Fuck buddies
- Thread starter bibphi
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Hi,
You didn't say if he was single or not...
But I guess he is a single...and every man gets horny from time to time...hehe
Seriously though, I don't think u should have major problems to have sexual experiences with him. Why don't u invite him over for a couple of drinks...try to find out what alcohol he likes.
If he doesn't drink alcohol, tell him about your fantasy...
Once again, I don't think that should be too difficult...give it some time.
You didn't say if he was single or not...
But I guess he is a single...and every man gets horny from time to time...hehe
Seriously though, I don't think u should have major problems to have sexual experiences with him. Why don't u invite him over for a couple of drinks...try to find out what alcohol he likes.
If he doesn't drink alcohol, tell him about your fantasy...
Once again, I don't think that should be too difficult...give it some time.
JUDO
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Okay, problems...
You live next door to this guy.
You have had conversations pertaining to sex.
His mind already has you in bed if he is at all attracted to you. But here's the issue: neither one of you is being honest with one another enough yet for your relationship to progress to some kind of agreement that you can trust.
If you really want this guy to be a "fuck buddy," have you thought about what it's going to be like on a night when you want some relief, but can't get any from the guy next door, because he's already got a date fucking him in his bed (oh yeah, and you get to listen to it 'cause it's next door).
Fuck buddies have to understand and believe in the ground rules. Ground rule number one: there is no relationship outside of sex. If there is, they are already more than a fuck buddy; they are a date.
The point is you have to be able to let the fuck buddy go and just use them when you need it with no attachments and that belief has to come from both partners in the agreement. If not, the whole thing can come crashing down in a pitiful scene and fight the first, second or third time one of the partners is fucking someone else.
You can be a little more cold-blooded, but you still have a problem. You can say to yourself, I don't give a crap about this guy but for his prick, so if he can't handle me fucking someone else, who cares? That's often a good way to approach the fuck buddy arrangement, but and here's the problem...YOU live next door to him.
Use the neighbor for advice. Find the fuck-buddy in another zip code.
- Judo
Okay, problems...
You live next door to this guy.
You have had conversations pertaining to sex.
His mind already has you in bed if he is at all attracted to you. But here's the issue: neither one of you is being honest with one another enough yet for your relationship to progress to some kind of agreement that you can trust.
If you really want this guy to be a "fuck buddy," have you thought about what it's going to be like on a night when you want some relief, but can't get any from the guy next door, because he's already got a date fucking him in his bed (oh yeah, and you get to listen to it 'cause it's next door).
Fuck buddies have to understand and believe in the ground rules. Ground rule number one: there is no relationship outside of sex. If there is, they are already more than a fuck buddy; they are a date.
The point is you have to be able to let the fuck buddy go and just use them when you need it with no attachments and that belief has to come from both partners in the agreement. If not, the whole thing can come crashing down in a pitiful scene and fight the first, second or third time one of the partners is fucking someone else.
You can be a little more cold-blooded, but you still have a problem. You can say to yourself, I don't give a crap about this guy but for his prick, so if he can't handle me fucking someone else, who cares? That's often a good way to approach the fuck buddy arrangement, but and here's the problem...YOU live next door to him.
Use the neighbor for advice. Find the fuck-buddy in another zip code.
- Judo
anthony999
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bibphi,
talk to him. you'll be pleasently surprised...i'll bet. being honest with him is the best thing you can do for you and your "buddy" to be. if he says no then you can move on. if he says yes then you're set. although he would be crazy to turn you down be ready for that.
-anthony
talk to him. you'll be pleasently surprised...i'll bet. being honest with him is the best thing you can do for you and your "buddy" to be. if he says no then you can move on. if he says yes then you're set. although he would be crazy to turn you down be ready for that.
-anthony
In my dreams I have hoped for a woman to say something similar to me. Never did happen.
However, more to the point. I had exactly the same thing happen. A grl next door to me in a townhouse complex and I became bed buddies. It didn't workout due her desire to become more involved. After we stopped seeing each other, it got really ugly. Picture beds back to back, separated by a single wall, her sleeping with a 357 magmum under a Pith helmet next to her bed, me sleeping downstairs on the couch for weeks after.
Judo's right. The first time I had another grl over after we had stopped seeing each other turned into a nightmare. (it had been about a month) The grl next door became a raving lunatic outside my door, in a blizzard, screaming, yelling and banging on my door and window.
But, with all that said, I do think you should tell him how you feel and what you want. I think he'll say yes also. Just don't expect it turn out the way to hope. Guys can get really possessive.
Good Luck
However, more to the point. I had exactly the same thing happen. A grl next door to me in a townhouse complex and I became bed buddies. It didn't workout due her desire to become more involved. After we stopped seeing each other, it got really ugly. Picture beds back to back, separated by a single wall, her sleeping with a 357 magmum under a Pith helmet next to her bed, me sleeping downstairs on the couch for weeks after.
Judo's right. The first time I had another grl over after we had stopped seeing each other turned into a nightmare. (it had been about a month) The grl next door became a raving lunatic outside my door, in a blizzard, screaming, yelling and banging on my door and window.
But, with all that said, I do think you should tell him how you feel and what you want. I think he'll say yes also. Just don't expect it turn out the way to hope. Guys can get really possessive.
Good Luck
hehe j/k 
