understand your pain. Have patience with yourself. YOU will know when your mourning time is over. Until then, do whatever is necessary to keep your spirits up. As long as whatever you choose isn't self destructive, You too will survive!
Best wishes for your future.
There is no equation. You'll either make a conscious decision to get over it, eventually thoughts of her will fade out, or life will sneak up on you and present you with something new to occupy your heart and mind.
I've found that I have the hardest time getting over a bad relationship. Why didn't he love me? Why'd he stop treating me nicely? What did I do wrong? Usually in these cases I was better off without them, although I couldn't see it at the time. I just didn't realize that it was actually his problem, not mine.
With a good relationship I've found that I leave feeling good about what's passed, I'll still love the person as a friend, I feel like I've really learned and earned something valuable.
Everyone has a period of mourning when a relationship is over, and it's up to that person to kick themselves in the ass and get on with life.
I've found that I have the hardest time getting over a bad relationship. Why didn't he love me? Why'd he stop treating me nicely? What did I do wrong? Usually in these cases I was better off without them, although I couldn't see it at the time. I just didn't realize that it was actually his problem, not mine.
With a good relationship I've found that I leave feeling good about what's passed, I'll still love the person as a friend, I feel like I've really learned and earned something valuable.
Everyone has a period of mourning when a relationship is over, and it's up to that person to kick themselves in the ass and get on with life.
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Ok... I didn't know there was an equation either. I don't think there is per se, but time does help.
Carkeys, just remember that wallowing in the destructive mode of self pity doesn't make things easier to handle. It prolongs the agony. Pick yourself up and get on with life.
I wish I had wise words of wisdom to share with you like the others. Just remember that we've all been through this at least once. We all know what you're going through. Keep the good memories and cherish them.
Carkeys, just remember that wallowing in the destructive mode of self pity doesn't make things easier to handle. It prolongs the agony. Pick yourself up and get on with life.
I wish I had wise words of wisdom to share with you like the others. Just remember that we've all been through this at least once. We all know what you're going through. Keep the good memories and cherish them.
