Fuck man, my 12 yr old got suspended.

[joeys-game]

My 12 year old son and his 11 year old girlfriend were on the playground, he was behind her and put his arms around her waist, some little girl..not even involved in their friendship decided this was wrong and kicked the poor kid in the nuts so hard, he went down, couldn't get up, cried in front of his friends and believe me, this is a kid that doesn't ever cry.
Then they suspended him for innapropriate touching..zero tolerance and all that shit.

His biggest fear when i had picked him up, met with the principal was said in tears.."do you think R.... mom will make her break up with me now?"

 

[slyc_willie]

Zero Tolerance: a bad policy put into place thanks to endless hordes of frivolous lawsuits begun by soulless lawyers and the easily-duped and tempted lackadaisical clients they represent.

I agree with Mark Twain: Let's kill all the lawyers.

 

[Liar]

Hmm. At least I hope there's also zero tolerance on assault.

 

[joeys-game]

Zero Tolerance: a bad policy put into place thanks to endless hordes of frivolous lawsuits begun by soulless lawyers and the easily-duped and tempted lackadaisical clients they represent.

I agree with Mark Twain: Let's kill all the lawyers.

i'm with you on that one...

I feel bad for him, he thinks he's done something terrible now!

 

[joeys-game]

Hmm. At least I hope there's also zero tolerance on assault.

they seem to be brushing that one away, well they won't be for long ..the fuckers!

 

[slyc_willie]

i'm with you on that one...

I feel bad for him, he thinks he's done something terrible now!

I learned to french-kiss in third grade. I held hands with my girlfriend in sixth grade as we walked down the school halls. We snuggled, kissed, cuddled in public and parents and teachers alike thought it was cute. Sweet and loving, even, in our own little way.

But that was back before the limited-brained began making life difficult for the rest of society. Before lawsuits became a household means of earning cheap money.

There are some aspects of capitalism I just can't stomach.

 

[joeys-game]

I learned to french-kiss in third grade. I held hands with my girlfriend in sixth grade as we walked down the school halls. We snuggled, kissed, cuddled in public and parents and teachers alike thought it was cute. Sweet and loving, even, in our own little way.

But that was back before the limited-brained began making life difficult for the rest of society. Before lawsuits became a household means of earning cheap money.

There are some aspects of capitalism I just can't stomach.

Yeah I did the same and had the same reaction, cute, harmless for the most part..an exploration of life with the inocence of tender years..and now this..makes me angry and sad at the same time.

 

[slyc_willie]

Yeah I did the same and had the same reaction, cute, harmless for the most part..an exploration of life with the inocence of tender years..and now this..makes me angry and sad at the same time.

The idea and value of innocence seems to be disappearing rapidly. When was the last time you heard anything like, 'Kids will be kids' ?

No, now it seems that within the heart of any thirteen-year-old boy who stares at a girl's breasts lurks the heart of a rapist, or molester. And watching avidly are the 'adults' who think they know better, yet conveniently forget what it was like to be young and curious.

Growing up, making the transition from child to adolescent, is a time when curiosities are indulged, and mistakes are made. It is the first step on the road to becoming an adult. The job of parents is to be there and explain the feelings that occur, to offer solace when needed. Not to turn around and blame the world at large because they did not feel adequate enough to own up to the task.

 

[joeys-game]

The idea and value of innocence seems to be disappearing rapidly. When was the last time you heard anything like, 'Kids will be kids' ?

No, now it seems that within the heart of any thirteen-year-old boy who stares at a girl's breasts lurks the heart of a rapist, or molester. And watching avidly are the 'adults' who think they know better, yet conveniently forget what it was like to be young and curious.

Growing up, making the transition from child to adolescent, is a time when curiosities are indulged, and mistakes are made. It is the first step on the road to becoming an adult. The job of parents is to be there and explain the feelings that occur, to offer solace when needed. Not to turn around and blame the world at large because they did not feel adequate enough to own up to the task.

