Gay Codes

[Thundercat]

Do gay's have kind of "signals" or "codes" they use to let people know they are also gay? I remember chatting with a gay guy who said that in the Mens bathroom, if the guy in the next stall sticks his foot into your stall it means he's gay and wants to play. Anyway, I'm bicurious and once I was at a rest stop on a family trip and in the next stall was a guy kind of grunting....first though....woah...what did you eat for lunch? LOL...then I was looking down and saw a shadow of his long cock and his hand jerking it......I was getting aroused....i wanted to stick my foot under the door but was too scared....plus my dad had walked in right as I left the stall so it was a good thing I didn't go through with it...lol

 

[Cigan]

Hmmm. Well I'm not really part of the cruising scene. Though I will need to remember that foot under the stall thing for future reference.

As for other signs, I know the general BDSM ones, but those are really exclusive to the gay communicty. Various colored scarves, or handcuffs attached at the hip. One hip means dom and the other means sub, I always forget which is which though. In general I think these are only used in BDSM clubs, and I don't know how much they are used any more, or if variations of them are also used in gay clubs.

 

[pinksateendream]

I like the robin's egg blue.....

Worn on Left Color Worn on Right


COMMON



Heavy S&M Top Black Heavy S&M Bottom
Bondage Top Grey Bondage Bottom
Fister Red Fistee
Golden Shower Top Yellow Golden Shower Bottom
Scat Top Brown Scat Bottom


LESS COMMON


Piercer Purple Piercee
Anal Sex, Top Dark Blue Anal Sex, Bottom
Wants Oral Sex Light Blue Expert at Oral Sex
Dildo User, Top Light Pink Dildo User, Bottom
Likes Drag Lavender In Drag
Uniform Top Olive Drab Uniform Bottom


UNCOMMON


Sixty-niner Robin's Egg Blue Sixty-niner
Genital Torturer Teal Blue Genital Torturee
Breast Torturer Dark Pink Breast Torturee
2-Handed Fister Dark Red 2-Handed Fistee
Likes Menstruating Women Maroon Is Menstruating Woman
Likes Navel Worship Mauve Navel Worshipper
Likes Armpit Worship Magenta Armpit Worshipper
Has 8" or More Mustard Size Queen
2 Looking for 1 Gold 1 Looking for 2
Anything Goes Orange Not Now, Thanks
Two Tons O'Fun Apricot Chubby Chaser
Foot Fetish Top Coral Shrimper
A Cowboy Rust His Horse
Spanker Fuschia Spankee
Dines off Tricks Lime Green Dinner Plate
Rimmer Beige Rimmee
Uncut Possessor Brown Lace Likes Uncut
Cut Possessor Brown Satin Likes Cut
Latex Fetish Top Charcoal Latex Fetish Bottom
Owns a Suit Gray Flannel Likes Men in Suits
Masturbate Me White Will Masturbate Both
Shaver Red/White Stripes Shavee
Likes Black Bottom Black/White Stripe Likes Black Top
Likes Latino Bottom Brown/White Stripe Likes Latino Top
Likes Oriental Bottom Yellow/White Stripe Likes Oriental Top
Likes White Bottom White Lace Likes White Top
Wears Boxer Shorts Paisley Likes Boxer Shorts
Star F*cker Silver Lame Star
Wants Muscleman Bottom Gold Lame Wants Muscleman Top
Has Tattoos Leopard Likes Tattoos
Smokes Cigars Tan Likes Cigars
Rubber/Mud, Top Wine Rubber/Mud, Bottom
Bartender Cocktail Napkin Bar Groupie
Tearoom Top Doily Tearoom Bottom
Cuddler Teddy Bear Cuddlee
Gives Oil Massages Handywipe Wears It Well
Rides a Motorcycle Chamois Likes Bikers
Outdoor Sex, Top Mosquito Netting Outdoor Sex, Bottom
Lover's Out, My Place OK Toothbrush Your Place ONLY


info from http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/hanky.html

 

[Etoile]

Those are all S&M codes, though. As for "codes" to let somebody know you're gay, I'd say keep your eyes open for rainbow jewelry, things like that. If you happen to be in an area with cars, the Human Rights Campaign sticker is a common gay logo that doesn't shout GAY GAY GAY in more conservative areas where that could make the driver a target for abuse - that is, it's safer to have that on your car than a rainbow, because most people don't know what it means. This is what the HRC logo looks like:
http://www.amanita.net/images/hrc80x80.gif

 

[sdedalus]

Has anyone ever seen anyone wearing a bi logo... like the double triangle or something else.... I think it may be more difficult to identify a bisexual person than some of the others.

 

[dark gable]

how DO you know?

Has anyone ever seen anyone wearing a bi logo... like the double triangle or something else.... I think it may be more difficult to identify a bisexual person than some of the others.

I think it has to be almost impossible to pick a bi-guy out of a crowd. Unless the person tells you there's no way to be sure. That brings me to my question:

There's a guy at work and rumors about bisexuality swirl around him, he's even subtley brought up the subject in private moments, BUT how do you find out for sure without seriously jeopardizing the entire budding friendship?

At a loss,
DG

 

[glamorilla]

Usually I'll just ask someone if they want to fool around. Not only can "signals" and the like lead to mixed signals they're kind of tacky~bandannas and keychains and the like tend to clash with everything~and i don't mean to offend. Do you really want to have sex with strangers in truck stops and rest areas? This isn't the early seventies anymore. Granted someone *can* lie about thier hiv status but at least in a bar or club or more social enviroment you get the chance to question your potential partner. it would be a shame to have all your future experiences cut short becouse of one moment of pleasure.

you seem young~i suggest looking into bi and gay clubs that function within your school or local campus ~it'll also help with your getting over being shy about your sexual orientation~you might meet a potentail lover,you might make a friend who can take those first steps out into the gay community with you and hopefully you'll learn you'll be able to choose who you want to sleep with instead of hanging around a potentially dangerous scene waiting for whatever to show up.

 

[Hooper_X]

There's a guy at work and rumors about bisexuality swirl around him, he's even subtley brought up the subject in private moments, BUT how do you find out for sure without seriously jeopardizing the entire budding friendship?

At a loss,
DG

I tend to avoid getting involved in office romances. But, if I was in that situation I'd invite him to my gym to work out, swim, play basketball, racket ball etc. Then we you two are in the locker room and shower together--naked--guage his reaction.

Also, if you are wrong, and there is some kind of misunderstanding, it won't have happened at the job.

 

[infinityoverzero]

Has anyone ever seen anyone wearing a bi logo... like the double triangle or something else.... I think it may be more difficult to identify a bisexual person than some of the others.

I've seen a bi pin before - it's a two-tone flag (like the Polish flag), with the top half blue and the bottom half pink (standing for different-sex attraction and same sex attraction, respectively). A band of purple (the colour for bi's, though don't wear it as a hankee in your pocket unless you like piercings ) runs through the border between the two colours, symbolizing our attraction for both.

I haven't seen many of these pins around Toronto (apparently all the rainbow stuff is produced locally, whereas the bi stuff has to be shipped in from the states). If you're looking for something like this in your area, best bet is to go to a store with rainbow stuff and ask - even if they don't have it, you'll at least start a demand for it.

 

[infinityoverzero]

Here's an example (found out that pink is on top, not blue - my mistake).

http://www.biflag.com/images/activism/BIPRIDEFLAG.GIF

 

[Etoile]

Check out http://bitheway.org/Graphics/ for more bi pride graphics.