Gender and Feedback

[SexySoBeChick]

Inspired by my own reader feedback, I began wondering if there was a general difference in the tone and content of feedback received by female writers on Literotica as opposed to that received by male writers.

Do you guys just receive impersonal critiques on your writing--or feedback from readers who are looking to get more intimate? Do you just receive slaps on back for writing hot, sexy stories--or propositions?

Or are only the ladies lucky enough to receive come-ons from aroused readers?

Curiosity running wild,
SexySoBeChick

P.S. My most recent piece of feedback can be read on this thread.

 

[pop_54]

Nopers

I feel it's only the girls who get chatted up in feedback, all of mine just either says, 'Nice story, I enjoyed it'

Or: 'You should be locked up you sick bastard'

Honestly never had a hint of sexual or even over friendly comment in a feedback yet

 

[Guest]

Re: Nopers

I feel it's only the girls who get chatted up in feedback, all of mine just either says, 'Nice story, I enjoyed it'

Or: 'You should be locked up you sick bastard'

Honestly never had a hint of sexual or even over friendly comment in a feedback yet

Never?


How about "I would enjoy being locked up with you, you sick bastard?"

 

[pop_54]

Re: Re: Nopers

Never?


How about "I would enjoy being locked up with you, you sick bastard?"

 

[Jenny _S]

Re: Nopers

I feel it's only the girls who get chatted up in feedback, all of mine just either says, 'Nice story, I enjoyed it'

Or: 'You should be locked up you sick bastard'

Honestly never had a hint of sexual or even over friendly comment in a feedback yet

I keep reading this threads about feedback. Of all 156 feedback messages I've gotten there have been two from women the rest from men. of the male responses 142 of them just wanted to say, "Liked your story and I want to stick my tongue up your ass." What's the deal?

 

[curious2c]

I have gotten feedback from women and men, probably mostly men. I have had some of the readers assume that I was a woman, some assume that I wrote a true to life happening to me personally...(WOW) and some that think I need to be 'looked after' whatever they meant I am not sure it was a good thing.

My feedback is generally equal comments, and some go so far as to let me know exactly why they like my story or why not.

The real negative feedback tends to be because the reader seems to have gotten wrapped up in the story and feel like they are a part of it I guess...I have gotten some pretty harsh comments about what they would have done with or to the characters in quesiton.


All in all...for me any feedback is great. It lets me know or have an inkling of, how I am doing out there.

 

[Dirty Slut]

I mostly get hit on, but...

there are quite a few that really like the stories. I just wish they'd say what it was about the stories that got them so turned on. LOL

DS

 

[KillerMuffin]

While my name has "muffin" in it, it's not an overtly feminine name. Nor is it particularly sexy or sexualized. I think a user name, biography, and any pics offered give the reader an impression on one's availability for sex.

I think mine says "no" pretty well these days. I haven't had an offer to extracurricular sex of any sort in over a year. Which is actually nice because the StudMuffin gets into my email every once in a while and he blows a head gasket when people are disrespectful toward me. Blech.

What did he expect? I write smut.

I do think sexy presented women will get the lion's share of sexy feedback. That's just based on all of the feedback bragging that I've seen on this board in the past three years.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Apart from a few racistic morons, who apparently get a kick out of reading interracial ses stories just to be enraged, and then write me messages telling me that there is something wrong with my moral since I have a lover whose skin has a much darker color than my own;

I usually receive very nice and friendly feedback from couples who tell me that they like to read my stories together and get in the mood for some lovemaking, or from men (mostly) who say that they like my stories very much, and get very aroused from reading them.

Mission accomplished.



PS!) The nicest, sweetest feedback I have EVER received, was from a woman who said that one of the nicest things she does on Lit, is to read my stories, and shesaid that:

you make accessing this site fun to do when i see one of your new submissions

I was so happy, it felt as if something really, really warm and gooey was filling up my throat.

No, not that, you pervert!

