Genderqueer

[ttvttp]

Anyone in here genderqueer?

 

[Paige.]

Anyone in here genderqueer?

I don't know what you mean by genderqueer. Do you mean anyone that wants to have, or is planning to have a sex change operation, or are you refering to those that engage in sex with the same sex? Like gay and lesbian.

I am physically attracted to other women. I am also very attracted to men that dress as women and look sexy and feminine. Does this make me a genderqueer?

Paige

 

[ttvttp]

No Its a part of the transgender area and it means either that you feel that your both male and female or that you are all genders or no genders at all.

 

[mercury93]

yepyep! glad to see another person breaking out of the binary here

 

[Bredon]

Me too

Genderqueer/ ftm fag, yes.
How about you guys?

 

[symbolicflame]

I do dress as man most of the time, buy my clothes there and such. I feel more myself in men's clothes. I did recently bought a black lace bra and wear it on occasion. I feel more male than female but yet embrace my "inner woman". I do not use female soap, I use all Axe. So I am gender confused at age 35.

 

[neonflux]

No Its a part of the transgender area and it means either that you feel that your both male and female or that you are all genders or no genders at all.

I'm not so sure I would define gender queer that way - feel like the spectrum is broader. I might also include transfolk - ftm or mtf - who have no desire to assimilate (for instance, one of my best friends is FTM and often wears make-up.

I present as femme (when younger as hi-femme but that's hard to pull off gracefully at 50), but like to dress in drag and also enjoy gender fuck. Just posted here - #11.

Oh, do define myself as queer but don't think of myself as gender queer. Bi, switch, gender versatile - perhaps it has something to do with being a Gemini

Neon

 

[Etoile]

I would define "genderqueer" as "not fitting into the boxes of male/female."

For example, Alexis Arquette is having reassignment surgery, but she has explicitly stated she doesn't want to be just female - she wants to be seen specifically as MTF. That's genderqueer.

Or a butch dyke who stars in a drag king show on the weekends and feels masculine but isn't interested in transitioning - I would also call that genderqueer.

Anybody who is androgynous and not easily identifiable as male or female could be seen as genderqueer.

Just my thoughts.

 

[oldcalhippie]

Ive allways believed that I experiance things in both male and female ways. Maybe the reason I have certian desires is because inside my 53 year old body I have female parts that dont openly show. Like that extremely sensitive spot between my balls and my asshole,right where a womans pussy would be. And how sucking my nipples makes my "ovaries" twinge.

 

[Etoile]

Ive allways believed that I experiance things in both male and female ways. Maybe the reason I have certian desires is because inside my 53 year old body I have female parts that dont openly show. Like that extremely sensitive spot between my balls and my asshole,right where a womans pussy would be. And how sucking my nipples makes my "ovaries" twinge.

I guess I'm a little confused. Are you saying you are intersexed?

The great majority of men have a very sensitive spot between their balls and their asshole. It is medically called the perineum, but women's magazines call it the "taint" (because it'aint the ass, and it'aint the balls) and tell their readers that if they stimulate their man there, it will drive him wild. I haven't ever heard it described as "like a pussy" before...I supposed someone with gender dysphoria might interpret the sensations that way, or if someone knows they are intersexed but has no outward characteristics, they might like to think of it that way as a part of embracing their intersexual identity.

As for what you called "ovaries" - if you are intersexed, you certainly might feel them getting stimulated by various stimulation - but if you are not intersexed I'm not sure what that would be...

Etoile

 

[neonflux]

I would define "genderqueer" as "not fitting into the boxes of male/female."

For example, Alexis Arquette is having reassignment surgery, but she has explicitly stated she doesn't want to be just female - she wants to be seen specifically as MTF. That's genderqueer.

Or a butch dyke who stars in a drag king show on the weekends and feels masculine but isn't interested in transitioning - I would also call that genderqueer.

Anybody who is androgynous and not easily identifiable as male or female could be seen as genderqueer.

Just my thoughts.

This is very much what I was trying to say, but poorly, in the following paragraph: "I'm not so sure I would define gender queer that way - feel like the spectrum is broader. I might also include transfolk - ftm or mtf - who have no desire to assimilate (for instance, one of my best friends is FTM and often wears make-up." Thank you for saying it much better than I did.

One of the things that is interesting to me is how many of my trans friends who have gone through transition reach a point where they don't want to be identified as one gender or another - seems to be more the case with those who are FTM than MTF but I have a friend right now who is only starting transition MTF and very early into it has expressed a similar sentiment to that of Alexis Arquette...