gangbang

[Guest]

Just recently my wife told me that before we were married she had done some things which she was not proud of.She then told me that she had been gangbanged at least 5 times she said she was either tricked or drunk when the guys got her.Trouble is now I want to see her do it again but I don't think she would be in it anyone else been in this situation or got any ideas or thoughts.

 

[Different Guy]

Perhaps bring up the topic of it and ask her why she is not proud of it. Talk with her and say that you don't see anything wrong with and maybe even say you wish you could do it with her...?

 

[ag2507]

5 times? Once maybe. If this is a fantasy of yours approach it from that point of view. She clearly is not sure of you on this subject so reassurance is important. What you need to be really clear about is whether she sees you as a new life. If that's the case she won't appreciate your taking her back to her old one. In the end your marriage is about trust: her trust of you and vice versa.

 

[Snork Maiden]

...she had done some things which she was not proud of.....she said she was either tricked or drunk when the guys got her.

I think she has said it all. She clearly isn't happy about what she has done or what has been done to her in the past.

She has confided her past with you because she probably feels she can trust you and that she wants to get things out in the open. It can be a terrible strain and painful to hide guilt especially when things that have happened, have been beyond your control.

Think of it like this. Many abused women don't admit the abuse or reveal their abusers for many different reasons. The pain they conceal can affect the way they react to others, especially people who are close to them.

She clearly wasn't in control of the situation if she was tricked or drunk. My advice to you is to be honored that your wife has the trust in you and your relationship to be able to admit these things. Be supportive of her. She clearly isn't interested in being the village pump for a gang of men, she chose to be married to a single person. She is looking for security and you should be proud that she chose you to provide it.

As with most fantasies, being gangbanged is probably more a male fantasy then a womens. I will quantify that. A higher percentage of men fantasize about participating in or watching a gangbang than women.

It sounds to me like you need to rediscover each other, you are heading into uncharted waters if you start looking for sexual pleasures and fantasies outside your own marriage.

SnorkMaiden


I just wanted to add -

You say you want to see her gangbanged - but have you thought about how you will feel afterwards. How will you view your wife if you see see her getting extreme pleasure from a group of men.
How will your wife feel about you ?. Will she enjoy it so much that she turns to the group for sex and you get excluded completely. It does happen you know. Just a thought.

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

Re: Re: gangbang

I think she has said it all. She clearly isn't happy about what she has done or what has been done to her in the past.

She has confided her past with you because she probably feels she can trust you and that she wants to get things out in the open. It can be a terrible strain and painful to hide guilt especially when things that have happened, have been beyond your control.

Think of it like this. Many abused women don't admit the abuse or reveal their abusers for many different reasons. The pain they conceal can affect the way they react to others, especially people who are close to them.

She clearly wasn't in control of the situation if she was tricked or drunk. My advice to you is to be honored that your wife has the trust in you and your relationship to be able to admit these things. Be supportive of her. She clearly isn't interested in being the village pump for a gang of men, she chose to be married to a single person. She is looking for security and you should be proud that she chose you to provide it.

As with most fantasies, being gangbanged is probably more a male fantasy then a womens. I will quantify that. A higher percentage of men fantasize about participating in or watching a gangbang than women.

It sounds to me like you need to rediscover each other, you are heading into uncharted waters if you start looking for sexual pleasures and fantasies outside your own marriage.

SnorkMaiden


I just wanted to add -

You say you want to see her gangbanged - but have you thought about how you will feel afterwards. How will you view your wife if you see see her getting extreme pleasure from a group of men.
How will your wife feel about you ?. Will she enjoy it so much that she turns to the group for sex and you get excluded completely. It does happen you know. Just a thought.

A very good comment you made there SM. I think you summed it up nicely.
I agree - think carefully before you jump down that road. You 'may' regret it afterwards, and then its too late...

 

[sail away]

I think I agree with everyone. A marriage is real life, not a fantasy. Any relationship, from casual friends to a marriage, is based on honesty, trust and communication.

