Gay turns bi?

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Hey guys, 24 year old man here, all my life I have had crushes here and there on girls, but could never become sexually attracted to them, and trust me I tried! I was, however, sexually attracted to men. About a year ago I accepted I was gay and came out to family and friends. I started dating and having sex and it was fantastic.

Over the past two months, however, I have slowly become obsessed with girls. It started out as a nagging thing here and then, but this past few weeks it has been ridiculous. All I think about is girls and getting with them, their tits, their pussies, busting on a chick, sticking my cock in between her tits, fucking her with a dress on, eating her out, it's absurd. I'd say my fantasies have been 80% about girls, and I started out about guys this morning, went from rock hard to flaccid, imagined fucking a girl and came instantly.

I almost always hear stories about men who started out straight and then became bi, and never the other way around. In fact, before these past few months I wasn't even sure I believed in bisexuality. Did anybody start gay and then start obsessing about women? Also, how did you (or how do you recommend I) start getting experience with girls? I really, really, really want to start having sex, but a 24 year old "virgin" (because I've only had sex with men) is not exactly a selling point...

Also, if this continues, I'm extremely nervous about the reverse "coming out". I am worried that everybody will view this as me going back into the closet. I am still going to give it several more months and at least wait until I have sex, just to make sure I'm not "bicurious".
 
Weeelll... For one thing, people change all the time. Some folk change in slightly smaller ways-- go from preferring blond guys to brunette guys. Or bears to twinks. Sometimes the preference changes are much much larger, as you are finding!

As far as meeting women now-- if you are at all cute, and if you have a few gay mannerisms, I think you'll find about a hundred women who are attracted to you and who will be thrilled to meet a bi guy. Honest!

BTW though, be aware that pussies smell different than cocks. A lot of gay men react badly to the pheremones at first. Try not to let your first reactions-- if the scent makes you wince-- make you feel like an oral failure with women. Use your fingers instead, and try again later, if you still want to. You can just say: "I'm just getting used to this."
 
I can second what Stella said in that I have always had a thing for bi guys that are really cute and a bit feminine. Masculine guys wearing my underwear? Not so much.
 
I can second what Stella said in that I have always had a thing for bi guys that are really cute and a bit feminine. Masculine guys wearing my underwear? Not so much.

Hmm I'm not really feminine acting at all though, although I do have some feminine interests. I was always more of the fraternity/sports guy who happened to be gay, and I took everybody by surprise when I came out. But it's an interesting angle, maybe I can play it up.
 
Hmm I'm not really feminine acting at all though, although I do have some feminine interests. I was always more of the fraternity/sports guy who happened to be gay, and I took everybody by surprise when I came out. But it's an interesting angle, maybe I can play it up.

The cute parts trumps most of the other things. :D
 
Hmm I'm not really feminine acting at all though, although I do have some feminine interests. I was always more of the fraternity/sports guy who happened to be gay, and I took everybody by surprise when I came out. But it's an interesting angle, maybe I can play it up.
Don't act "feminine" unless you really know what that is ;) And you don't need to wear women's frillies either. Straight women have a better idea of what being gay is, than straight men do-- you can trust them to get it. Just you know, ping their gaydar.
 
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