Fucking an ex-

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Lord knows I think we all think about it.

But would any of you fine folks here seriously consider fucking an ex-lover? Obviously there was something there that made them and ex-lover, but is it worth it to go back and revisit that ol' familiar territory?? Can one actually get over the emotional pain if there was some inflicted in the break up to JUST have sex?
 
Hell no !

I dont even think about it, ever. I would probably get gastritis if I did.

He would probably love it though.
And the funniest thing is that my present one started to include my ex one in some of his group sex fantasies with me involved..... I said "get anyone else you may think of, but dont include him if you dont want me to be sick all over you". So he excluded him for good.
 
I've done it. And I know I'm not the only one. This activity has even earned itself a name among my group of friends, after the name of one friend who had done it.

However, I've only done it shortly after the breakup, when the feelings were still a bit blurry. Once, it ended up being even better than when we used to be together. Maybe it was because of the frustration, or because it was a bit forbidden ?
I also had an ex proposing for sex half a year after the breakup, but I was really not feeling like it at the time.
 
Lust Engine said:
Lord knows I think we all think about it.

But would any of you fine folks here seriously consider fucking an ex-lover? Obviously there was something there that made them and ex-lover, but is it worth it to go back and revisit that ol' familiar territory?? Can one actually get over the emotional pain if there was some inflicted in the break up to JUST have sex?


Nope. My exes are all jackasses and I left them for a reason. Dunno if they would enjoy it or not...one still calls me on my cell phone on my birthday after 2 years, breathes and hangs up.

See? I told you...jackasses
 
i have and as always, the sex was good. but there were reasons that relationship was doomed and the sex didn't change any of it.

ed
 
I have and in the past and it really turned out ugly after a few months. However depending on the ex I would go willinly into her arms.
 
There is a reason that this person is your ex. If you're considering going back for sex, are you sure that you can separate any emotional feelings that you once had for that person? Keep in mind, the other person may grow reattached to you if you do go back for sex. It's one of those things where you really should think about it.

If it were me, I think it all depends on why the breakup happened. I broke up with someone once under good circumstances and a few months later, we did have sex again. The only thing though, we were actually looking to getting back together. If we hadn't of been, then we wouldnt have had sex. Outside of that one time, I have not gone back to an ex for any reason, even to be friends. There was a distinct reason that they were made my ex, and that reason is enough to keep me away.
 
I would like to say, "No! Never!"
But I would be lying. I have covered this ground and although I regretted it almost immediately, it was worth the animal gratification. :)
 
Ex-Lover

Hell Yes! Why not?
A person who knows you and you know them.
You both are there just to have some hot sex. no commitments ect, as long you both keep it just sex it should be cool.
 
This probably doesn't quite count, but I have just one ex, so here goes. . .

The closest I've come to fucking an ex was when my ex-husband and I starting having sex again a few months after we separated. We were still married, so he wasn't technically an ex yet, but he'd been gone for a while. He never moved back in, but he'd drop by late on the weekends for what essentially amounted to booty calls.

The interesting thing was, my ex had been seeing this other woman since he'd moved out, and he didn't have the balls to break it off with her and try to save his marriage, though he kept saying he wanted to. Essentially, he was cheating on his girlfriend with his wife, as fucked up as that sounds.

Had I not been suffering from postpartum depression that was made worse by the separation, I wouldn't have put up with his behavior. But, as it was, my self-esteem had been beaten into the ground, and having sex with him only made it worse. I felt dirty afterward, but I'd convinced myself that this was the only way to save my marriage.

I finally summoned the strength to tell him that he needed to make a decision about our marriage. He dumped both his girlfriend and me and started seeing the woman that he's now married to. :rolleyes:

However, if the EXTREMELY unlikely event that my hubby and I split up, I'd fuck him again in a heartbeat because our sexual chemistry is really awesome. :D
 
cowboy911 said:
Hell Yes! Why not?
A person who knows you and you know them.
You both are there just to have some hot sex. no commitments ect, as long you both keep it just sex it should be cool.

I think this is where I'd have trouble now. It's been a long while since I've had unihibited sex for the sake of sex. There's been emotions tied in now. And to just have unbridled unemotional sex, no matter how taboo, hot or lurid it may be might be tough now.

