Gender Divide - Curious

[Orurt]

I was thinking about how people explain to the other sex what something feels like. A girl may well believe that no man could understand what a period feels like.

Well, I don’t know what a broken bone feels like. But, I think with a bit of creative thought someone in a cast would be able to get pretty close to explaining what it is like for them. I guess it is not just a gender thing.

So, back to the divide between the sexes. I had a girlfriend who said her period felt like tooth ache in her stomach. There was another girl who said it was like being constipated. I have heard all sorts of examples. I was also told that it is not a sexual pain. Yet she was extremely horny at that time of the month and wanted to have sex.

So, the two questions are:

What different explanations have you heard, or said, as to what a period feels like?

How has an ejaculation been described?

 

[Chicklet]

Because a period and an ejaculation are so similar?

I'd say cramps feel like I've got a thousand little people with toothpicks trying to poke their way through my abdomen. It feels like when you eat bad food and you're going to be sick. The actual blood coming out feels like something gross oozing its way out of your body. It's not very fun. Like, when you have a cut, and you can sort of feel the blood coming out.

 

[Mr.G]

Huh?

Yourmessageiztooshort? Howzabout this:

HUH ?


"The actual blood coming out feels like something gross oozing its way out of your body. It's not very fun."

Not VERY ? But WHY ? I always thought ooozing vital bodily fluids to be a great thrill.

 

[Noira]

I was trying to describe it to my brother in terms a guy could understand.

So, have you ever had gas? Great, have you ever had gas CRAMPS? When the farts just DON'T COME OUT? It's like that, but higher up, spread out through your abdomen. Not in your butt so much as that sort of painful, grabbing and clenching bubbly pain, a ways under your stomach. Imagine your ankles and legs feeling like someone stuck an air pump up your butt and puffed you up a bit... bloated and thickly. The needles or toothachy description in the gut works all right. It's not quite as immediately pangy as the toothaches I've had, though...

It is a very, VERY non-sexual pain. That doesn't stop motherly hormones from making us want to have sex during that time of the month. In fact, masterbating helps the cramps... ><

As for the blood... not fun but it's usually not heavy enough for me to notice any more than the cramps. Pads scratch at the side of your leg a bit and by the end sometimes I have a bit of a diaper rash on the inside of my legs, and I find tampons painfully noticable and won't use them unless necessary. But yeah, I don't USUALLY notice the blood, but when I do, it's kind of like... umm... when you get something in the back of your throat, like a layer of mucus, and you can't hack it out and it's stuck there, drooling down the back, and it WON'T GO AWAY.

That's what a period is like. But in your groin.

Periods and ejectulation... so not the same thing. Now let's hear a guy describe, thanks...

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Oscar Wilde wrote that "Writing about music is like dancing about architecture."

Some things just don't translate.

 

[Orurt]

Ejaculation feeling the same as orgasm?

Chicklet said "Because a period and an ejaculation are so similar?"

Beg pardon! I can't have put it clearly enough.

What I meant was just like it is difficult for a girl to get a guy to understand what a period is like, it is probably just as hard for a guy to adequately describe what an ejacualtion is like.

I would try to describe an ejaculation as being a bit like preventing one's self from peeing and then letting it go with a woosh, only doing it in rapid succession. And then, swiftly going limp all over - as well as the penis.

 

[dave's thing]

Oscar Wilde wrote that "Writing about music is like dancing about architecture."

Some things just don't translate.

I tried to imagine where this thread was gonna go and I think what VD said sums it about right.

 

[where]

It is a very, VERY non-sexual pain. That doesn't stop motherly hormones from making us want to have sex during that time of the month. In fact, masterbating helps the cramps... ><

*nods* I yearn for a man who is into menstrual sex.

 

[Etaski]

What different explanations have you heard, or said, as to what a period feels like?

......gee, I've never heard a male ask before. I tend to be a little too forthcoming with information (medical family; talking about a lot of bodily functions doesn't phase us at the dinner table), so most of the time I hear, "TMI!"

Good timing; I was just thinking about it at work today. The way I see menstrual cramps:

Testes and ovaries come from the same cell development; very similar organs, just one set it external and the other internal. They both produce the gametes, though (the cells with half your DNA, ready to be combined with another!). I've been jabbed in an ovary with a phallus during sex before (OWTCH!!! ), and I've been told it's probably the closest I'll ever experience to being kicked in the balls--but not as bad, because I still had some padding to protect it.

So...with that basis, imagine each teste resting inside your body near each hip, toward the front, framing your bladder. Now imagine someone constantly poking and prodding and maybe squeezing your testes from inside your body for a couple days. It's distracting when it's mild, downright miserable when it's strong. It can also cause lower back aches as well, like you've been lifting heavy stuff the wrong way for a whole day. Helllloooooo, Advil!

As for all "oozing" fluids being thrilling....not to me, not really. It's thrilling when it's only a tablespoon or so of spunk; it's part of the afterglow. It'll ooze out once and then you clean up.

But when it's tablespoon after tablespoon at irregular intervals suddenly gushing out, making a mess, causing an odor when oxygenated, staining clothes (and furniture if you're really unlucky!), and you're cleaning up *something* about every 4-6 hours, it really gets old by the second day as you're trying to get stuff done during the course of a day, and certainly not in a lazy afterglow.... And yeah, I agree with Noira...the "diaper rash" thing near the end sucks.

Althugh I get horny on my period, too...more shower sex and blowjobs during that time (not looking for more clean-up on top of what I already have to do!)

 

[thetwolezz]

The shit hurts, that's all ya need to know.

 

[Noira]

Horniness over my period just means long showers... >.> Because it does make a bloody mess to clean up. In both ways to use bloody. XP

Etaski, you get the TMI thing too? I don't study medical proceedures or anything, but I am a geek and I love blathering. With my close friends, we have no such thing as TMI. If we've had particularly interesting vomit or interestingly strange cramps or weird bowel movements or urine--that's not stopping us from describing them in detail to each other. >< It's so depressing when people scream TMI. Vomit is FACINATING! (coughs) Ahem. Well, it is.

It bothers most people, though. But not me. You had a good description going on there. And glad to know I'm not the only one who gets that 'diaper rash' effect. XP My period's not that heavy, though... clothing gets stained, my poor pajamas... but I can usually wear one pad all day, then change at night and again in the morning.