Genuine question for women

[dvdbloke]

Hi all, long time lurker here.

Ok to give you a bit about me. Im 29 years old, male and I live in the UK. I am recently single and while im not really looking for anything right now, I know I will be in the future and I could do with a little advice.

In past relationships things have been fairly vanilla. Dont get me wrong, ive always enjoyed sex but there was a list of things id wanted to do that id convinced myself I would never get to do. Then I met the girl I have just split up from. Shes 21 years old and there really wasnt anything she wouldnt either do or let me do.
She was the first girl that let me cum over her face, the first to not only do anal, but A2M, we were on a london tour bus and we had just been to a sex store and right there she got herself off. We had sex outside, played with bondage, role play etc. We even had a 4some and I was the only guy.. It was exhilarating.

I want to meet a girl around my age(ish) who is attractive but can get freaky in bed, specifically I want someone who can be 'proper' in the public eye but slutty in the bedroom.

So I guess my question is, without going on forums like this, how do I meet a girl like that locally? If I was to go on tinder or something, how can I word my profile without coming across like a total creep??

I just dont see the point in wasting their time or mine when I now know I cant settle for vanilla anymore.....

EDIT: If it makes a difference I am a fairly attractive guy (Dont mean to sound cocky there)

 

[quietlylooking]

Hi all, long time lurker here.

Ok to give you a bit about me. Im 29 years old, male and I live in the UK. I am recently single and while im not really looking for anything right now, I know I will be in the future and I could do with a little advice.

In past relationships things have been fairly vanilla. Dont get me wrong, ive always enjoyed sex but there was a list of things id wanted to do that id convinced myself I would never get to do. Then I met the girl I have just split up from. Shes 21 years old and there really wasnt anything she wouldnt either do or let me do.
She was the first girl that let me cum over her face, the first to not only do anal, but A2M, we were on a london tour bus and we had just been to a sex store and right there she got herself off. We had sex outside, played with bondage, role play etc. We even had a 4some and I was the only guy.. It was exhilarating.

I want to meet a girl around my age(ish) who is attractive but can get freaky in bed, specifically I want someone who can be 'proper' in the public eye but slutty in the bedroom.

So I guess my question is, without going on forums like this, how do I meet a girl like that locally? If I was to go on tinder or something, how can I word my profile without coming across like a total creep??

I just dont see the point in wasting their time or mine when I now know I cant settle for vanilla anymore.....

EDIT: If it makes a difference I am a fairly attractive guy (Dont mean to sound cocky there)

Why not look on forums such as this? It's hard to tell which women might share your kinks just by looking at them, and many of us wouldn't advertise our tastes that openly, even in writing on dating sites.

You don't have to include a laundry list of specific sexual acts you want your partner to like. You can simply state that you are very open-minded and into exploring new things sexually, and are looking for a partner with the same mindset. Or something along those lines.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Hi all, long time lurker here.

Ok to give you a bit about me. Im 29 years old, male and I live in the UK. I am recently single and while im not really looking for anything right now, I know I will be in the future and I could do with a little advice.

In past relationships things have been fairly vanilla. Dont get me wrong, ive always enjoyed sex but there was a list of things id wanted to do that id convinced myself I would never get to do. Then I met the girl I have just split up from. Shes 21 years old and there really wasnt anything she wouldnt either do or let me do.
She was the first girl that let me cum over her face, the first to not only do anal, but A2M, we were on a london tour bus and we had just been to a sex store and right there she got herself off. We had sex outside, played with bondage, role play etc. We even had a 4some and I was the only guy.. It was exhilarating.

I want to meet a girl around my age(ish) who is attractive but can get freaky in bed, specifically I want someone who can be 'proper' in the public eye but slutty in the bedroom.

So I guess my question is, without going on forums like this, how do I meet a girl like that locally? If I was to go on tinder or something, how can I word my profile without coming across like a total creep??

I just dont see the point in wasting their time or mine when I now know I cant settle for vanilla anymore.....

EDIT: If it makes a difference I am a fairly attractive guy (Dont mean to sound cocky there)

Let me make a suggestion. Join fetlife. Make a good profile. Look for people in your area. Go to munches. Find places that you can go that have events for kinky people. It does work. I hope this recommendation is of some help. Just remember Rome wasn't built in a day and it may take time to meet her. But she's out there and this may help you to find her! Good luck

 

[cumunder]

Looks like your on the right oath ust posting here. Hang in there there's lots of horny peeps out there keep trying and everything will work out.

 

[Iceprincess12]

If you are fairly attractive why not just go to the supermarket and find the "slutty but not isle" and pick her from the shelf?

