getting my girlfriend to give BJ

[Guest]

my girlfriend has given me a few blowjobs over the course of our relationship, yet i have had one for a few months. I often go down on her, because i love to do it. But how can i persuade her to repay the favour. My cock is always clean, and at 8 1/2 inches, it's quite big, yet she doesn't help me out.

Any suggestions?

 

[Kayr]

Well, have you asked her to? If you have and she's not willing, you're in for some troubled times. If you haven't asked, ask. Maybe she doesn't realize you want it, who knows.

I ran into the same situation with my past 2 girlfriends. One night she asked me what I really wanted, and I told her in so many words, that I'd love to have her suck my cock. Her reply was that she wasn't into doing that. Heh.. Well.. There's not much else I can do in that situation. Basically you end up going home at the end of the night and jerking off. Hehe, that's all I ever did, it was extremely frustrating to say the least.

 

[MissTaken]

If she says she doesn't like it, ask her what it is she doesn't like.

Then, let her do it on her terms. And certainly, dont' cum in her mouth until she has gotten comfortable with oral sex. That can be enough to turn off any girl who isn't experienced or prepared for a mouthful of the stuff.

While she is going down on you, finger her or do something she enjoys.

There are times I lose my enjoyment of oral sex if my partner lays back and does nothing. Even caressing her head or arm, may be incentive to continue. It adds intimacy to the act.

 

[DreamingAngel]

Good Advice Kayr.

If you can't talk to your girlfriend about it then who can you talk too?

I had an ex that I just couldn't bring myself to go down on, He tasted awful, smelt real bad (sweat wise), and I just didn't enjoy it, so as is my right I never did it. I never did tell him why (we broke up shortly after as I couldn't handle being with him).

Talk to your girl and let her know that you feel badly, here you are giving your best for her and she doesn't seem to want to do the same for you. Don't do it in a threatening manner as she'll probably never wanna try again. Use words that will sooth her and not make her feel badly for not doing this for you.

Like Kayr said, if all else fails go home and jerk off, it's not the same I realize, but at least you'll still have your girl.

Oh and just so you know, not all girls enjoy giving head, she may be one of them.

Good luck to you, and let us know how you went.

 

[Kayr]

One other thing that might help... If you're real hairy around your cock and balls, either trim in back neatly or shave it. Some girls aren't into all that hair. Get rid of some, most, or all of it and see if it helps.

It's the same way for guys too. I can't eat a hairy pussy, but will go down on a woman with a shaved or neatly trimmed pussy without any hesistation. I just don't enjoy licking hair, period. I prefer licking her instead.

 

[Hotred911]

This sounds familar to me. I never really enjoyed giving oral sex until recently. One thing was that I don't like to have him cum in my mouth (except for when I'm really turned on). I also never thought I was very good at it, but after doing some browsing one night online I found some new techniques, and a few that I already knew. I tried out the new ideas, and he loved it! I just needed the boost of confidence knowing I was doing it "right". I'm not sure this has helped answer your question at all, but maybe all she needs is the confidence boost.

Here's a good site I thought was useful....if she's interested she could take a look.

 

[Hotred911]

One other thing that might help... If you're real hairy around your cock and balls, either trim in back neatly or shave it. Some girls aren't into all that hair. Get rid of some, most, or all of it and see if it helps.

Very good point!

 

[Hotred911]

Just thought of one more thing.....flavored condoms!

 

[prettyrockslut]

perhaps she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth. Maybe just use it as a foreplay, and stress that she doesn't need to put it ALL in her mouth at a time.

Have you tried tasty lotions?? perhaps she has a distaste for the saltiness of male liquids... and is embarrassed to tell you... Get some of them, and "surprise" her -- the flavor could make her really enjoy it.. and perhaps she will get to the point where the lotion isnt necessary

 

[prettyrockslut]

one more thought. . .

Try 69! mutual is always best... she'll need an outlet for the goodness she feels.. and the cock will be right there!

 

[bharman4102]

one more thought. . .

Try 69! mutual is always best... she'll need an outlet for the goodness she feels.. and the cock will be right there!

69 does have a way of getting you both into it!

and i have to echo something i read above...is she afraid of you cumming in her mouth? does she know she has options concerning this part?

 

[ClubIrish]

I agree

Make it nice for both of you, 69 all the way.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

*waves at bharman***

does she know she has options concerning this part?

bharman....did I hear you say options??????


I think you might know a couple.....huh?



*laughing*
Reina

 

[Alice_In_Chains]

If you arent into a 69 chill that's cool not everyone is into it.

Sit her down and be honest and say look hun I love going down I you and all but um I would like you to return the favour.

If she doesn't "want to" or doesn't like it. Respect it. Like her deal with it when she wants to. Don't make her feel she HAS to do it. Let her go at her own pace.

 

[huskie]

pay her.

 

[lovechild27]

Maybe she just doesnt want to. a lot of women were told doing that is disgusting when they are growing up. Maybe she was one of them. Just dont talk her into it. Nothing is worse doing a sexual favor for your other that you have no desire to do.

 

[Rubyfruit]

One other thing that might help... If you're real hairy around your cock and balls, either trim in back neatly or shave it. Some girls aren't into all that hair. Get rid of some, most, or all of it and see if it helps.

Thank you. We don't enjoy a mouthful of hair anymore than you boys do.

 

[Alice_In_Chains]

Maybe she just doesnt want to. a lot of women were told doing that is disgusting when they are growing up. Maybe she was one of them. Just dont talk her into it. Nothing is worse doing a sexual favor for your other that you have no desire to do.

*applaudes* Thank you!

 

[collegeguy7231]

Man I have definately had the same problem.
Quite frankly it sucks.
I just kind of kindly brought up the fact that I love getting head so much.... that it is one of my favorite things to do... and especially the fact that your partner is so good at it.
That worked for me I hope it works for you!!!

 

[ClubIrish]

pay her.

good idea

 

[Quimmy]

I think I have the opposite problem. I love the thought of getting a blowjob and my partner is more than willing to do it daily. And she loves me cumming in her mouth....

But... I can't feel it much. Licking the head is supposed to feel good, but I swear, if i didn't look, I couldn't tell if she was doing it or not. I feel like reading the newspaper, until she's bored enough to stop. Obviously, it is a terrible feeling for a girl, to not be able to bring a guy to orgasm, so it ends up being a frustrating experience for us.

Actually I have cum once through fellatio, but it took like an hour of oral sex.

I think it's because I prefer more violent, raw sex over sitting there and being pleasured. (although I like pleasuring...) I need the squeaking of the bed springs, the thrusting of hips, the wet slapping of flesh on flesh, biting her neck and her nails digging into my back, to put me in the right mindset.