Getting married soon - nervous wedding night sex !!!

[Abby911]

Hello :

Getting married soon , mid 20's girl , getting really nervous about wedding night sex !!

What do I wear , I was think a pretty baby doll and panties , Is this OK or will he be expecting stockings & suspenders.

Will my new husband expect oral sex ? will he perfom oral sex on me and do I keep my panties on at this time ?

We have talked about doing it in the missionary position ? , again do I allow my new husband to remove my pantiess?

I am apprehensive in removing my panties for the 1st time !!!

- Abby

 

[Que]

If you have talked about positions, I am sure all of these questions are OK to ask him.

As far as what to wear, I'd recommend wearing what you feel sexiest in. Feeling sexy is half the battle.

As far as what he is expecting none of us can guess since we don't know him, his background or any of it.

It is 100% OK if the first time is sort of awkward. It will get smoother with practice.

You might see if you can get the thread moved over to "How To." Lots of thoughtful responses to be had over there.

 

[albertaboy]

On our wedding night (29 years ago), my wife wore a medium length nighty, white and a pretty little pair of white panties. She looked great.

We weren't nervous, but we were both exhausted.

It was a fun night, but far from the best sex we had so far or since.

Don't overthink your wedding night, if you two haven't slept together yet let your husband explore and go with the flow. If you want to give him oral go ahead, if not just see where it goes.

 

[chargergirl]

If you have talked about positions, I am sure all of these questions are OK to ask him.

As far as what to wear, I'd recommend wearing what you feel sexiest in. Feeling sexy is half the battle.

As far as what he is expecting none of us can guess since we don't know him, his background or any of it.

It is 100% OK if the first time is sort of awkward. It will get smoother with practice.

You might see if you can get the thread moved over to "How To." Lots of thoughtful responses to be had over there.

I can move it if you'd like, OP, or you can repost your thread there. Que is right, they do well with advice over there.

How To forum: http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6

 

[Aphro]

Are you both virgins?

Set the mood. Get a nice playlist on your iPod or music player. Some nice soft jazz or something mellow that can play just in the background.

A baby doll set is very pretty and appropriate, I think.

Dim the lights. You don't want to be in the pitch dark, but it's nice if it's not bright and glaring.

I don't know if you drink, but a glass of wine is nice. Only one...too much, for either of you, and the evening will be a disappointment! But one glass can help take the nervous edge off. If this is all happening directly after your reception, then make sure neither one of you has too much to drink at the bar before you head to the hotel.

Go slow. It's not a race. Talk and touch, kiss...lots. Lots and lots of kissing. Touch outside of each other's clothing. If you feel nervous about taking off your panties, then let him touch you outside the panties for a while first, or just pull them aside at first before taking them off.

As to oral sex, wait and see. Again, if you are nervous, and he wants to go down on you, then maybe he can tease you a bit over your panties first. If you decide you want to give him oral, don't be thinking you are going to deepthroat him the first time. Start slow. Kiss him...the head, the shaft. Get used to having your mouth there first. Then lick a bit, see how that feels for both of you. Unless he's an idiot, he shouldn't be grabbing you by the hair and jamming it into your mouth.

The first time isn't going to be amazing, I'm not going to lie to you. It takes a little while of being with someone sexually to get to know them, their likes and dislikes, be able to read their body language, the sounds they make, to know what to do next. But that's part of what makes it wonderful, those discoveries, made together in a loving and trusting relationship.

Congratulations!

 

[suckonsimon]

Abby, I was where you two are 39 years ago.
I adored how my bride looked for the day, and for the evening.
Come the night, all we both wanted was to be naked; skin on skin first caressing and kissing and when we were ready, penetration. I wanted her simply as she was and the niceties of underwear or ambiance didn't matter for me at all. I wanted to take her clothes off slowly and she wanted me to do that, but which clothes was beside the point. The one exception was we left on the 'something blue' she'd been given - a lacey garter band around one thigh - and that kind of symbolized it was wedding night sex.

We'd been naked together before, and I'm guessing you might not have been. But I do remember the first time for that and it was simply lovely to discover each other that way.

Wedding night I was a virgin. It was all over for me in no time, with the intense pleasure of penetration causing me to cum in just a few strokes, and we were both zonked from all the excitement and energy of the day. So we left it at that. We knew there would be the next morning. That's when I began to learn to be a good lover as to penetrative sex. With her help I learned fast.

I offer this just for you to reflect on a similar experience from the guy's point of view, in the hope that it may help you 'chill' about what's coming, and enjoy it for the 'not nearly as good as it's going to get' sex which wedding night sex for newbies tends to be. No harm in that, and plenty of joy and love.