I agree slyc 100 percent..and i'm doing my best but its difficul;t to explain to my son how society atlarge has viewed his heinous crime, and offer my support with out wanting to rip the head off somebody, coz when I look into his bright green eyes, and they fill with unshed tears, it breaks my fuckin heart.

 

[slyc_willie]

I agree slyc 100 percent..and i'm doing my best but its difficul;t to explain to my son how society atlarge has viewed his heinous crime, and offer my support with out wanting to rip the head off somebody, coz when I look into his bright green eyes, and they fill with unshed tears, it breaks my fuckin heart.

This is one of those times I wish I had a magic wand.

It used to be so easy being a kid. Now, it seems, they have to grow up more quickly. Innocence lasts only so long, before someone catches you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

are you going to make a complaint against the other girl for her own inappropriate contact with your son's testicles?

Damn, I hate this bullshit.

My kids have been very lucky-- they've grown up in puppy-piles, around other kids who were never told that it's bad to hug your friends. So very, very lucky.

 

[joeys-game]

This is one of those times I wish I had a magic wand.

It used to be so easy being a kid. Now, it seems, they have to grow up more quickly. Innocence lasts only so long, before someone catches you.

I wish I could have protected him better from this type of thing. Maybe i'm niave but i guess i never thought this was ever a possibiity, it just seems so ludicrous...at one point in my life, not too long ago, I shut off from society in general because of another ridiculous incident, i'd had enough ...but then I got my head together again, now I wonder what the fuck for..

but this isn't about me, its about him, so i will be a dad and step up, after all he can't step out now can he.

 

[slyc_willie]

I wish I could have protected him better from this type of thing. Maybe i'm niave but i guess i never thought this was ever a possibiity, it just seems so ludicrous...at one point in my life, not too long ago, I shut off from society in general because of another ridiculous incident, i'd had enough ...but then I got my head together again, now I wonder what the fuck for..

but this isn't about me, its about him, so i will be a dad and step up, after all he can't step out now can he.

It is ludicrous, but so many just can't see that. All they see is an opportunity. To make a statement, make a buck, whatever.

I wish we were all as lucky as Stella. But even such luck has its limits.

If and when I have kids again (my Lady and I have discussed this), we would prefer home-schooling for the most part. At the least, we know they would pass the requisite tests.

But I still fear how their actions, as innocent and curious they may be, would survive the tests of over-zealous, self-righteous parents and 'take a step back' school boards.

 

[joeys-game]

are you going to make a complaint against the other girl for her own inappropriate contact with your son's testicles?

Damn, I hate this bullshit.

My kids have been very lucky-- they've grown up in puppy-piles, around other kids who were never told that it's bad to hug your friends. So very, very lucky.

I have already yeah..I have to wonder where her head was at with this....

i wish it was that easdy..ive taught my sosn that there is no harm in contact too, obviously someone elses parents didn't do thier job.

 

[Weird Harold]

Hmm. At least I hope there's also zero tolerance on assault.

they seem to be brushing that one away, well they won't be for long ..the fuckers!

I certainly hope you haven't killed all the lawyers yet, because I'm pretty sure that you're going to need one to get the school to pay for your son's long-term therapy and college education. (Especially, if the little girl that kicked him gets way with battery.)

 

[starrkers]

I certainly hope you haven't killed all the lawyers yet, because I'm pretty sure that you're going to need one to get the school to pay for your son's long-term therapy and college education. (Especially, if the little girl that kicked him gets way with battery.)

They had better be taking a zero tolerance policy on that if it were my son! When cuddling gets you suspended and a kick in the cags is rewarded, it is time to make serious waves.

 

[Caitano]

You are a bunch of sexuality-tolerant people, you smut writers. Good for you!