I think your wife is showing her trust in you by talking about her past. Just think how she would feel if you told her that you want to see her getting gang banged again. Is it relay worth possibly jeopardizing you marriage?

 

[SilverVeil]

For a fantasy to really work for both people, then both people have to want to be involved in it.

One partner who is doing it only for the sake of the other can possibly lead to resentment later. ( eg. " I only did it cuz you wanted me to, I hated the whole thing. " And sometimes emotions you did not realize you had can rear their ugly heads.

 

[Guest]

Well I have talked to her about it some more, she wanted to see my reaction it turns out she was a willing player in all this.The one she wasn't proud of was when she was gangbanged at the local creek in full view of everyone that was around. So I told her that I would like to see her do it again and she said she could do that but we are unsure how to go about it.We thought we might go to another city and find a club or a private party somewhere.Anyone else been in this situation with any ideas?

 

[Snork Maiden]

A few observations..

If what you say is an honest representation of your wifes feelings I would say she is unhappy with her current sexual situation. I say that based on my emotions.

Being happily involved in a relationship I can't even imagine wanting to be with anyone other than my partner and I would hope his feelings are the same about me.

You seem to be searching for some kind of goal, is it to prove to yourself that you don't mind sharing your wife with other men? Is it a fantasy to see her being loved by other men? Or something else. What ever it is it seems that it is something that you are not happy about with your wife.

It is the fact that it is your wife being used this way that is principle thing. A some form of control or domination that you are trying to exert on her or something that you want to be able to hold against her in the future? or for her to degrade herself in front of you.

Don't fool yourself into thinking that she is doing this for you, she isn't. If she does go through with it, it she'll do it for herself since she is ultimately the one that has the power to agree or not and if she enjoys it well, it won't be a one of occurance, she be looking for more exciting action than she is able to get at home.

Believe me, if you ask her if she would mind you finding 3 or 4 women to spend the night with and she say sure go ahead, you know there is something going on in her head. Hell this might be just the tip of the iceberg.

I think if you guys go down this road you'll lose more than you will gain or at least one of you will.

SM

 

[Softly]

You will enjoy watching.

There are several advantages, for the woman, in being "Gang Banged," as you call it.

She does not have to worry about hurrying her orgasm so that she can have one before the man goes soft.

She will have stronger, and more orgasms, because the men on her will thrust hard and fast for a long time.

She does not have to play a date roll with the men.

She has no obligation to any one man, except her husband, who is there, a fact not lost on the other men.

For the husband. She is not looking for love, as in an affair.

It is extremly erotic, I am told by my husband, to watch.

If you are crafty about hiding your true identity, the only contact with you is throught an e-mail address, which you can control.

Gang Bangs are easy to arrange. In Montreal, there is a club called "Les Libertins." (I can send to you their site, if you are interested.) They have GBs three nights a week.
The cost to get in, for a couple, is $25.00. The cost for single men is $105.00. FYI, sex is open in Quebec, with prostition being legal, so the authorties pay no attention to the swingers.

Should you go there, you and your wife would be in a large lounge area. You would pick out the men that interest you and ask them if they are interested. All would gather before going to the room to outline the woman's limits.

Play time. There is nothing like it. Replace loving sex with your husband? No. Want it often? No. Two or three times a year?
Oh, yes!

Let your wife read this. Ask her if she agrees with this.

 

[Wolf_Song]

Stop and think about things..

"First she was drunk and tricked then was a willing participant."

Two different stories and you sir are being played or tested in your relationship. Not only that you are a willing participant with this game she has initiated. Sounds as the ole communication, trust, love and many more issues are at play in your marriage.

Get counselling for both of yourselves as what you are about to embark on if go for this unhealthy fantasy is ultimately proving that your relationship isnt fulfilling and long term isnt going any where. The point of the matter is that you are unable to satisfy each other fully in intimacy and more as things currently are. And no matter how one looks at things she has gone through trauma that made her wish to do this in the past and present. Though the choices are ultimately yours and hers as individuals and together.

And how about this for a thought.. what if she gets pregnant during this gang bang ? Children dont decide their parents.