 

[TheEarl]

I agree with Svenska. The best feedback to get is from someone who reads all of your stories and says you're their favourite author on Lit. Only had one of them before, but it made me smile for the rest of the day.

I never get propositioned in feedback. What's wrong with all you women?

The Earl

 

[SexySoBeChick]

I do think sexy presented women will get the lion's share of sexy feedback. That's just based on all of the feedback bragging that I've seen on this board in the past three years.

So, what you're basically saying is that, given my pen name, I'm just asking for it. Okay, point taken. And I wouldn't say I was bragging. I thought the email I received yesterday was quite funny and thought I'd share. But you're right, I can see how the "sexy" name and story could be perceived as an open invitation to readers, particularly heterosexual male readers.

But my question was . . . do the men generate the same type of feedback?

For example, let's say there was a male writer named "SuperStud." If there really is a "SuperStud," pardon me for borrowing your name. Anyway, say "SuperStud" was heterosexual and single, according to his bio, and he wrote a hot story that really got the ladies turned on—does he then get barraged with frisky female fan mail? If not, why not?

Originally posted by TheEarl
I never get propositioned in feedback. What's wrong with all you women?

My point exactly. Why aren't women throwing themselves at TheEarl and pop_54?

Still wondering,
SSBC

 

[damppanties]

For example, let's say there was a male writer named "SuperStud." If there really is a "SuperStud," pardon me for borrowing your name. Anyway, say "SuperStud" was heterosexual and single, according to his bio, and he wrote a hot story that really got the ladies turned on—does he then get barraged with frisky female fan mail? If not, why not?



Why aren't women throwing themselves at TheEarl and pop_54?

Still wondering,
SSBC

Probably because the male ego says "I would be the best thing to happen to this woman who is (in his mind) just asking for it" and the practical fems go "Oh Please. He doesn't even know I exist apart from an e-mail address."

 

[Dirt Man]

I don't get these very often, but...

I got this one the other day:


This message contains feedback for: Dirt Man
This feedback was sent by: Deleted as per site regulations

Comments:

Hello D.M.;
I am a black female living in Illinois
who enjoys reading your work. Do you
correspond with your readers? If so, I
think I would like to hear from you. Even
though I am unattached at the moment, I am
not looking to "hook up" with you in any way,
mainly because it's just not something that
I do over the internet. I'm well educated
and (they tell me) very attractive, so I
don't have a problem making my "connections"
in person.

You are a writer. What topics do you write
about outside of erotica? A literate Black
man really turns me on...

You seem to write a lot about white women
and Black men. Are white women you personal
preference? If so, why? (No problem with
that-just curious.)

I like your emphasis on rough sex and anal
sex. Am I correct in assuming that those
are your favorite activities, as they are
mine? Could I impose on you and ask you
to write back to me, describing the roughest,
dirtiest anal sex experience you have ever
participated in? I imagine that you have a
black dick that could do a lot of damage to
my oh-so-willing asshole. I'd like to hear
about just how much pain/pleasure you could
give me...

Eagerly awaiting your response,
(Deleted by request)

I did write her a long reply, and just as I was about to send it my computer froze up. LOL Never did get around to rewriting it though. Oh well, I'm a one woman man anyway.

As Always
I Am the
Dirt Man

 

[Jenny _S]

So, what you're basically saying is that, given my pen name, I'm just asking for it. Okay, point taken. And I wouldn't say I was bragging. I thought the email I received yesterday was quite funny and thought I'd share. But you're right, I can see how the "sexy" name and story could be perceived as an open invitation to readers, particularly heterosexual male readers.

But my question was . . . do the men generate the same type of feedback?

For example, let's say there was a male writer named "SuperStud." If there really is a "SuperStud," pardon me for borrowing your name. Anyway, say "SuperStud" was heterosexual and single, according to his bio, and he wrote a hot story that really got the ladies turned on—does he then get barraged with frisky female fan mail? If not, why not?



