Shankara20
Well, that is lovely
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Top/bottom DomDomme/sub Master/slave Daddy/girl-boy GLBT-Streight
We have discussed, and occasionally argued, the meaning of these terms and how we each manifest them in our lives.
IMHO these are all rolls we, more-or-less, choose to accept. Some accept the rolls with deep convection and some are rather loose and slippery about it. As a bisexual switch I am one of the loose and slippery ones.
To me gender has aspects of accepting rolls as well, although the choosing is made more difficult by the plumbing one is born with as well as how the culture you were born into defines those rolls. When posting here I very seldom use the words "man" or "woman" - I tend to use "male" and "female" and I know when I do that I might be discounting those of us that are trans and intersexed here - I wish I knew language that did not do that.
I do not use "man" and "woman" because I honestly do not know what defines them. I have friends with cocks and balls that present themselves as females, I have friends with vaginas that present as males.
So - gender bending. What do you do, if anything, to "bend" the rules of your societies gender rolls? And does it cost you anything in social acceptance? Do you give a poop? I see gender bending as different from sexual orientation - but that can be a factor as well, what do you thing?
Most here have seen pics of me in my panties - but that is safe for me, under my clothing and at home when alone. When I lived in San Francisco, on weekends I would wear red or pink fingernail polish and blouses, but not at work. Some here may remember a thread I started about going to BDSM events as a Top while dressed only in lace undies and high heals (landing a flogger is a bitch in heals). Now that I am back in Kansas about the only thing I do is wear colored earrings, hug other males, cry in public at times, and say thinks like "guess I was wrong about that" or "I'm sorry" - things a "real man" would not say 'round here. (I have a real fear that my 11 and 7 year old grandsons will see me in one of my dresses but that is fodder for a discussion at another time)
Are you a gender bender?
We have discussed, and occasionally argued, the meaning of these terms and how we each manifest them in our lives.
IMHO these are all rolls we, more-or-less, choose to accept. Some accept the rolls with deep convection and some are rather loose and slippery about it. As a bisexual switch I am one of the loose and slippery ones.
To me gender has aspects of accepting rolls as well, although the choosing is made more difficult by the plumbing one is born with as well as how the culture you were born into defines those rolls. When posting here I very seldom use the words "man" or "woman" - I tend to use "male" and "female" and I know when I do that I might be discounting those of us that are trans and intersexed here - I wish I knew language that did not do that.
I do not use "man" and "woman" because I honestly do not know what defines them. I have friends with cocks and balls that present themselves as females, I have friends with vaginas that present as males.
So - gender bending. What do you do, if anything, to "bend" the rules of your societies gender rolls? And does it cost you anything in social acceptance? Do you give a poop? I see gender bending as different from sexual orientation - but that can be a factor as well, what do you thing?
Most here have seen pics of me in my panties - but that is safe for me, under my clothing and at home when alone. When I lived in San Francisco, on weekends I would wear red or pink fingernail polish and blouses, but not at work. Some here may remember a thread I started about going to BDSM events as a Top while dressed only in lace undies and high heals (landing a flogger is a bitch in heals). Now that I am back in Kansas about the only thing I do is wear colored earrings, hug other males, cry in public at times, and say thinks like "guess I was wrong about that" or "I'm sorry" - things a "real man" would not say 'round here. (I have a real fear that my 11 and 7 year old grandsons will see me in one of my dresses but that is fodder for a discussion at another time)
Are you a gender bender?