Gender Play and Feminization

[satinmarabana]

Greetings all you good kinky people!


I wanted to ask the crowd if there are any men or women who enjoy gender play, i.e. dressing as and/or acting as the opposite gender for sexual gratification. If so, I'm curious as to what drives you, what do you crave, how do you express this need (clothes, makeup, affectations, stereo-typical gender activities, sexual performance as the opposite gender, etc.)

I've had experience with several sissies (men who craved to be feminized, used, and dominated) but it is still limited. I'd enjoy more insight from source as it were.

Thank you!

Satin

 

[rwattsIII]

I've had experience with several sissies

Did you like it?

 

[satinmarabana]

Did you like it?

Very much so. It became quite addicting.

 

[rwattsIII]

newbie......

Yes, I can see that you enjoy it from one of your other threads. Very nice.

Being new at Lit is kind of like walking into a local bar and not knowing anyone. You'll find that there are definite clicks here of which you're either in or you're not. I'm sure as a women of your particular specialty fit in or not you will certainly if nothing less find a male following.

With regard to sissies, the domme/sissy relationship I admire the most is 2easy2 and her boyfrieind. For me anyway, they seem to have the most sincere understanding and appreciation of each other. Not that I know either one of them personally. She posts here and on xtube and seems to be an amiable individual.

 

[satinmarabana]

Thanks, rwattsIII. I'll have to keep an eye out for her, talk over virtual coffee...

 

[woman_inside]

I have sissy fantasies - nothing turns me on more than imagining myself in a girl's body, have a man undress me, fondle my breasts, eventually spread my legs for him, get fucked in the missionary position. I don't want to live as a woman, I just want to have sex as a woman. I've tried passive sex dressed up, but it's never lived up to my fantasies.

 

[satinmarabana]

I have sissy fantasies - nothing turns me on more than imagining myself in a girl's body, have a man undress me, fondle my breasts, eventually spread my legs for him, get fucked in the missionary position. I don't want to live as a woman, I just want to have sex as a woman. I've tried passive sex dressed up, but it's never lived up to my fantasies.

So you were dressed with a man or a woman with a strapon?

It is hard to live up to fantasies. Reality has a habit of getting in the way...

 

[rwattsIII]

nothing turns me on more than imagining myself in a girl's body

I would have to agree. Magical transformation fantasies are my favorites; however, the transformation is never "complete". (There are a couple of stories on the Web where the gf either changes her arrogant bf into a girl or exchanges bodies with him and gets revenge on him for his bad behavior as a male which I really like.) Honestly I have had this fantasy since reading a Superboy comic when I was 11 years old where Superboy gets changed into a girl by red kryptonite. Although my fantasies occasionally involve men submission is predominantly to a woman or women.

 

[woman_inside]

So you were dressed with a man or a woman with a strapon?

It is hard to live up to fantasies. Reality has a habit of getting in the way...

I was with a man. In fact, all but one time I've had sex with a guy I was role playing a girl, and have never done gender play with a female. My fantasies are being very much a straight girl. The problem is I fantasise with vaginal sex, not with anal or oral. When I had agf, often when having sex I fantasised I was in her place.

I like to look at pics like these and fantasise I'm the girl.

 

[satinmarabana]

That is very interesting. I've not encountered a man who didn't make that mental substitution between anal and vaginal, but I can completely understand you. Trust me, they are very different experiences.

 

[girlyboyalexa]

As a cross dresser (not full-time) I love the idea of becoming a woman, I don't think I'd ever do that for real. But when I'm with a man, I dress for him and I act as feminine as I can, and what could be more feminine than giving yourself to him?

 

[rwattsIII]

When I had a gf, often when having sex I fantasised I was in her place.

Sounds like you're a transgender. Are you? Woman Inside pretty much says that.

 

[woman_inside]

Sounds like you're a transgender. Are you? Woman Inside pretty much says that.