 

[joeys-game]

I certainly hope you haven't killed all the lawyers yet, because I'm pretty sure that you're going to need one to get the school to pay for your son's long-term therapy and college education. (Especially, if the little girl that kicked him gets way with battery.)

i made sure at least one of em survived,,unless Liar got to him.
Yeah i know..this is the start , not the ending.

 

[joeys-game]

They had better be taking a zero tolerance policy on that if it were my son! When cuddling gets you suspended and a kick in the cags is rewarded, it is time to make serious waves.

Agreed, they and i have a little meet fist thing Mon already sceduled!

just need to keep myself in check till then..after all i know where said little girl lives, and have met her 'father' previously, or at least have made his aquaintance!

 

[joeys-game]

You are a bunch of sexuality-tolerant people, you smut writers. Good for you!

go figure eh..however sex didn't enter the pic as far as i can see.

 

[togitc]

Kids hug... Maybe they need to take a look at this little girl and why she reacted like that.

 

[joeys-game]

Kids hug... Maybe they need to take a look at this little girl and why she reacted like that.

well hopefully it will be a heads up for the school counsellor and she will look into it but at the moment i'm more concerned with what happened to my son..selfish maybe but hey..its my child and he got hurt

 

[starrkers]

Only right, but it might be better to take a more even handed approach.

I had an incident where my 9 year old daughter was almost stabbed by a classmate. The only reason she wasn't, was she had the presence of mind to run and hide. The first I heard about it was when my daughter arrived home from school.
I was told the boy involved would be suspended for three days and if my daughter didn't like trying to face him, SHE would have to change schools. Y
I was less than impressed. Had a meeting with the principal and it was agreed the boy wouldn't be returning any time soon, but my help was needed to get him help - he had obvious anger management issues, but, hell he was only 10! They were having trouble getting him placed in a special needs school. HIs background was tragic - he'd been to 7 schools. His mum was constantly having to move as the seriously abusive ex-husband found her. He'd found her again the night before.
By working with the principal I got what I wanted: the kid left the school (and he got the help he needed).

Just saying, be prepared to negotiate for the right outcome.

 

[rengadeirishman]

im very sorry to hear that. Its a damn shame, and reminds me unpleasently of my first high school. a fundamentalist nutjob run place, i went because my best friend in middle school was going and i, nor my parents, knew what i was getting into. His parents caught on quick and he left, but i stayed two years until i got in trouble for a combination of grades and public displays of affection. they finally were going to kick me out because i, and you all may want to sit down to hear the sheer horror of my crime, said st. michaels prayer out loud during prayer time and they found -gasp- a rosary and secular rock music in my possession. They called my parents in, who at first were angry because they thought it was something big, then they were told, and my parents were so utterly shocked that they had been brought in for something worthwhile so they pulled me out.

 

[joeys-game]

Only right, but it might be better to take a more even handed approach.

I had an incident where my 9 year old daughter was almost stabbed by a classmate. The only reason she wasn't, was she had the presence of mind to run and hide. The first I heard about it was when my daughter arrived home from school.
I was told the boy involved would be suspended for three days and if my daughter didn't like trying to face him, SHE would have to change schools. Y
I was less than impressed. Had a meeting with the principal and it was agreed the boy wouldn't be returning any time soon, but my help was needed to get him help - he had obvious anger management issues, but, hell he was only 10! They were having trouble getting him placed in a special needs school. HIs background was tragic - he'd been to 7 schools. His mum was constantly having to move as the seriously abusive ex-husband found her. He'd found her again the night before.
By working with the principal I got what I wanted: the kid left the school (and he got the help he needed).

Just saying, be prepared to negotiate for the right outcome.

Believe me , I hear you. My background is psychology based. I ran an alternative school for about 5 years, have been a therapeutic foster parent to 5 other 'difficult' (to put it mildly) children and have worked on and off the streets with gang affiliated youth..HOWEVER, I am angry at the moment and just venting..
I will do the right thing but I need a couple days to chill, you know?