Getting her to take facials

[Rockitballs]

Hey, I've been trolling for a long time and figure I better join the community with a thread of my own.

I've been living with my gf for about 2 years and our sex life is great. She is shy about most sexual things at first, but with patience and communication she really opens up....actually that Mr. G thread really stepped things up for us.

I really get turned on by the thought of shooting my load on her, but she will have no part of it. I've brought this up a few times, but she always mentions how she likes it when I go inside her. This isn't really a major problem for me or us, but it is something I would like to be able to do once in awhile. So, I guess I would like to know if anyone has had to overcome this problem before? I mean I could just pull out and shoot it anywhere I wanted to, but that would probably piss her off and then I might be stuck with my old friend Palmala for awhile. I've tried to bring it up with her, but for some reason it is a topic she doesn't really want to discuss. ... any advice?

 

[eDJ]

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I've done it with some of my ladies and I'm just not that into it. I'd much rather she suck and swallow.

It's one of the things that the boys & girls of Pornland seem to make look so good
that every young guy craves to do it. But the girls of Pornland are getting paid the big bucks for it and that's only for the time they are on camera. Then they go to their dressing room and clean up and re-apply their make up. It don't work like that in real life for one. Secondly when you do this with a date she won't have a script of what to say that makes it seem so hot to the guy(s).

Women all have different feelings about taking a facial. Will he kiss me afterwards ? Will he cast me off as if I'm a cheap whore ? If a girl is dating she won't be looking at it like a porn starlett. Some women see it as his penis spitting in her face. (although penises don't spit saliva) The urine or semen ejaculate leaves a healthy male body sterile where the saliva is loaded with bacteria and no way near sterile. So although getting a facial isn't that bad of a thing for a girl, it's just the thought of it.

Facials I've given with girls who were willing were where I fucked her, pulled out to jizz her face and then told her to wear it while I went down on her. I
then told her we'd remove it once she came. Then when that happened I'd let her hold my cock to use to wipe her face and lap up the cum. But then I didn't hesitate to kiss her. (and tell her how hot she was and how I enjoyed)

The main thing for a girl is getting past the first couple of times. Like her taking a guys cock into her mouth the first time or two, or swallowing the first time or so. You may ask her what "kink" of hers she would like you to indulge. Then man up to that. Most women worry about doing something that makes them look dumb, stupid, foolish, or worse in her guy's eyes.

Remember, there are some girls who will never go there....period. They will tell you it's a deal breaker if you do it. But I think most of them would rather watch Oprah or Ellen on the estrogen channel than lurk on the wild side at Literotica.

 

[satindesire]

If she won't even talk about it with you, and she's flatly refused to do it, I think you've already gotten your answer.

 

[California_baby]

While you two are both pretending to engage in enlightened discussion about sexuality, your real goal is to spray cum all over your girlfriends' faces. Now, the title of this thread is "getting her to take facials," implying that you want to trick or cajole your girlfriend into enjoying something she obviously does not want to do (or she would have agreed to it in the first place). Maybe you should stop being idiots and stop objectifying the people you live with.

Also, eDJ, as far as your statement goes that most girls who prefer not to have cum sprayed all over their faces like a porno would "rather watch Oprah or Ellen on the estrogen channel," I can assure you that this is stereotyped, chauvinistic and completely untrue. Yes, I lurk on Literotica, I LOVE sex, and have a massive "wild side," and no, I don't enjoy facials. Cum gets in your hair and it's hard to wash out, and excuse me if I don't want bodily fluids (no matter how sterile) all over my face... I'd rather focus on cumming myself.

There is nothing wrong with facials, as long as both parties enjoy it. But don't try to make someone do something they don't want to do during sex, or train them to take it like some sort of animal. There are tons of other creative, expressive ways to have fun during sex that are pelasurable to BOTH parties.

 

[perfect_curls]

I agree with California and Satin. If she's not into it, she's not into it. Since it's not a deal-breaker for you, let it go.

 

[eDJ]

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There is nothing wrong with facials, as long as both parties enjoy it.

^^ What I said.

But don't try to make someone do something they don't want to do during sex, or train them to take it like some sort of animal.

^^ What I didn't say as it would bias it.

Dworkin anyone ?

I'd bet she tells him to get lost if he pushes it too far. Since this is the break up season anyhow.

Also, eDJ, as far as your statement goes that most girls who prefer not to have cum sprayed all over their faces like a porno would "rather watch Oprah or Ellen on the estrogen channel," I can assure you that this is stereotyped, chauvinistic and completely untrue. Yes, I lurk on Literotica

Yes Califorina_baby, you're right about that. Then I'm not your sterotypical PC man-jina.

