Getting my girlfriend to experiment

[longbutlonely]

I'm an inexperienced newby here, please be nice.
I want to know how to get my girlfriend to experiment with our love life. I love her, but she's a sexual stick in the mud. I'm not small or huge (7,1/4) and I've stretched my foreskin to about 1/2 uncircumcised (head still shows but I have a lot of extra skin + it gives a lot of girth, i think anyway). I want to orally stimulate her, I want to make love to her clit & nipples w/ my tongue, I want to have her in the ole' doggy position w/ me underneath using my tongue while she uses hers . But it doesn't interest her. I have no problem keeping a hard erection for an hour (we've done so once or twice) but she just goes thru the motions? please help!

 

[versatile1]

I'm an inexperienced newby here, please be nice.
I want to know how to get my girlfriend to experiment with our love life. I love her, but she's a sexual stick in the mud. I'm not small or huge (7,1/4) and I've stretched my foreskin to about 1/2 uncircumcised (head still shows but I have a lot of extra skin + it gives a lot of girth, i think anyway). I want to orally stimulate her, I want to make love to her clit & nipples w/ my tongue, I want to have her in the ole' doggy position w/ me underneath using my tongue while she uses hers . But it doesn't interest her. I have no problem keeping a hard erection for an hour (we've done so once or twice) but she just goes thru the motions? please help!

I have found that experimentation takes patience, communication, and trust. How long have you been together? How much experience do you and she have respectively?

I suspect she is more intersted in the relationship, love and affection than the numbers and statistics you have cited. My experience is that when women seem to go through the motions, a need is not being met. That need may be something other than what you are focusing on.

 

[SweetErika]

Re: Re: Getting my girlfriend to experiment

I have found that experimentation takes patience, communication, and trust. How long have you been together? How much experience do you and she have respectively?

I suspect she is more intersted in the relationship, love and affection than the numbers and statistics you have cited. My experience is that when women seem to go through the motions, a need is not being met. That need may be something other than what you are focusing on.

Versatile1 is right on the money! You should also consider her beliefs about sex in general and what her past experiences have been like. If she's been raised to believe sex is dirty or wrong or she's had some bad/traumatic experiences in the past, it's going to take a lot more time, love, trust, understanding, communication, and meeting her emotional needs to get her interested in broadening her horizons.

 

[Zeldas slave]

I have to agree with my fellow Literotica's on this one: it AIN'T a race or competition thing! Don't make your girl feel that she's got to constantly 'measure up' to your needs. Just make love to her - at her pace - and you'll probably find (with time and TLC) that she'll start to come out of any 'shell' she may be in and will begin to experiment more naturally herself.
Also, if you want to try a few things, make sure you get her well relaxed and cosy and intimate first....try little things first......and try them around 14 days after she has her period....women are often at their most receptive/sexually receptive then.

Cheers
Zeldas Slave

 

[tigerjen]

Open communciation (both ways!) and patience are key.

Good luck!


tigerjen