Admittedly it does sound DAMN good at times.
 
I had sex with my first boyfriend after we split up - my first ex, I guess.

Sex was way better after we split than when we were together! I guess he (or we) didn't have any fear of hurting the other, or doing something the other would leave us for... He was my first, so don't laugh, but that's when we did our first fuck from behind!Thats why I think he lost his inhibitions: 'she's not my girlfriend anymore, I can fuck her any way I want!'...

The only ex I wouldn't still hook up with is that crazy, controlling, abusing one. I don't mind being controlled but by someone who knows what he's doing. He didn't.

So to answer your question, I would have sex with an ex without hesitation. All my breakups were done in a peaceful way, because we were looking for something else. I did the breakup though; would I react the same way if I had been dumped?
 
SlyKitten said:
I had sex with my first boyfriend after we split up - my first ex, I guess.

Sex was way better after we split than when we were together! I guess he (or we) didn't have any fear of hurting the other, or doing something the other would leave us for... He was my first, so don't laugh, but that's when we did our first fuck from behind!Thats why I think he lost his inhibitions: 'she's not my girlfriend anymore, I can fuck her any way I want!'...

The only ex I wouldn't still hook up with is that crazy, controlling, abusing one. I don't mind being controlled but by someone who knows what he's doing. He didn't.

So to answer your question, I would have sex with an ex without hesitation. All my breakups were done in a peaceful way, because we were looking for something else. I did the breakup though; would I react the same way if I had been dumped?

Admittedly I did it once after I broke up with an ex- too. Was it a little less inhibited... yeah, I'd say so. It was definitely different. And not meaning to be a bastard about it but it was suddenly more about ME getting off than her. Prior to this, I was hell bent on making sure she came in buckets but afterwards, it was like... "Hell, why shouldn't I be getting off?" I guess I had flipped the emotional deep caring switch off and kind of became a sex maniac.

To which it was somewhat exciting.
 
I have... And the sex was really good the first couple times... but then things got REALLY weird...

I don't think I'd ever do it again...

dlj
 
I used to date my ex-girlfriend once.
All of sudden, she called me after we split for several months.
I asked her out, we had great sexes while we were together.

It's very hard for us to get back the feeling when we met, it was getting better after I held her hand on the cab...
We went to a hotel, we took bath together, I gave her oral sex which I never gave anyone else, we both enjoyed a lot.

But I got some trouble when I took her to the bed, I couldn't get into mood, I couldn't penetrate her, our sex failed...
It sucked.

She never called me back again, we lost contact now.
 
i say abso-friggin-lutely NO way in hell !! First off the ex's of mine sucked in the sexual department ... and that was PART of the reason it was easy for me to leave them. Even if they were NOT lacking in that department, i wouldn't even think of fucking them ever again. It causes far too many complications, and possibilities for old issues resurfacing and being relived. That and the fact that neither wanted the relationship to end, would kill any such crazy thought i might be stupid enough to entertain. Just the thought of sex with either ex, makes me want to puke.
 
Admittedly I have always had that fantasy of bringing an ex- back to be the third person in a torrid threesome. But is that a guy thing in wanting to see a current SO getting it on with an ex-SO??? :confused: :D
 
Lust Engine said:
Admittedly I have always had that fantasy of bringing an ex- back to be the third person in a torrid threesome. But is that a guy thing in wanting to see a current SO getting it on with an ex-SO??? :confused: :D


I'd say so.......most guys have the threesome fantasy in some form or other...and to "insert known face and body here" is only reasonable...

Working too hard again, LE? ;)
 
australwind said:
I'd say so.......most guys have the threesome fantasy in some form or other...and to "insert known face and body here" is only reasonable...

Working too hard again, LE? ;)

Me? Work hard? HA!

Admittedly too hard. Dangit all.
 
LE Mate, the answer is yes.

She initiated the "reunion" , we did not part on completely great terms, but realised afterwards that we were better friends than bed partners. Also, our working lives were such that we never saw much of each other. We did not break-up due to porr sex life, just our work patterns as when we did have sexual realtions that were awesome.

The return fuck was excellent, as i would have expected. We still have the occassional get-together when we meet each other on our travels, never in our home town.
Ciao B
 
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