Not exactly, my username is a bit misleading. While my greatest sexual fantasy is to have sex as a girl, with a man, otherwise I don't want to live as a woman or be female in other settings or want a female body for anything other than sex. My only female fantasies that don't only involve the bedroom are that I dress up like a slut and go out clubbing to find a man to spread my legs for, and that I'm a teenage girl, it's my birthday and my girlfriends have gotten me as a present an extremely hot guy to take my virginity, etc - they all lead to sex.

 

[woman_inside]

That is very interesting. I've not encountered a man who didn't make that mental substitution between anal and vaginal, but I can completely understand you. Trust me, they are very different experiences.

I'm sure they are, but since that's the only hole I've got in my lower body, that's what I've tried using - it's not that I think it's a substitute but that it'd the only alternative down there.

 

[satinmarabana]

Exactly.

 

[fetishdan]

Hi

I love your posts, I am very intrigued by what you have been talking about here.
I often find myself fantasizing about being used and abused by a woman while I look like a little slut.
How do I fulfill this you ask, well I love to wear sluttty panties and and pretend that I am at the command of a women.

 

[TaylorWi]

I second the thoughts about your posts - very exciting.

I've thought about why I'm drawn to this fantasy for awhile. There's no simple answer, in fact there are a combination of reasons for me. Part of it is the desire to experience what it's like to be a woman (as much as a man can experience it); part is the sexual aspects of an encounter, but the biggest part is the relief of giving up control. I don't want to come across as a chauvinist, but in this fantasy I don't need to provide for my family or dictate work directions or other responsibilities, I just need to keep my partner sexually satisfied. This is an unfairly romanticized and inaccurate fantasy, as I know plenty of women that support their families and are executives at work. However fantasies aren't accurate, otherwise they wouldn't be fantasies.

 

[Shywong]

I'm addicted to femboys and shemales. Convincing cross dressers are also really hot. Never been with either types but I'll jump at the first opportunity to do so. My wildest fantasies involve turning androgynous straight males into cock hungry bitch boys through forced feminization. There needs to be more stories like that on literotica. And not the kind involving women with strap-ons.. I especially like the ones which don't involve brutality because when the victims are beaten into submission that makes it much less appealing to me.

 

[sunandshadow]

I'm a writer, and although feminization is not a strong interest of mine, I think that in general stories where a dominant partner exerts a transformative influence on a submissive partner are a very interesting dynamic. One of the story ideas I have on my "to write someday" list is about a main character who is a mage specializing in human transformations, such as the magical equivalent of plastic surgery and bod mod. His job would somewhere between high class gigolo and sex therapist; he would take clients who were dissatisfied with their sex lives and explore their psychology and physically transform them into a body that would make them more satisfied, as well as doing some matchmaking. (I would write about a male/male pairing myself but I'm sure a similar story with a female main character would also be interesting.)

 

[alaskabibear]

I'm addicted to femboys and shemales. Convincing cross dressers are also really hot. Never been with either types but I'll jump at the first opportunity to do so. My wildest fantasies involve turning androgynous straight males into cock hungry bitch boys through forced feminization. There needs to be more stories like that on literotica. And not the kind involving women with strap-ons.. I especially like the ones which don't involve brutality because when the victims are beaten into submission that makes it much less appealing to me.

Totally agree about the "forced brutality" issue. In my opinion, forcing a person to submit through brutality and fear is really more like rape. Either submit or be hurt, etc. This then is no longer submission, but slavery.

I think the erotic aspect of male submission is that he is willingly surrendering his "manhood" to another by taking a submissive role. In effect, he is giving a great gift to his Dom...which makes it lovely, erotic and sensuous.

 

[emap]

On a similar line I will one of these decades get around to writing up a transformation story. I got it pretty well planned out just a matter of actually typing it.

Just to be an evil little slut I'm gonna tell ya'll about it.

Shy geeky guy goes to college, I haven't decided on a name yet, where he falls flat with women, the whole two he approaches. Feeling dejected he notices an advertisement looking for test subjects to try out a new program. He notices a gorgeous woman who also saw the ad and grabbed one of the little slips, thinking maybe he can get close to her and have sparks fly he grabs up a slip and goes to the place mentioned.

