Gathering words of encouragement for my recovering mentor

[SouthSkyEyes]

Dear writer ...

A dear friend, author, and my literary erotica mentor, continues with great courage to seek answers to, learn to live with what has been a litany of personal health challenges. I invite you, if you wish, to post here a very brief message, proposing at most one sentence or a single phrase, for DesertMoon, WHO KNOWS NOTHING OF THIS INITIATIVE.

I'll forward posts to her over the next few weeks, knowing she will find comfort and strength in affirmations / words of encouragement, especially from other authors.

In gratitude,

SouthSkyEyes

 

[shereads]

I keep looking at this thread to see if others as reluctant to post as I have been. Not knowing your friend, I'd be afraid of saying the wrong thing. Some people have a talent for comforting the ill; I just feel awkward, as I learned when I tried volunteering to visit AIDS patients. I couldn't make small talk with someone who was in pain, and a stranger to me. So I ended up confining my volunteer work to an animal shelter, where it's impossible to say the wrong thing and just being there makes everybody feel better.

Good luck to your friend. I'm just writing this so you wouldn't think it was being ignored. I know that's not the case. There are lovely, generous people here. Maybe someone will have something useful to post.

 

[Guest]

Thanks, ella, I felt as you did. South, I don't know you nor your friend/mentor either.

best to the both of you,

Perdita

 

[A7inchPhildo]

DesertMoon is not a member of Lit? In fact there are no members even close to this name. Surely you have a reason?
Maybe you placed the wrong name down?

May you be happy in all that you have done and can do. Any ailments are a burden no one wishes upon another. My best thoughts, and feelings to you in your time of need.

Phil

PS. This might be a lot more heart felt if I knew who or what I was writing for.

 

[Icingsugar]

Sure, I wish everyone on the planet good health and a happy life. But I can't help feeling a little confused. I don't know this person, and I don't know you who is asking for the wishes. So with all due respect, what does a buch of general, "best fortune, whoever you are" from a bunch of strangers mean to you and your friend?


/Ice

 

[niyah2]

From a nurse

As a nurse i know where requests like this come from. That desparation of anything positive from anyone that will help ease the pain of emotional challenges. I could do a thousand uplifting quotes or what not. Though I do not know you or your mentor I do know the challenge of health problems. All of my patients are strangers to me at first until I spend that time with them and get to know them as they travel in and out of my ward. To your mentor it is in god's hands or whatever higher being you believe in. Trust in it. And remember to live each day like tommorow you won't be around. Remember to say goodbye and I love you even after a fight. Most of all don't go a day without saying I am sorry because tommorow you may not be here to do that.

good luck to you and your mentor. my prayers are with you, here and her family.

niyah2

 

[English Lady]

I too understand the need to extend a hand out to anyone for anything positive. Do you have to know the ill person to feel the obvious pain of her friend in the original post of this thread?

Someone loves this person enough to start this thread and that for me is enough.



Southskyeyes I hold you and your dear friend Desertmoon in my thoughts and prayers. My God grant both peace and healing to your ill friend and support and understanding to yourself.

 

[whispering_surrender]

Everyone feels pain differently, but we all feel pain, both physical and mental. If somehow, our well-wishes eases yours, I wish you the very best. *hug*

Whisp

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Someone who is a mentor has to give a great deal of themselves. I sincerely hope everyting turns out well for you desertmoon. And for you southseaeyes.

-Colly

 

[SouthSkyEyes]

Responding to your posts above

shereads, perdita, '7inch', Icing', niyah2, EnglishLady, Whispering', Colleen' ...

I appreciate the thoughts, and the point well raised ... what to offer to a faceless person, by proxy, and why?

I certainly have little to offer you for formulating a judgment of me. I've chosen to veil my real name, primarily out of respect for my three young-adult children (and yes, I'd be embarassed if my parents discovered what I'm writing). Having joined Literotica.com just earier this month, two of my three initial submissions are not available to read, it appears they're stuck in Pending for reasons I am yet to understand.

DesertMoon, who I have come to know through correspondence over the past 16 months, has her own reasons for remaining anonymous.

If you're curious about DesertMoon drop me a note and I'll be pleased to forward you the url of her personal web site. You'll find a number of erotic writings there amongst her broad assortment of short delightful pieces.

I hesitated starting this thread, believing now it's possible my best intentions may have been a bit misdirected.

Know that I am humbled by your decision to have responded to what is admittedly a personal matter.

SouthSkyEyes

 

[Gary Chambers]

I feel the same way as Phil, Ice, Sher and Perdita but Sher's comment about communicating with AIDS victims made me stop and think. I had a good friend who died of AIDS, and because he was a friend we never had any problem communicating. Had that communication been limited to small talk conducted during a hospital visit, however, it would have become much harder. Now I have another friend who is in hospital with an illness that will almost certainly take her life one day, and I must go and visit her. I'm not looking forward to it. I'd rather we waited until she is released from this stay and we can go out horse riding or just share a drink somewhere. I know, however, that since hospital is so much a part of her life I must steel myself and make the visit for her. I can warm up on DesertMoon. It's easier from here, not because I don't know DesertMoon, but because I don't have to stand at someone's bedside pretending our conversation is anything but the formal social custom that hospital visits are. So DesertMoon, please accept my best wishes for a speedy and complete recovery, and thankyou for being someone I can say that to by email rather than going through the awkward ritual of a hospital visit.