My point exactly. Why aren't women throwing themselves at TheEarl and pop_54?

Still wondering,
SSBC

The problem, SSBC, from my point of view is that only a few percent of the member/readers on Lit ever write. The rest read to get turned on. If you have a hot pic in your profile or a suggestive sounding pen name they assume that you are the slut in the story. I can't say for anyone else but I am NOT in any of my stories. They are entirely fiction. The fact that I have a live-in G/F (which they would know if they ever read my thread) doesn't really stop them from choosing to misunderstand.

I've thought about it for a long time. I have found many of the comments I've gotten irritating. But at the same time I someone got so involved with the story that they actually believe it enough to make those comments, maybe I've done something right.

 

[TheEarl]

Probably because the male ego says "I would be the best thing to happen to this woman who is (in his mind) just asking for it" and the practical fems go "Oh Please. He doesn't even know I exist apart from an e-mail address."

That's the most accurate assessment I've heard on here for a while.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

The name, the AV, the story . . .

Many factors go into feedback, I'm sure, including what type of mood the reader is in at that particular moment.

I do get many wonderful comments about how they (the reader) enjoy my stories (and I receive quite a few from married couples).

I also get lots of lust-filled feedback, lots of "interesting" come-ons, the inevitable "can you send me naked pictures?" and other bits of joy and wisdom.

As a writer, I treasure the comments about my writings. The feedback concerning having sex with my AV makes me smile and roll my eyes.

When I send feedback (whenever I vote on a story I will send feedback, and if I can finish the story, I vote) unless I know the writer I really don't feel comfortable saying things such as, "God, your story made me so wet! I wanna fuck you! Please send me pictures of your hard cock!" (even if that may be true )

So my comments will usually stick to the story, the writing, the characters, although I will in a generic way respond to the sexiness of the work (saying things such as "fanning myself" and "wow, that is incredibly erotic!")

Strange, but true. No matter what smut I can write, I am just not comfortable sending that kind of feedback.

Geez, women are odd.

 

[Guest]

That's the most accurate assessment I've heard on here for a while. The Earl

Hurrah! An honest man (however young).

Thanks, lad.

Pear

 

[TheEarl]

Hurrah! An honest man (however young).

Thanks, lad.

Pear

I never said that I was included in that list. I've been reliably informed that I have the brain of a woman anyway.

I think I'd make a good lesbian .

The Earl

 

[Guest]

...I have the brain of a woman anyway.
I think I'd make a good lesbian .

Only if you had a mate with the brain of a man; which I do, so you'd have to get the operation, hahaha.

Oh, but I've got an overwhelmingly female heart.

Pear

 

[Sabledrake]

"Sabledrake" is a more masculine- than feminine-seeming handle. That, and some of my stories (particularly the Neglected Son series, which are from a male first person POV), often lead readers to presume I'm a guy. Which is fine by me ... the fewer requests for pictures of my tits, the happier we all are!

Sabledrake

 

[Never]

SexySoBeChick:
"For example, let's say there was a male writer named "SuperStud." If there really is a "SuperStud," pardon me for borrowing your name. Anyway, say "SuperStud" was heterosexual and single, according to his bio, and he wrote a hot story that really got the ladies turned on—does he then get barraged with frisky female fan mail? If not, why not?"


I'd also like to know what type of feedback SuperStud gets for his gay male stories.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I've been lucky to get more of the "good story, I liked it" variety, than the "I wanna tie you up and fuck you blind" variety, but I ended up taking a daddy/daughter story down because I was a bit intimidated by the volume and tone of feedback on that particular story.

I agree with a previous poster, that the good story people are frustrating because they rarely say WHY they liked it.

On the other hand, I've also gotten some great feedback that's opened up a longer dialogue. Several times I've gotten great criticism that has led to revising on particular pieces to make them better, and made me more aware of my particular "things", making me a better writer.