The best to you both darling. Simon.

 

[Halen]

Hello :

Getting married soon , mid 20's girl , getting really nervous about wedding night sex !!

What do I wear , I was think a pretty baby doll and panties , Is this OK or will he be expecting stockings & suspenders.

Will my new husband expect oral sex ? will he perfom oral sex on me and do I keep my panties on at this time ?

We have talked about doing it in the missionary position ? , again do I allow my new husband to remove my pantiess?

I am apprehensive in removing my panties for the 1st time !!!

- Abby

Easy He is a Male, Wear nothing. end of issue. its going to be awkward if its the first time for both. Inexperience and all. as stated again and again it does get better, hopefully he can control his excitement and not be to quick with you. Found I had that problem first time with a virgin, thankfully she was able to express her discomfort and we slowed to her comfort level.

 

[Whispor]

Just my $0.02 worth...

As a man, my "perfect" experience with a new woman/girlfriend/wife would be for her to lavish my cock and balls with licks, kisses, and COMPLIMENTS! Tell him how beautiful his cock and balls are, how you've fantasized about sucking it, tasting it, and having it inside you. Tell him you are so happy you can lick and suck his balls any time you want to! Tell him all of it is fucking gorgeous, hot, masculine, and that you love it.

...oh, and you can really get his "sap" flowing if you talk dirty to him before you arrive at your honeymoon location, like whispering "I can't wait to suck your cock tonight" in his ear when you're both at the reception after the wedding. Fuel his desire for the approaching night!

If he comes in your mouth, swallowing is up to you. But try not to gag or act like someone just shit in your mouth when you're spitting it out. Do it discretely. Tell him how delicious his cum is if you can (because cum REALLY IS delicious!) Tell him how sexy it was to feel him ejaculate into your mouth.

When he's inside you, tell him how wonderful it feels to have him in you. Lightly gasp when his cockhead enters you, and moan when he bottoms out and you feel his balls resting against your ass. While he's pumping his cock inside you, tell him you can feel his big balls slapping against your asshole, and that it really turns you on. Tell him how wonderful it is that he fills you up. When he's about to cum, softly whisper in his ear, "I want you to finish inside me so bad..."

When he IS cumming inside you, hold him tightly, moan, and express the pleasure you are experiencing from him depositing his seed deep inside you. Wrap your legs around him, pull him as close as you can, and make him feel like you're never going to let him go.

...and lots of kissing afterwards. Deep, tongue-in-mouth soul kissing like only the two of you exist in the universe and that having him cum inside you was the most wonderful thing you've ever experienced in your life.

Yeah, that'll do it...

I think I'm in the majority here when I say that as a man, my cock and balls are pretty close to the center of my universe and the focus of my masculinity. When my lady goes ga-ga over my genitals it makes me feel sexy, horny, and even more loved!

 

[suckonsimon]

^^^
Hey, Whispor's written some fun male bragg but, Abby, no guy who loves you has an expectation of oral until such time as he knows you are really comfortable with that! And don't, don't please, do any pretending at all about how it is for you!

 

[Aphro]

Just my $0.02 worth...

As a man, my "perfect" experience with a new woman/girlfriend/wife would be for her to lavish my cock and balls with licks, kisses, and COMPLIMENTS! Tell him how beautiful his cock and balls are, how you've fantasized about sucking it, tasting it, and having it inside you. Tell him you are so happy you can lick and suck his balls any time you want to! Tell him all of it is fucking gorgeous, hot, masculine, and that you love it.

...oh, and you can really get his "sap" flowing if you talk dirty to him before you arrive at your honeymoon location, like whispering "I can't wait to suck your cock tonight" in his ear when you're both at the reception after the wedding. Fuel his desire for the approaching night!

If he comes in your mouth, swallowing is up to you. But try not to gag or act like someone just shit in your mouth when you're spitting it out. Do it discretely. Tell him how delicious his cum is if you can (because cum REALLY IS delicious!) Tell him how sexy it was to feel him ejaculate into your mouth.

When he's inside you, tell him how wonderful it feels to have him in you. Lightly gasp when his cockhead enters you, and moan when he bottoms out and you feel his balls resting against your ass. While he's pumping his cock inside you, tell him you can feel his big balls slapping against your asshole, and that it really turns you on. Tell him how wonderful it is that he fills you up. When he's about to cum, softly whisper in his ear, "I want you to finish inside me so bad..."

When he IS cumming inside you, hold him tightly, moan, and express the pleasure you are experiencing from him depositing his seed deep inside you. Wrap your legs around him, pull him as close as you can, and make him feel like you're never going to let him go.

