getting head

[MIKE]

I've been married to the same woman for over 20 years. I am 42, she is 44. She absolutely will not give me head. It's been since I was in high school since I last got head, and there doesn't seem to be any way of getting her to change her mind. She loves it when I go down on her, but she won't return the favor ... HELP!!!!

 

[Dakota]

ok first, why does she feel this way? Maybe something happened to her when she was younger and if thats the case don't press her. If she just thinks its gross then don't return the favor tell her you also think its gross and tell her that you won't give her what she wants until you get what you want.

I know that may sound selfish but isn't it selfish of her to not return the favor?

Dakota

 

[Mrhappy]

Oh, Mike...you poor, poor person. I cant even conceive what it would be like to go that long without some reciprocation by my partner.
Has she tried and you're too big...or maybe your hygiene isn't what it should be? (don't take offense, just trying to arrive at a cause). Some people are very fastidious about where they will and won't put their mouths. Does she exhibit any other behaviors which may indicate that she's anal about cleanliness. Not everyone likes to put their face somewhere that they don't think is clean.

Which gets to the point that Dakota made about something happening to her when she was young or before she met you. Many people are dramatically affected by past experiences, especially sexual ones. Have you talked to her about this in detail? Is she responsive sexually in other areas of your sexuality as a couple? Have you two considered counseling?

All of us here will give you generally good advice. However, none of us are professional therapists and aren't really qualified to give sound medical or psychological opinions. All we can do is empathize with you and lend some of our experience with our partners to you in hopes that something will click for you.

You may want to seek out "Mistress Darkness." She's a specialist who's unique style of treatment revolves around the male half of the couple. She'll most likely convince you that you're unworthy to receive oral sex from a female,(not quite clear on how she feels about you receiving head from a man though)...or, she'll whip the shit out of you until you can go down on yourself!
There...problem solved!!

Just joking Mike...try videos, try bathing together in scented water before attempting oral sex, but above all; you two must communicate honestly with each other.

Good luck
BTW, Deborah, ahhh, I mean Mistress is usually around here, anxiously awaiting to administer her 'therapy'.(man, I'm not gonna be able to sit down for a week after that slip). She'll be glad to help if all else fails.

 

[Golden]

Yep, you two gotta talk.

But also try exploring around the topic ... if not there, then where will she put her mouth on you? Anywhere?

Do you otherwise have fun (as in humour) together? If yes, try presenting it covered in her favourite chocolate, cream or whatever - force the issue without being heavy about it...

 

[Fallen Angel]

Sorry but I doubt that after 20 years you are going to change your wife's attitude toward giving head. There are much worse things than not getting head from your wife. One is getting cutoff from any other activities another is being served divorce papers for trying to force the issue. Try the toy store here or elsewhere and get one of those electric wife machines. Keep hoping and hinting miracles do happen.

 

[MIKE]

You have all given some really good feed back, and I appreciate it ... we have great sex together ... I take particular action when it comes to hygiene ... she has never really told me about anything in her past, but it is certainly worth exploring ... thanks