My major complaint with feedback is when the person emails I loved your story, but they clicked the button that sends feedback without telling you what story they're giving you feedback on. It would help not only to know why you liked my story, but which story you liked.

 

[KillerMuffin]

So, what you're basically saying is that, given my pen name, I'm just asking for it. Okay, point taken. And I wouldn't say I was bragging. I thought the email I received yesterday was quite funny and thought I'd share. But you're right, I can see how the "sexy" name and story could be perceived as an open invitation to readers, particularly heterosexual male readers.

But my question was . . . do the men generate the same type of feedback?

For example, let's say there was a male writer named "SuperStud." If there really is a "SuperStud," pardon me for borrowing your name. Anyway, say "SuperStud" was heterosexual and single, according to his bio, and he wrote a hot story that really got the ladies turned on—does he then get barraged with frisky female fan mail? If not, why not?



My point exactly. Why aren't women throwing themselves at TheEarl and pop_54?

Still wondering,
SSBC

No. What I'm basically saying is that sexily presented women will get the lion's share of attention. I'm not trying to say that it's an open invitation for them to hit on you. Only words directly to that effect are. It's just they way they prefer to perceive you because it heightens the sexual experience. And that's all they're here for. Sex.




[lecture mode]The "you" in the following is a generic you and not aimed at anyone specific and especially not intended to single out SexySoBeChick specifically.

There are a few simple facts about Literotica that a lot of writers overlook. People come here for sex. They prefer to assume that stories are based either on experience or on a fantasy that the writer wants to live out. Men are more likely to ask for pics of body parts than women are. You can see that in this thread. They are also more likely to send pick up lines disguised as feedback than women are.

It's a simple fact. If a man thinks you're sexy and prefers to think that you're interested in living out your stories, he's going to email you to see if he can be a part of that in some way. Pics, emails, cyber, or even meetings.

You are not on just another story site. You are on a sex site. Most of the people do not come here to find good reading material. They come here to find good jack/jill off material. If the writing is good, well bonus, bookmark that author and come back to him/her.

Something a lot of writers that come here seem to forget is that the reader is having sex with their writing. Lit is a lot like a nightclub in that respect. They are here looking for the writer who will get them off. Who gets the most overt and aggressive attention in that sort of an environment? Sexily presented women. It's not that it doesn't happen the other way, it's just that the lion's share goes from men to sexy women.

It's not a judgment. It's a fact of life. If they think you're sexy, they're going to hit on you. Why shouldn't they--in their minds? They just had sex with you.[/lecture mode]

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I get mail from men, women, and couples. In all, I think that perhaps 3-4% of all the feedback I have received, have been from someone (always single male) who says anything other than "liked your story".

I think the parts in my bio that says "Attached", and "me and my Hubby", etc, manage to scare off most flirts.

I'm the Good Girl of Lit. I usually get nice letters from nice people, single het males, single het females, single gay males, het couples; who like my stories.

Still no feedback from lesbian singles/couples, nor gay male couples.

*jotting down gay male couple plot bunny*

 

[fifty5]

But my question was . . . do the men generate the same type of feedback?

I'm a 'virgin' here, but...

1. I expect (no way genuine statistics are available, 'cos readers don't have to supply their gender, so guesses are the best one can hope for) that most readers are male.

2. The proportion of feedback seems very,very low. I've submitted 1 story (next submission being written), but have had over 17000 accesses, 40 votes, and 1 feedback (said he liked the story - http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=101427 - and explained why: "great story, especially using each person's own viewpoints.")

Leastways, It's actually an assumtion from the phrasing that the feedback writer was male - it was anonymous ...

Anyway, from that tiny sample (plus my own prejudice) I'd guess that the most common feedback witer is hetero-male.

If that's right, then that's who the chat-up lines are gonna come from...

As one that fits that description, I would like to be wrong (and get some propositions from UK women), but I ain't gonna hold my breath (particularly since 'fifty5' - even if not my story (to be stories) - is androgynous).