 

[Corianne]

I agree with those who suggest you've already gotten a pretty definite answer from your g/f. Some women simply have no desire to be sprayed in the face with cum. Don't take it personally. I'd suggest moving on to other erotic exploration that you and your g/f are both interested in.

I'm one of those women who doesn't like cum facials. It's not so much a sexual hang-up as probably more so an aversion to having anything sprayed into/onto my face. I would feel the same about Hershey's chocolate syrup, my favorite drink, etc. I don't want it splashed on my face, and the idea turns me off.

 

[Netzach]

Is there something she wants to do that grosses you out? I'd say a compromise is sometimes the only way to approach these things.

 

[Netzach]

Remember, there are some girls who will never go there....period. They will tell you it's a deal breaker if you do it. But I think most of them would rather watch Oprah or Ellen on the estrogen channel than lurk on the wild side at Literotica.

I don't watch TV, I like to pee on boys' faces, and I don't wear the jizz masque.

 

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[kskittles]

It's not like she's totally shutting you down. She doesn't want it on her face BECAUSE SHE'D RATHER HAVE IT INSIDE OF HER. Isn't that wonderful? Be happy!

I personally prefer it inside me, but if the guy REALLY wants to shoot it ON me, that's fine. I don't see the allure of it, though.

 

[Rockitballs]

Thanks for the replies.

Just to clear one thing up. If I was trying to "trick" my g/f into taking facials I wouldn't put a forum up here first, instead I'd just go ahead and do it. I'll be more careful how I phrase a title next time. I was more interested in hearing why some people don't like it and some people do. I think that has been answered by most of you, thanks again.

 

[Wizard]

Here is a few comments that I can add to this:

Some of the ladies find this highly derogatory, having said that I've been with some pretty wild chicks also that are pretty kinky but I really love to nut right in there mouth rather than on there face. I cum much harder and never mind cumming "In them" where ever the place of choice is for them be it pussy or ass. However I really don't care to cum on there pussy or ass.... Much rather be deep with in them.
Does she swallow for you?

 

[eDJ]

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Netzach

Is there something she wants to do that grosses you out? I'd say a compromise is sometimes the only way to approach these things.

^^ What I said earlier.

 

[eDJ]

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Netzach

Is there something she wants to do that grosses you out? I'd say a compromise is sometimes the only way to approach these things.

No doubt you'll have a loyal following. So what else is new.

 

[eDJ]

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JtohisPB

I know it's already been said, but this statement is blatantly false and a huge generalization. This members of this site are evidence of females with a high sex drive and interest in the wild side, and who knows how many females are lurking here or reading the stories. Please don't make assumptions like this. Perhaps the women you've known would rather watch Oprah than have sex, but this simply does not apply to all women.

^^ Yes, as I explained it to California_baby.

JtohisPB, I like the way that you showcase the logic of your thoughts. Speaking only for myself, I wouldn't have thought as much. Then this site may be the wank bank for the denizens of Soap's, Oprah, Ellen etc and I certainly wouldn't want to taint that for them by casting lighthearted aspersions. I really didn't intend to evoke the ire of the cyber sisters of the board.

 

[eDJ]

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kskittles

I personally prefer it inside me, but if the guy REALLY wants to shoot it ON me, that's fine. I don't see the allure of it, though.

I'd bet YOU are some guy's treasure. I agree. It seems after guys give a facial
and both of them don't know what to do, he rolls over and falls asleep while she goes and showers that it becomes a "what's the point moment".

The more advanced players will hold and kiss in a scene like you read in the hottest erotica/porn. Yes, he'll kiss her getting his own jizum on his face and in his mouth, knowing it won't kill him, and go from there. Like I said, the boys and girls of Pornland can make it look so hot as they are scripted from these erotic writings where the boys and girls in the bedroom aren't. For the guys it's something to try where for the girls it seems a forfeiture. It seems the guys are used to getting a facial everytime they give oral to their girl and since they don't wear makeup and specially groomed hair they may not be so able to understand the reluctance.

 

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[Iftheshoefits]

Easy. When you're ready to cum, pull out, shoot, and say, "oops".

Disclaimer: Iftheshoefits is not responsible if you get puched in the ball sack afterwards.