 

[Guest]

Best wishes to you -

Having suffered through the recent death of a loved one I offer my heart-felt thoughts to you both.

(I don't know your situation, whether it is terminal, but I am assuming it is.)

Therefore, now is the time to speak your mind - do not leave things unsaid.

And some advice? Try to do things your mentor enjoys - movies, food, jokes, liquor, whatever. It won't matter with whatever medication - and Hospice is wonderful to work with.

Best wishes to you -

 

[SouthSkyEyes]

To all who offered a gift of words or though

Thank you ...

I'll leave it to Deb, my erotica mentor's own words below, to express her gratitude for the gift of your message offered last month.

If you are interested, drop me a brief PM for DesertMoon's web site URL.

Sincerely,

Sky'


" ... Thanks to you and your friends for the kind words. As I don't know where the thread came from, could you please thank them for me, let them know it did help."

Deb'
AKA DesertMoon

 

[Dirt Man]

What a lovely name, DessertMoon. It conjures up simple times, silent star speckled romantic sagebrush sunsets, and erotic dawns. And yet mostly it presumes an inner peace with all things heavenly, and here on earth. An assumption that tomorrow is but a moment waiting for our presence to fullfill its destiny. That God indeed does craddle each of us in his quiet smile. That we are all brothers, and sisters whose linage began in Eden. All of this and more, so much more do I see in such a name as DessertMoon...


As Always
I Am the
Dirt Man

 

[champagne1982]

I have volunteered on the wards. To everyone who dreads that hospital visit I only have one word to share with you, EMPATHY

Please don't let your feelings of inadequacy stop you from visiting someone who has no visitors. Just to see a human face that's not there to poke or prod or expect you to be cheerful and strong can be a relief to those who suffer. They don't ask you to alleviate their pain or even to comfort. They only ask that you confirm they are alive.

Good morning DesertMoon.

Another day begins,
Rising like all the others,
But in this beginning we
Start again.
Say 'I love you'
Always tell them 'I'm sorry'
And don't forget 'Goodbye'.

It seems wrong to say goodbye, there is a finality to it that we find hard to face. Without saying it, you pack yourself some bags to carry through out the rest of your life, though. Beware. You risk feeling the ugly pain of guilt the day that it becomes neccessary to step out of denial. Wouldn't it be easier to step out of it early and celebrate the time you have left to share?

 

[OldnotDead]

best wishes

For Desert Moon,

Nothing but the best of thoughts that any physical pain is alleviated through care and better health,
that any personal pain is reduced through the sharing with and caring of others,
that you personally experience the healing force of laughter when there seems to be so little to smile about,
that you learn from others and within yourself that all endings are also beginnings.

And most of all, that you find peace through enlightenment. You name represents the brightest of all night lights, the brilliant reflection of the sun into the dry night air that shows everything and hides nothing. Those who have lived in the desert know that when it sets, it is replace by the brightest of all life giving lights.

Whatever your troubles, whatever your pain, there are those that wish you well, without even knowing your name.

 

[SouthSkyEyes]

In gratitude

So that you know ...

DesertMoon sends her thanks:

"... thanks for all your kind words.
Though I have no idea why you are being so kind and attentive to a stranger! "

And from me ...

Blessings to each of you this day,

Sky'

 

[SouthSkyEyes]

Closure ... in gratitude for all the kind wishes and words

In sweet tearful memory of my dear cherished friend and mentor ?Desert Moon?

When I stand before the grandeur of Lake Superior,
With the glory of predawn spilling across the sky,
When the passion of the sun warms my nakedness,
And the wind dances wild with my hair,
When I fathom the mysteries of the infinite,
On a cool misty moonlit still night,
I shall behold the sweet gifts of knowing you, dear,
Blessed be in sweet peace my cherished friend.



Sky

The Erotic Journey

 

[angelicminx]

In sweet tearful memory of my dear cherished friend and mentor ?Desert Moon?

When I stand before the grandeur of Lake Superior,
With the glory of predawn spilling across the sky,
When the passion of the sun warms my nakedness,
And the wind dances wild with my hair,
When I fathom the mysteries of the infinite,
On a cool misty moonlit still night,
I shall behold the sweet gifts of knowing you, dear,
Blessed be in sweet peace my cherished friend.



Sky

The Erotic Journey

Oh, sweetheart! I am so sorry for your loss! I have just become a member myself and alas knew nothing of her plight! The world has lost an obviously caring and generous person. My thoughts are with you.

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* Sky

 

[Shadowskill Knight]

In sweet tearful memory of my dear cherished friend and mentor ?Desert Moon?

When I stand before the grandeur of Lake Superior,
With the glory of predawn spilling across the sky,
When the passion of the sun warms my nakedness,
And the wind dances wild with my hair,
When I fathom the mysteries of the infinite,
On a cool misty moonlit still night,
I shall behold the sweet gifts of knowing you, dear,
Blessed be in sweet peace my cherished friend.



Sky

The Erotic Journey

My thoughts are with you

 

[raphy]

*hugs*

Whisp and Raphy

 

[rgraham666]

So sorry for your loss.