...and lots of kissing afterwards. Deep, tongue-in-mouth soul kissing like only the two of you exist in the universe and that having him cum inside you was the most wonderful thing you've ever experienced in your life.

Yeah, that'll do it...

I think I'm in the majority here when I say that as a man, my cock and balls are pretty close to the center of my universe and the focus of my masculinity. When my lady goes ga-ga over my genitals it makes me feel sexy, horny, and even more loved!

I don't know whether to laugh or cry here.

 

[hottyscotty22]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry here.

I think laugh, at least thats what I did.

 

[chargergirl]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry here.

No kidding.

 

[MyRubiLips]

Hello :

Getting married soon , mid 20's girl , getting really nervous about wedding night sex !!

What do I wear , I was think a pretty baby doll and panties , Is this OK or will he be expecting stockings & suspenders.

Will my new husband expect oral sex ? will he perfom oral sex on me and do I keep my panties on at this time ?

We have talked about doing it in the missionary position ? , again do I allow my new husband to remove my pantiess?

I am apprehensive in removing my panties for the 1st time !!!

- Abby

You're both virgins?

 

[chargergirl]

You're both virgins?

It does happen, believe it or not.

 

[RaynieJ]

^^^
Hey, Whispor's written some fun male bragg but, Abby, no guy who loves you has an expectation of oral until such time as he knows you are really comfortable with that! And don't, don't please, do any pretending at all about how it is for you!

Well said...my thoughts exactly. If you really feel the way he described and have no regard for your own pleasure, by all means, do just that. But otherwise, be yourself, explore each other, and have fun. And if one or both of you are virgins, just try not to be nervous (I know, easier said than done) and just enjoys all your firsts together.

I don't know whether to laugh or cry here.

Seriously.

 

[Whispor]

No kidding.

 

[Whispor]

I take it back! I take it back! Oh the humiliation!

 

[justask649]

First time having sex? Is the this 1800's? Separate beds maybe?

 

[chargergirl]

First time having sex? Is the this 1800's? Separate beds maybe?

Don't be rude.



If it continues, all rude and off-topic posts will be moved off the thread.

 

[RaynieJ]

First time having sex? Is the this 1800's? Separate beds maybe?

It's still sacred to some people and they choose to wait. Nothing wrong with that!

 

[pplwatching]

Don't overthink your wedding night, if you two haven't slept together yet let your husband explore and go with the flow. If you want to give him oral go ahead, if not just see where it goes.

I wholeheartedly agree with this. There is nothing more sensual and exciting than keeping an open mind and just learning about each other's likes. There's also nothing quite as disappointing as spending hours trying to perfect a guess, and discovering that it isn't to your lover's liking (or they don't notice).

If the idea of wearing something slinky and see through excites you, then wear it because it excites you. You'll have plenty of time to update your wardrobe as you learn what excites him.

Alberta Boy, I have read that one of the predictors of a long and successful marriage is being able to remember what your spouse wore when you met, married, and lived major life events together

 

[pplwatching]

Go slow. It's not a race. Talk and touch, kiss...lots. Lots and lots of kissing. Touch outside of each other's clothing. If you feel nervous about taking off your panties, then let him touch you outside the panties for a while first, or just pull them aside at first before taking them off.

The first time isn't going to be amazing, I'm not going to lie to you. It takes a little while of being with someone sexually to get to know them, their likes and dislikes, be able to read their body language, the sounds they make, to know what to do next. But that's part of what makes it wonderful, those discoveries, made together in a loving and trusting relationship.

Great post. I thought that I might add that my wife and I were dead tired after our reception. We retreated to our room, where we promptly tried to get our mojo working. I was ready to go, but she was exhausted from a week of wedding preparations, entertaining guests, and all of that. We both wanted wedding night sex, but it wasn't memorable. Wake up sex was when we had our time to lazily enjoy each other's bodies, and we've spent the last 20 years learning how to be good lovers.

 

[mterrence]

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[bunny4med]

just relax. put champagne on ice, lower the lighting, soft music, and slow dance with him. explore each other. touch and kiss each other all over. remember that he is yours to explore and play with and vice versa. just take your time and enjoy.

 

[idahoguy26]

Hello :

Getting married soon , mid 20's girl , getting really nervous about wedding night sex !!

What do I wear , I was think a pretty baby doll and panties , Is this OK or will he be expecting stockings & suspenders.

Will my new husband expect oral sex ? will he perfom oral sex on me and do I keep my panties on at this time ?

We have talked about doing it in the missionary position ? , again do I allow my new husband to remove my pantiess?

I am apprehensive in removing my panties for the 1st time !!!

- Abby

YES to all of it!! Enjoy the moment and go with the flow!! No instruction booklets...go with what feels good and feels right...