Funny how quick the milk turns sour...

[scheherazade_79]

I'll make this as short and to the point as I can, and let you drawn your own conclusions.


Recently I started dating a girl. It wasn't one of those true love at first sight things, because she's not the type I'd normally go for. But as time wore on and I started getting to know her a bit better, I came to the conclusion that maybe it was one of those slow, steady romances.

One night, however, she started acting weird - really cold, disappearing for ages on end and letting her roomies entertain me etc.

She sent me an sms the next day saying that we needed to meet up for a talk. I sent her one back saying that she didn't have to put herself through "The Talk" because I picked up on the rejection vibes the previous night. Her response was that she really didn't want to do it this way, but we were great as friends but not as partners.

The next day I received an email -

Hi Kate

About my decision, sorry and all, I know that sounds feble, but I can only be honest, you have done nothing wrong etc, dont go away from all of this thinking that at the very least.

Sam

So friends it was, and a few days later I sent her quite a long email, filling her in on what was going on in my life, and saying that I was still glad I met her and have her as a friend, because she's a really great person.

The response was as follows -

Hey Kate

Congratulations on your new car, sounds like you have a good deal there, see worth waiting for!

Sam

I didn't reply to it. I couldn't be arsed. So I let things simmer for a week until she sent me another email asking how I was. I softened a bit, got paranoid that maybe I'd fallen into a pout over the whole thing, and sent her one back explaining how I hadn't replied to her previous mail because I figured we both needed a little bit of space.

She wrote back -

Well thats cool about the email thing, yes initially space is needed but the odd email here and there isn't a problem at all.

So the odd email here and there isn't a problem? Well she can stick her emails up the one place in Wales where the sun never EVER shines

My question is this - what now?

a) Just let the thing drop and don't bother contacting her again.
b) Write an email explaining my intentions and stating exactly why, using the line I just quoted above.
c) Send another polite one back?
d) Other

All suggestions gratefully received

Scheherazade_79

 

[sheilassecret]

I would just let it drop. Hopefully someone much better suited to you will come your way soon. *sending you happy good luck vibes*

 

[lil_elvis]

Let it go. Sounds like she's only interested in you when it suits her convenience and even then it doesn't look like she wants to let you into her life, even as "just a friend."

Spend your time and energy on those who reciprocate.

 

[Guest]

Yeah, A--let it drop.

Then hope the next time you're with some gorgeous and you both can't help but glow and beam in one another's company--you run into this person on the street.

Let her wonder what a great person she missed out on.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Let it drop. It's just not worth it. You'll feel better.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Yeah, thanks folks. That's what I was inclined to do, but I feel better about doing it now that I've heard you lot all tell me the same thing.

Thank you!

 

[elsol]

You let her out of the "The Talk".

But watching them squirm is SOOOO much fun!!! Especially if you can fake the

a) So happy to finally be spending time with you look
b) This is a complete shock to me... I want to be with you so bad look
c) My puppy has just been run over by a car you were driving look

Come on... obviously, if you're going to let her out of 'The Talk' then you should do the gentlemanly thing and play the reply-reply game.

Reply to each of her emails until she stops.

ps. It helps if you don't leave unanswered points in your emails so she actually HAS to say something to keep it going.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[carsonshepherd]

letting it drop (also known as moving on) lets you keep your dignity

 

[NoJo]

John Scarne, the world's foremost authority on gambing, said of Poker

"A professional player folds early, folds often."

 

[Stella_Omega]

Write a story about her!
It's ALL grist for the mill...

 

[sincerely_helene]

John Scarne, the world's foremost authority on gambing, said of Poker

"A professional player folds early, folds often."

That's some good advice. Leave quickly after you poker.

 

[Black Tulip]

letting it drop (also known as moving on) lets you keep your dignity

Exactly.

 

[impressive]

You've no obligation to go down with (on) the ship. Bail (and good riddance).

 

[kendo1]

Move on seems like a good idea.

Come on then, there must be a story in there somewhere... please, please, please.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Just let it go. Sending the emotional e-mail just lets her know that you miss her, and makes it seem... well, less over, which for you it most certainly still is. Sending a polite e-mail is just keeping up the charade, and playing the game. It seems like you need separation, for a while, if not altogether.

Q_C

 

[Liar]

Or start to stalk her like dammit, just for the fuck of it.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Lol! Some of you lot can be well evil!

I hadn't considered turning it into a story, but it might be a good form of exorcism... I might give that a go later on

As it is though, I've decided to preserve my dignity. No more contact - I'm going to let this fizzle out.

Thank you for all the input

es to all

 

[cloudy]

Lol! Some of you lot can be well evil!

I hadn't considered turning it into a story, but it might be a good form of exorcism... I might give that a go later on

As it is though, I've decided to preserve my dignity. No more contact - I'm going to let this fizzle out.

Thank you for all the input

es to all

Remember that story I PM'd you about (partly set in Wales)? I killed off a very familiar character in the first part of it in an extremely grisly manner, and then emailed it out.....no explanation.

It was cathartic, but more than that, I laughed my ass off while I was writing it.

 

[cantdog]

Write a story about her!
It's ALL grist for the mill...

And it will be such fun to write!

 

[Guest]

And it will be such fun to write!

Or illustrate.



(And scheherazade - my thoughts echo those of everyone else here. Forget her. Don't answer any of her emails again. Ever. She's a thoughtless, uncaring human and will only cause you irritation and pain. Thank your lucky stars you hadn't gotten seriously involved with her before you discovered what a mess she is.)