Seriously if you are looking for dating advice I would try the how to section. So far you have described your ideal woman in terms of what she wants in bed. Women are usually a bit more than just sex toys.

Is there some reason you can't pick up women on your own and you can't ask them for what you want in bed? I mean, make up a questionnaire and have them fill it out before you take them to dinner (saves you some money as well)

You are almost 30, if you haven't figured out the dating thing yet, you could always ask your mom

Good luck!

 

[katt91]

Websites like fetlife might help you get in touch with local kinky people. There's event listings and stuff there.

 

[dvdbloke]

If you are fairly attractive why not just go to the supermarket and find the "slutty but not isle" and pick her from the shelf?

Seriously if you are looking for dating advice I would try the how to section. So far you have described your ideal woman in terms of what she wants in bed. Women are usually a bit more than just sex toys.

Is there some reason you can't pick up women on your own and you can't ask them for what you want in bed? I mean, make up a questionnaire and have them fill it out before you take them to dinner (saves you some money as well)

You are almost 30, if you haven't figured out the dating thing yet, you could always ask your mom

Good luck!

Lol, thanks for this. I do understand woman arnt sex toys, but you have missed the point. I can pick up women, im just not interested in picking up the ones im not going to be sexually compatible with. Sorry if my post wasnt clear.

And thankyou to all those that have taken the time to respond. I will be honest, id never heard of fetlife... Will go check it out

 

[Iceprincess12]

Lol, thanks for this. I do understand woman arnt sex toys, but you have missed the point. I can pick up women, im just not interested in picking up the ones im not going to be sexually compatible with. Sorry if my post wasnt clear.

And thankyou to all those that have taken the time to respond. I will be honest, id never heard of fetlife... Will go check it out

Oh, yes I totally misunderstood that!! We really need to start pasting that stuff on our foreheads, I mean God forbid that a guy needs to ask us any questions about what we like. That info should just be given, like napkins at the drive through...don't you just hate when you have to ask?

 

[Christopher2012]

Oh, yes I totally misunderstood that!! We really need to start pasting that stuff on our foreheads, I mean God forbid that a guy needs to ask us any questions about what we like. That info should just be given, like napkins at the drive through...don't you just hate when you have to ask?

Hey, sex first, questions later... ain't nobody got time for that. =P

 

[Iceprincess12]

Hey, sex first, questions later... ain't nobody got time for that. =P

I'm sitting here embarrassed with pie all over my face. (As a sex toy...it's prob not pie) but we women are the same right? We want to know net worth before accepting the dinner invite.

 

[Christopher2012]

I'm sitting here embarrassed with pie all over my face. (As a sex toy...it's prob not pie) but we women are the same right? We want to know net worth before accepting the dinner invite.

Sarcasm that wasn't detected. Unfortunate.

 

[Iceprincess12]

Sarcasm that wasn't detected. Unfortunate.

I know right! We are giving him free bumps at least and I am sure someone will want to rescue him from us.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Let me make a suggestion. Join fetlife. Make a good profile. Look for people in your area. Go to munches. Find places that you can go that have events for kinky people. It does work. I hope this recommendation is of some help. Just remember Rome wasn't built in a day and it may take time to meet her. But she's out there and this may help you to find her! Good luck

Exactly what I would have suggested.

 

[italiansexylady]

Throwing my two cents in there.....

Lol, thanks for this. I do understand woman arnt sex toys, but you have missed the point. I can pick up women, im just not interested in picking up the ones im not going to be sexually compatible with. Sorry if my post wasnt clear.

And thankyou to all those that have taken the time to respond. I will be honest, id never heard of fetlife... Will go check it out [/QU

Hi! I think it is very hard to just pick up a woman and immediately know if you are sexually compatible with them. That is something you have to take the time to get to know. Sometimes chatting with a woman online first will help you to get a feel for her likes and dislikes. Although I wouldn't want her to deceive you online, so maybe have it build up to a phone call, then facetime/skype or something like that, and then eventually meeting her.
I would also like to point out that a woman being reserved/proper in public and then freaky in the bedroom isn't that uncommon. They're loads of them out there.

Good luck with everything. I wish you the best!

 

[SecretRogue]

Start with the obvious

I agree with those who have suggested you look here. I know that, should I ever be in a good relationship, my partner has to be kinky. And, as I'm sure you've realized, people don't exactly come out and say, "OMG, I love bondage." So why not start in a place like this where you know those "taboo" needs are going to be far more commonplace. You don't have to lower your standards or settle for everything, contrary to popular belief. Even so, starting in a place like this let's people know you're hoping for more than vanilla, without excluding you for those who share your other passions.