Gentle Domme looking for the perfect male sub...

[RomanticErotic]

First, a little background. I had a 3 year relationship where I was constantly disappointed by the guy who had me on an out of control roller coaster. At one point he finally said, "I'm giving you control." I saw this as me telling him what I needed to be happy (which wasn't a lot) but still, it saved him from having to read my mind and it turned out to be the best 2 weeks of our relationship. I gave him little tasks to do and I would sometimes let him rub himself but definitely didn't allow him to cum every day.... After 2 weeks he decided it was too much work - even though he was harder, hornier and happier than he had been in a long time!

I was crushed when he decided not to do it anymore because I had really gotten into it and our relationship was GREAT! A few months later, I met a guy on a different message board who was a submissive (85% submissive; 15% dominant). We talked and he shared his real life experiences but I knew I could not measure up to that kind of treatment he had received (but still fascinating to hear). He wasn't even talking to me looking for a Domme, he was just talking to me because I seemed cool - according to him.

The more we talked, the more we connected and I ended up becoming his Domme. He was single and lived alone and was free to do a lot more than a married man could. It was an AMAZING month and then he suddenly disappeared. Think what you will but I truly believe something happened to him. It's been over 2 months and he has not touched his blog where I met him - he was very active up until his disappearance. I truly think he's dead...

Since then I have told myself I will NOT do this again... But the fact is, I do like having a man want to please ME!

I prefer a professional man who is under pressure at work and wants to have that release. I would consider a married man but only if he is unhappily married - a nagging wife, etc... My 2nd friend had a chastity cage (which I know is kind of hard to pull off for a married man), I LOVED when he would go out to bars and women would flirt with him but I knew nothing was going to happen because the key was at work. Plus he would text me while talking to her and I would often tell him what to say.

What I'm looking for almost HAS to be a single man or a married man with big balls (which he will hand over to me) because I'm not good with this checking out for extended periods of time because you are scared your wife will see your phone.

I'm also not looking for a pussy in general. I want a REAL man who is confident, controlling, powerful - maybe even an ASS at work to those who work for him and around him, but I want to be his weakness. I want to bring him to his knees and have him worship me.

Thanks for reading all this if you did! I am VERY selective and I probably will NOT find what I'm looking for but I figured I would put it out in the universe....

PM me if you are interested and think you might qualify.

 

[tazaris]

He'll mistress

Hi my name's Paul I'm 45. I read your post and it's perfect for me. I'm in a dead marriage and yes my balls are big lol. I live in Wisconsin I'm 6 feet 3 inches tall. I have been a sub before with 2 different mistresses. If I'm chosen to serve you I will tell you what I was doing for them. My wife never sees my phone and I'm a very obedient slave. You order is my command I work hard at both of my jobs and need the release. So if interested my email is tazncat3@gmail.com thank you for your valuable time mistress.

 

[RomanticErotic]

Thanks to all who messaged me regarding this post. In the end, I decided that for now, I'm just not strong enough to take on this role at this time. I thought jumping into something new would make it easier for me to deal with all the changes I'm going through.... I guess I still need to grieve for the lost friendship and the deception that I believe I was a victim of. My 3 year relationship was NOT something I was looking for when it happened, so it's a good reminder that in most instances, I think we often find what we are looking for when we are not looking. The universe just knows what we need...

Anyway, I wanted to post because I know some of you have asked if I made my choice. I'm not sure if I ever will. But I never say never. For now, I have to work on rebuilding my own strength and confidence before I can even think of controlling another.

I will add that WHEN and IF that time comes, I won't even consider someone as a submissive who says he will not be willing to send pictures or talk on the phone. I passed that stage YEARS ago.

Again, thank you all for the interest and I'm sorry I could not be 100% right now...

 

[MarionsPuppy]

Hello Mistress!
https://www.literotica.com/s/for-marions-pleasure
I am Marion's sub and would very much like to exchange ideas xx
The story link is what I produced for Marion to give you an idea of how craven we both are.

 

[vachuck]

Thanks to all who messaged me regarding this post. In the end, I decided that for now, I'm just not strong enough to take on this role at this time. I thought jumping into something new would make it easier for me to deal with all the changes I'm going through.... I guess I still need to grieve for the lost friendship and the deception that I believe I was a victim of. My 3 year relationship was NOT something I was looking for when it happened, so it's a good reminder that in most instances, I think we often find what we are looking for when we are not looking. The universe just knows what we need...

Anyway, I wanted to post because I know some of you have asked if I made my choice. I'm not sure if I ever will. But I never say never. For now, I have to work on rebuilding my own strength and confidence before I can even think of controlling another.

I will add that WHEN and IF that time comes, I won't even consider someone as a submissive who says he will not be willing to send pictures or talk on the phone. I passed that stage YEARS ago.

Again, thank you all for the interest and I'm sorry I could not be 100% right now...

If you ever just want to chat, I can do that. PM me if so and we can go from there.

 

[tsbone]

I just read your post. Im divorced, curious, professional male. I have fantasized about being taken by a man, have come close to acting on it, but just not been able to pull the trigger. I'm disappointed you have withdrawn your offer, perhaps another time?