 

[sallythescorpian]

Hmm following the above advice would be pretty short sighted. If the whole facial thing is as important to you as it seems why not try to encourage her? For example, tell her it's something you really really want to do and maybe you could come on her boobs in the shower. Being jizzed in the face is harder to get your head around than coming on another body part. As many of the other posters have said, probably a large part of the issue for your g/f is that she doesn't want to be left looking like a cheap whore while you turn over and go to sleep and the shower thing would deal with that. If she agrees to the shower thing, tell her and SHOW her how much you enjoyed it, and perhaps if she'll get used to it in the shower you can move on from there. In fairness to you, you did say at the start you don't want to trick her into it and that's good cos tricking someone into something they don't want just totally undermines trust and would make her far less likely to try anything else you suggested in the future.

Good luck!!!!!

 

[mentionME]

Hmm following the above advice would be pretty short sighted. If the whole facial thing is as important to you as it seems why not try to encourage her? For example, tell her it's something you really really want to do and maybe you could come on her boobs in the shower. Being jizzed in the face is harder to get your head around than coming on another body part. As many of the other posters have said, probably a large part of the issue for your g/f is that she doesn't want to be left looking like a cheap whore while you turn over and go to sleep and the shower thing would deal with that. If she agrees to the shower thing, tell her and SHOW her how much you enjoyed it, and perhaps if she'll get used to it in the shower you can move on from there. In fairness to you, you did say at the start you don't want to trick her into it and that's good cos tricking someone into something they don't want just totally undermines trust and would make her far less likely to try anything else you suggested in the future.

Good luck!!!!!

best advice on the post...i kno i came on my girl by accident (the only other option was to save her and crush her when i fell on her to catch jizm with my hand lol...but oddly she said she liked it...granted i can't wrap my head around cumming on her face cuz i dont feel she would enjoy that...but i think it would be a natural progression if i did become a cum on her type of guy...HAPPYNEWYEAR!!

 

[kat888]

I agree that starting with the shower. She may be able to work up to the facial thing but starting with other body parts is your smartest move. Encourage her to watch you cum. Tell her that you want her to see what she does to you but make sure that you are stimulating her while you cum. If you are rubbing her clit while you are cuming she will still be very turned on while she is watching and when you notice that she can cum while watching you cum then it is time to try moving her in for a closer look. Have patience and encourage her and you just might be able to work up to giving her that facial. Don't forget to make this enjoyable for her also. If you can do this I think that you will get your reward.

 

[Cajon555]

...i kno i came on my girl by accident...but oddly she said she liked it...granted i can't wrap my head around cumming on her face cuz i dont feel she would enjoy that...HAPPYNEWYEAR!!

Umm, you say you don't feel she would like it, but she already told you she does. In the spirit of my New Year's Resolution, which is to not be so inhibitied, to have more fun and do many more enjoyable things, I must say: Dude, she told you she likes it! If you want to give her more facials, and are not sure, ask her if she meant it and if she would like to do it again!

Happy New Year, everybody!

 

[eDJ]

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I still think the question(s) have to be answered, 1) Why would he want to, and 2) why would she want to ?

The motivations may be quite different.

On of my past girl friends had this Polaroid camera for her bedroom but she was definitely not into facials. So when she rented a porn tape she saw this going on in tape and mused at the girls reactions. We began to talk about it later and I tried to remain as neutral about it as I could. She was interested in BDS&M and other adventurous play and I asked her if it was just because it was something expelled from the male member that she thought it was dirty.

She seemed to see it as "spitting" and an act of defimation.

I explained to her that I had read where in some instances trick photography was used and other liquids were squirted in place of the real thing.

So, I suggested using some Joy dish detergent and stage a scene to take with her Polaroid. Thus she gave the camera her hottest moves while she was wearing perfectly placed blobs of Joy detergent on her face. It would wash right off and not do any damage. But it got her past the phobia and since I had done it a few times with other girls, I had began to wonder what the intrigue for it was anyhow. I think the guys want it so bad cause they can't get it and the girls don't want to be duped into it.

I think for younger women it's a matter of not wanting to hand over their submission to guys until THEY'RE ready. Power isn't something anyone easily gives up. Especially to be tricked out of.

 

[mentionME]

Umm, you say you don't feel she would like it, but she already told you she does. In the spirit of my New Year's Resolution, which is to not be so inhibitied, to have more fun and do many more enjoyable things, I must say: Dude, she told you she likes it! If you want to give her more facials, and are not sure, ask her if she meant it and if she would like to do it again!

Happy New Year, everybody!

lol actually i said i dont think i would like it...idk i'm still in this transitional phase, alot of things i used 2 find interesting cuz they were disrespectful now seem interesting because they're different, dirty kinky whatever...*shrugs* i blame this website lol