gay male sex and love

[sweetnpetite]

As a woman, I am challenged when it comes to writing a gay male story, and I don't particulary like a lot of what is written there so far.

I am convinced that there is more to gay male sex than anal sex. So please, tell me as a gay male, what are the things that you enjoy doing to your lover, and/or having him do to you. What really takes your breath away, be it romanitc or kinky or whatever.

2nd:
Would it be possible to write a hot erotic gay male story that didnt involve ANY anal or oral sex????

Thanks

 

[Cigan]

Hmmmm. Would it be possible to write a hot erotic gay male story that didn't involve ANY???? anal or oral sex? This is an interesting question, and the answer is yes, of course you could. Here's the thing though. I don't think a lot of gay men would read it. I think some would, but unfortunately we sort of get obsessed with the final act. (And I'm guilty of this as well, though sometimes I like to dwell on the buildup, depends on my mood). I don't think this is a gay thing, I think this is a guy thing. I've heard plenty of straight women complain about this trait in their straight boyfriends. Again this isn't every guy, just more than not.

I have to say, I would be intersted in a story that didn't have any anal or oral in it. I find the buildup in erotic stories to be the really intersting part. As far as what drives me wild in bed. I would have to say a lot of somewhat BDSM things. I'm not really into the dom sub aspect, but I like being tied up and played with. Long sessions of being played with. I once went a whole half hour where all my love did was lightly touch and play with various parts of my body. There was no actual sex involved, but I can't think of another time where I have ever been that sexually aroused. I like being flogged. Again not because of any dom sub thing, I just think it feels good. I also really really like erotic massage. With this one I really enjoy giving and recieving. It's just fun. I think you could write a really interesting mildly BDSM story, where there is a lot of BDSM play and then end with the "sub" pleasuring themselves as a performance for their master. It would be really really hot, and with proper sturcutre and buildup, it could be an excellent story with no actuall anal or oral, but maybe I'm hitting from left field here. No way to know for sure unless it's written.

 

[Queersetti]

As a woman, I am challenged when it comes to writing a gay male story, and I don't particulary like a lot of what is written there so far.

I am convinced that there is more to gay male sex than anal sex. So please, tell me as a gay male, what are the things that you enjoy doing to your lover, and/or having him do to you. What really takes your breath away, be it romanitc or kinky or whatever.

2nd:
Would it be possible to write a hot erotic gay male story that didnt involve ANY anal or oral sex????

Thanks

There are many gay men who get off with touch, there doesn't need to be any penetration, either oral or anal. Mutual masturbation is very popular, and if you wrote a story combining it with overall caressing and a lot of deep kissing, you could have a very hot story. Like anyone else, we like to be held, to be stroked, to be kissed.

Good luck with your story!

 

[thickspear]

Mi

 

[Netzach]

I'm a girl, but a fervent reader of retro boy SM smut. It turns me on. *shrug*

There's a lot of fucking, a lot of fucking and a lot of sucking. There are great textures and smells, moustaches, piss, leather and beer. Read some John Preston, you won't be bored.

If you don't want to do fuck and suck, you can always fetishize. Transfer all that sexual energy onto an object.

-- A guy is stuck at home with nothing but his absent lover's BVD's. What does he do with them? Sex can happen in flashback, or you could just write his paen to the way his buddy's dick fills them out, off to one side, twitching to hardness.

What makes it work is conflict, and tension and desire.

Just like in any other erotica. Smut is a play by play of two girls licking each other. Erotica is a trip into their interior monologues, a sense of insecurities, a story about how they got there, you know.

 

[Cigan]

This might not be the best source for content which will push gay men's buttons, but if you are interesting in writing gay male erotica for women to read (and there's a huge market for it), then I suggest zetsuai (Desperate Love) and Bronze. I also suggest Song of the Wind in the trees. Which is finally coming out on DVD!!! You have no idea how very very very happy I am bout my yaoiful beauties becoming procurable on DVD.