There he goes through some testing, and is given a shot. Told to go home and come back in two days he leaves and dashes for class, but has to leave halfway through because he's feeling sick. The next morning he wakes up feeling lots better and in a hurry, he has a class in half an hour. Dashing into the communal bathroom amid lots of whistles he showers fast and takes a shower. After brushing off two hands he goes to brush his hair and shave where he gets a great big old shock, he has breasts. Panicked he misses class to run to the lab where he got the shot to find out he was injected with nanomachines, it seems he was given the wrong ones, the ones he got where for female so now he is a fully functional female.

I know kinda silly but wasn't another way to do it.

So he goes back to his room and mopes about because he doesn't know what to do, they can give him the proper nanomachines but has to wait, I'm thinking two weeks, though may extend or shorten. His roommate comes back and there's a discussion leading up to playing with himself, both are virgins. During the playing with himself he can't reach orgasm though really wants to, roomy suggests he helps which leads up to having sex.

There is of course more but I'm gonna keep that to me.

 

[Shywong]

I'll be honest and say I like rape and have rape fantasies, especially when it comes to forced feminizing. However I don't like violent rape that involves severe physical abuse. It may sound like a contradiction, and despite how annoyed I may feel about it, the fact is it still gives me involuntary erections. But its possible to rape someone without using brute force, and that's how I like it to be done. When it comes to forced submission there's 'do it or suffer more' and there's 'take it, you'll get used to it and learn to love it.' I very much prefer the later, because the changes the person goes through turns me on the most. 'At first he didn't like it, but now he craves it. Needs it.' Best way to cultivate a femboy.

 

[rwattsIII]

transformation/rape

Transformation fantasies are most attractive to me as well (dna, magic, nanobots are cool, too). Being almost 6'2" and not very attractive in a feminine way, it's hard to imagine running around in high heels and mini skirt. I'm not hung up on being beautiful. Much more being cute. Being small enough to be easily overpowered is appealing, too.

The whole pain thing that is common in BDSM (cbt, ect) is not particularly attractive to me. I do like and have been spanked before, however. I also like the idea of "unwillingly" submitting to sexual servitude and being turned into a slut by a woman who knows how to push all the right buttons.

 

[hoodooman]

i enjoy the image of being on my knees with a cock pumping my mouth which i further imagine as a cunt with a tongue....similar for being on my back with my ankles held high in the air...a man or strong woman fucking me...for them a power trip...for me i'm a sissy or bitch boy

i crave someone fucking me while calling me a cunt, bitch, faggot and etc....

i don't know why and i have experienced all that and more...in the day to day i'm quite masculine in appearance and manner...but every so often a perceptive person gets what is in my head...

it's cost me the friendship of people i like...so i don't try to reveal my needs except where i feel very safe...it's like a duality...70/30 masc/fem

i may go see someone today who will "force" (ha ha...just try to stop me from getting naked and slutty...smile) me to get naked...apply a couple swift kicks to the nuts to drop me to my knees and then force me to suck a cock or dildo...that's for starters

i have the house boys number to set up a time with mistress

 

[sterculius]

I've often wondered about the psychology behind my sexual urges. I'm a married guy who has always LOVED having sex with women in the alpha male persona. I find women extremely sexy and arousing. However, I'm also an avid and enthusiastic cocksucker. Not only do I enjoy the act itself, but I love the submissive and slutty feeling I get when I'm on my knees and a guy is holding my head and fucking my mouth and throat like a pussy. I also enjoy the passive role when I'm on my hands and knees as my wife fucks my ass with her very big strapon dildo. In both situations I can experience the sensation of being penetrated by a cock. To know how it feels to have a cock pushing into and sliding in and out of my body and ejaculating inside me. I can enjoy both being the penetrator AND being the one penetrated. To be the semen recipient as well as the donor. I have NO desire to be abused or humiliated sexually, I don't want to wear woman's clothing, and I don't identify as a female while engaging in these activities. I enjoy the ROLE reversal, but I don't see it as a GENDER reversal. In this way, I can experience the pleasure that a woman might feel when engaging in sexual activities that I know that I enjoy from the male perspective. It's almost hypocritical to expect my partner to enjoy a role that I'm unwilling to experience and also enjoy .