 

[Cigan]

This might not be the best source for content which will push gay men's buttons, but if you are interesting in writing gay male erotica for women to read (and there's a huge market for it), then I suggest zetsuai (Desperate Love) and Bronze. I also suggest Song of the Wind in the trees. Which is finally coming out on DVD!!! You have no idea how very very very happy I am bout my yaoiful beauties becoming procurable on DVD.

 

[sweetnpetite]

ok, well,- weather it has anal or oral or not, what other things do men like? What other things turn you on? I know women have little things that do it for them, little things like kissing our wrists or tugging on our hair or touching the sides of our face or vacuming (yes, I get turned on when a guy vacumes- or at least I used to when I lived alone. A guy doing my vacuming for me is just so sweet and unselfish that it turns me on)

Ok, so back to the guys. I'm pretty sure that you are all diffferent, so what are *your* turn-ons?

And thanks for all the help so far. Any chance those books are in the library

 

[sweetnpetite]

also, it would be cool to recomemd the best threads on this site for this type of information

Q. As a gay man do you prefer "suck me fuck me" or something more?

 

[stuntcock]

i love to suck, and then be gently taken in the ass

 

[Etoile]

I'm with Netzach - I enjoy gay male porn as much as (if not more than) regular het porn. (Oddly enough, I don't really like a lot of lesbian smut - I guess it's because many writers are too shy of butch/femme which is my favorite girl-girl dynamic.)

sweetnpetite, you might want to be ready to answer questions about why you wrote a gay male story. I get questions all the time about why a lesbian would write het smut, so I put an explanation in my profile.

 

[Queersetti]

ok, well,- weather it has anal or oral or not, what other things do men like? What other things turn you on? I know women have little things that do it for them, little things like kissing our wrists or tugging on our hair or touching the sides of our face or vacuming (yes, I get turned on when a guy vacumes- or at least I used to when I lived alone. A guy doing my vacuming for me is just so sweet and unselfish that it turns me on)

Ok, so back to the guys. I'm pretty sure that you are all diffferent, so what are *your* turn-ons?

And thanks for all the help so far. Any chance those books are in the library

I don't think there is a lot of difference between what turns me on about men and the sort of things that women find erotic, at least when we are talking about specifically sexual behaviors or attributes. (A guy vacuuming my floor would do nothing for me).

I do think that gay men probably tend a little more towards the raunchier aspects of sex and less towards the romantic, than women do, as a group, but it's still within the same scale, in my opinion.

One thing that I have learned over the years, that may be helpful to you, is that men who are more confident about their sexuality actually tend to be more receptive to the romantic aspects than men who are new to gay sexuality. I suspect that might be counter intuitive to women, but it's really common for men who are new to gay sex to be willing to engage in oral or anal sex and still be repulsed at the idea of kissing another man.

 

[Queersetti]

also, it would be cool to recomemd the best threads on this site for this type of information

Q. As a gay man do you prefer "suck me fuck me" or something more?

Not to be too blatant about plugging myself, but if you read my stories I've posted on Lit, you'll get a good idea of the balance of exposition and action that I prefer. I have gotten very good feedback, so I assume my preference is shared by many other readers.

 

[peachykeen]

I suspect that might be counter intuitive to women, but it's really common for men who are new to gay sex to be willing to engage in oral or anal sex and still be repulsed at the idea of kissing another man.

It is counterintuitive, but I do understand it. Kissing is, in its way, more intimate, and I can see why men who are 'new' in that way might not be able to handle it, but yet could engage in anal or oral. There is something about kissing, having another person face-to-face with you that makes it impossible to dissociate your 'self' from the action. You can watch yourself fuck/get fucked, you can watch someone going down on you/ watch the effect you are having on someone you are down on, but you can't have the same 'observational' viewpoint when you are kssing, you are in it and there is no pretense.